my friends and fam say i take things to seroulsy .like when ppl make jokes about me i get mad.and i dont want to be that way.i want to be more layed back and dont care..so do i change?
2007-10-10 04:17:49 · 11 answers · asked by kea234 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Dearest Kea,
It really sounds like you have two things that are working against you--a spirit of rejection and a spirit of offense.
It is a very common experience to feel hurt, humiliated, rejected and/or judged when being teased. It is also common to get very defensive about this. These reactions and situations are with in most people's common experiences.
There are several things you can do--I believe in Jesus so for me--I pray. I ask God to heal the hurts in my heart and to feel God's love and acceptance of me when I feel rejected by others. I also ask that God remove the spirit of offense and anger and to help me to forgive them.
If you're not a chrisitan you can still pray and ask God to help you--ask Him to reveal himself to you. He is the answer to so many difficulties so many people go through in life.
I am praying for you. Email if you want. God is with you.
2007-10-10 04:36:08 · answer #1 · answered by steinbeck11 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and write down the jokes people made about you. Also, write down things about yourself that you can find humorous (a mirror helps). Seriously. Think about what you wrote down - chances are you'll come to the conclusion that it's no big deal, and can actually be pretty funny. Being able to earnestly laugh at yourself is one of the most rare talents out there, so practice makes perfect. Don't put yourself down on purpose, but learn to take a joke, too.
2007-10-10 11:26:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haha.. I can be that way a lot. I take offense to jokes that others make about me, even if they claim that they were just kidding. Either way, it's hurtful.
My best advice is to just smile and laugh it off. People do need to know that it hurts, but sometimes you just need to accept a bruise and move on. People will find you a lot lighter and funner person to be around.
But if it's a really bad joke that just goes over the line, don't be afraid to say that it really did hurt. Bruises and cuts are two different things. [haha me and my metaphors]
2007-10-10 11:37:25 · answer #3 · answered by larkaloo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really does depend on what kind of jokes your talking
about. ex: you should be thinner and cutier. that isn't
a joke, the hey i was just kidding isn't funny. there is a
difference between jokes and personal slams. finding
the funny side is a good thing. racial slams and personal
jokes are cruel and stupid. if it's not uplifting, funny in a
general way, then maybe you just need to find real humor.
beening picked on and then ask to have a tougher skin
is ridicules.
find comic strips you think are funny and read them.
find a comedian who uses less slams and can pull
one-liners. they are out there. study how they do it.
and don't be too hard on yourself. laughter comes easy
to those whom know What to laugh at!
2007-10-10 13:52:46 · answer #4 · answered by Judy E. T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray
Determine your path.
Work to achieve your goals.
Your value and your meaning does not depend on what others think or what they say.
Do you think you are too serious? Or have you been told that?
Maybe there has not been a lot to laugh about. And maybe you are too respectful to others to make jokes at their expense?
Perhaps you enjoy peace and quiet and do not have to have fun - fun, laugh - laugh all the time.
Ask them if they really think this about you? If they say yes just raise and eyebrow and say; "thank you" for you looking at me rather than at yourself and I would rather be told I love you".
"Serious" is often a phase when we are younger and thoughtful. Takes a lot of figuring - life does you know.
2007-10-11 00:05:48 · answer #5 · answered by troll to troll 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should learn to strike a balance between caring too much and apathy.
Taking things too seriously is not good but it's worse to simply just not care.
Maybe you are just a very sensitive person, which has its pros and cons.
You could try to change if this state makes you miserable but if people are not exactly tiptoeing around you for fear of offending you, then you're fine.
2007-10-10 11:32:37 · answer #6 · answered by ladyluck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends, if they are just joking you should laugh with them but if you find it offensive tell them. I take things seriously too but I also know how to relax and laugh at myself. Sometimes you have to do it.
2007-10-10 11:21:46 · answer #7 · answered by DoLz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use to be just like that when i was like 6-11 years old now im 13, i got use to it. I relize they was playin around so i just joke on them back or just laugh with them and be like shut up. It happens to everyone trust me.just learn to deal with it like i did.
2007-10-10 18:11:56 · answer #8 · answered by Carrie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm that way too.
a lot of people seem to bond and really think it's funny to make fun of one another, but to me, i think it's not funny and frankly, it hurts.
i like to bond and make friends about deeper connections. eh, i guess it makes me a bit of an outcast but, whatev... the friends i have are meaningful and true.
anyways, to help you out, try changing the way you think about these people's jokes. just tell yourself that they don't mean it.
good luck, hon! :)
2007-10-10 11:29:32 · answer #9 · answered by Catz Ladee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop wearing your feelings on your shoulder because you need to lighten up really
2007-10-10 11:31:49 · answer #10 · answered by Chloe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋