If you caught your significant other cross dressed in womens clothing, what would your reaction be? Would you consider revenge such as taking him outside in public
2007-10-10 04:39:54 · 15 answers · asked by girlygurl23 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Ok, been there indirectly. Yes, I was a bit freaked out, but I was more curious than upset. I would never put someone in the public eye for having a "thing" that I don't understand. (Now, if I caught you with someone else, then yeah.... you *** and piece of *** can and will be put out clothing or not.) I had to find out what the appeal was. And once I was able to wrap my mind and emotions around the situation, then I was able to see it for what it was. In my case, it is more of a sexual release than some sick crazy hobby. We talked about it and it actually was something added to our sex life. No, its not a regular daily thing, but it is there to be anticipated and enjoyed. You have to remember that there are all kinds of quirks that can enhance a tired and boring sex life. You just have to see what there is and set boundaries that are comfortable for everyone involved.
2007-10-10 05:23:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No matter what you do, you might not be able to humiliate him, but you should give it a try. Start by making him dress-up as a girl every night before Halloween & tell him that he needs to practice being a girl so you can take him to the Halloween party. Even make him wear lingerie under his regular clothes in the daytime, make him shave his legs & underarms, then take him to a salon & give him a full body wax, including his eyebrows, give him a manicure & pedicure too, tell him it's either french tips or long red nails. Make him spend as much time as you see fit being dressed up as a girl, but you should make him spend the whole weekend before Halloween as a girl, pre-party stuff, plus that week & make him spend the rest of the week & that weekend as a girl too. And you should make him go to work as a girl on Halloween & then take him out for a night on the town. Then you should wait until closing time or when you're ready to go and tell him that he needs to find her own ride home. You should meet him at the door and make sure he gives his ride a good night kiss & maybe a little bit more...
2007-10-10 18:45:01 · answer #2 · answered by J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Categorically no. This is a private matter that requires understanding about this phenomenon. Perhaps this person has suppressed this desire for years and is trying to come to terms with who and what he or she is. Perhaps this person is a transgender wishing to someday change genders, without further information on this person it is hard for me to tell you what is going on in his or her life. As far as taking him out in public against his wishes would be a very traumatic experience and should be handled very delicately. Love and respect this person for who and what he or she is, your support is vital and necessary, not to say you two cannot have a serious discussion about this that is necessary too but do not be overbearing or try to keep him or her in a stereotypical gender box because if you do it will be devastating and will affect him or her for the rest of that persons life.
2007-10-10 06:02:31 · answer #3 · answered by Erica B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never would i consider revenge.
I would ask him how often he did it. Why he did it. How long had he been doing it. I would try to understand his motivations for doing it.
He is exactly the same person he was before you knew.
The only thing that changed is you. So can you handle it?
2007-10-10 05:20:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes was caught by a co worker, she actually saw my ebay page where I was buying lots of shoes and clothes. She was a good sport about and even went shopping with me and we even went to a couple of bars together
2016-05-20 23:22:33 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm my first reaction would be shock but I'd be accepting and supportive of it.
2007-10-10 14:11:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That will never happen at my house. Neither one of us has any desire to even consider cross dressing for any reason.
2007-10-10 04:48:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would want them to be comfortable. If they want to experiement then why would that upset me? I love freedom of expression and that is just one of them.
2007-10-10 05:20:43 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Revenge would be a Spanking over my knee.
2007-10-10 04:43:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
If I caught MY 'significant other' wearing women's clothing, I wouldn't be fazed at all....she can wear whatever she chooses to wear.
:D
2007-10-10 07:42:53 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋