Im not talking clingy/stalkerish/vindictive behaviour...but isnt posessive and jealousy a good thing in a relationship?
I like it when my partner is a little jealous of the men I speak to - it shows he cares/loves me.
Also, when a guy is obviously hitting on me - my partner comes over and doesnt allow it to happen.
What do you think?
2007-10-10 04:36:08 · 18 answers · asked by Autumn 2012 3 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Somr of you obviously didnt understand my question..
I said ' a certain LEVEL of jealous'.
Everyone is possessive about anything they are attached to.
2007-10-10 04:52:15 · update #1
Jealousy is a natural reaction and emotion to these situations. It`s normal as long as you`re not winding him up and playing silly games, which isn`t fair. Wouldn`t you get jealous if a pretty girl made a play for him? If you would then you know how it feels, it`s an insecurity thing, present in most of us.
2007-10-10 04:46:40 · answer #1 · answered by *~STEVIE~* *~B~* 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-06 10:38:35 · answer #2 · answered by beliveau 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are headed for trouble. When your partner displays jealousy it does not mean he loves you. It means he is insecure and doesn't trust you to do the right thing.
I am a man and I speak true to you when I say: Don't take jealousy or posessiveness as a sign of love. There's insanity involved. Get away from it.
2007-10-10 04:48:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Love is not jealous. Period. Jealousy means distrust and insecurity and a need to grow up. Wanting to cause jealousy on your part shows insecurity in needing to put your partner to the test.
If a guy is hitting on you, your partner should feel secure enough to know that you will handle it on your own and that you will not give him reason to worry.
Healthy relationships are based on trust.
Not the answer you wanted, huh?
I understood your question fine. Jealousy, on ALL levels, shows insecurity and immaturity.
2007-10-10 04:45:57 · answer #4 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, any amount of posessiveness in my opinion is a bad thing. There are better ways of showing someone you love them.
My bf gets a kick of seeing someone try to chat me up and then knowing that he is going home with me, not the other bloke.
By being Possessive and jealous also in some way implies that he doesn't trust you as he thinks you are going to run off with the other bloke. Not a good thing.
2007-10-10 04:40:28 · answer #5 · answered by beanie 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I see what you mean. I don't think it's a jealousy/ possessiveness thing though. I look at it more like a desire to protect the relationship from intruders.
I do agree with you though, I like it when my guy gets his feathers ruffled when someone upsets me or offends me.
There was one time when he got into a fight b/c some creepy pervert grabbed my @ss. After he led me out of the bar, he went back in there to take care of business. It made me feel kind of good b/c it showed that he cared enough about me to defend me.
2007-10-10 04:48:28 · answer #6 · answered by Not quite perfect 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
These words today have strange meanings for a lot of people.
Jealousy and envy should not be linked together and when they are this is the main cause of confusion.
Jealousy is a natural feeling which occurs in all of us from time to time, it is the emotion which sticks us together.
(ie. you would not take any child home from school you only want your own)
Envy is the green monster which causes us to hate and steal.
So using the correct meaning of words, yes a certain level of jealousy and possessiveness is good for a relationship.
2007-10-10 04:45:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
thats sounds ok, I mean I would do the same thing. I dont want my guys spoutin off about some chick, unless I call her hott first. And I wouldnt talk about how hot a guy is.
I would pray that he save me from some weirdo hitting on me
2007-10-10 04:45:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
jealousy can be very dangerous if your with a person who has issues with it...try not to flirt too much if your partner is insanely jealous it could cause alot of trouble...my partner was very jealous and i was scared to look at another man when he was with me...that's why he's my ex....
2007-10-10 05:01:57 · answer #9 · answered by Dazzlebox 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with you. Theres nothing wrong with a little bit of jealousy. If they weren't jealous of someone hitting on you then to me it means they couldn't care less.
2007-10-10 04:40:41 · answer #10 · answered by tinkerbell 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋