After that person first lied about their gender than lied about dying of cancer and letting it go on for days and not say the truth until now!
2007-10-10 04:05:22 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Because of the depths of this deceit, I have no desire to forgive, but rather will walk away. This person messed not only with our hearts, but with our souls. That is so against the Gnostic teachings they were spouting. This person makes me not believe. They make me want to rethink every thought I have had about truth.
That pisses me off, because there were ways around it. They could have just gone away, like many before, and no one would have been the wiser (suspecting? Yes! -- even I was starting to dislike the answers and questions being posed by them). What they did was so incredibly disrespectful of our hearts, our minds, our very souls, that I not only will NOT forgive them, I won't even pretend to try to go in that direction.
Liars are not of God, and this person claimed to be nothing less than a child of God, and an allegedly very enlightened one at that. No forgiveness will come from me here. It is beyond difficult. It is not forthcoming.
I know anger comes from expectation. Now I know to expect less than nothing, which is why I have become totally turned off by this entire forum. And the amount of forgiveness being shown is blowing me away. The guy was an A*sshole of the highest order. He's probably sitting there gloating, thinking, "Hah! Gotchya!"
Yeah? Well, F you buddy. Take your philosophies and put them where the sun don't shine, as they say in the business.
Sorry, (((Rae))), I'm just a tad disgusted here. Talk to you Monday.
EDIT: Makes me start to think CJ was right, Gnostic, eh what???
2007-10-10 05:54:26 · answer #1 · answered by Shihan 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Forgiving thats the easy part forgetting now thats tough! Though I'd have wonder why on earth someone lies about their gender and having cancer how screwed up is that!
2007-10-10 11:16:46 · answer #2 · answered by Lori M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear Shihan, Dear Raji , you are absolutely right. He has been playing with our trust. It is the dirtiest game i know on this earth. 2 thumbs up!
But please pleaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaas everybody !
Read ((((Astro)))))'s beautiful answer. I'm all thumbs for her!
'Do you want to be mistrustful in the future of people, situations etc? I don't think so. '
Beautiful !Astro, you are what this world terribly needs.
Yes, we shouldn't let such people and attitudes ruin our trust.
Years ago i had the same feeling as dear Shihan. But i noticed it is making me lonely, distrustful and hopeless.
Now i simply ignore such dirty ones or sometimes try to analyze their real motivation for telling such lies. This person lied just to beg some attention or kindness. He's so miserable!
2007-10-11 10:40:28 · answer #3 · answered by I'm nobody! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure about the gender part, but anybody who lies about having cancer is a scumbag. I suppose I could forgive them over time, but I can assure you they would no longer be a part of my life.
2007-10-10 11:10:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why would a cancer victim have to lie about their gender. It sounds odd. could it still be a lie? Maybe you don't see the whole picture even now!
It is hard to FORGET lies, even if you can forgive them. There is a saying, "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me a second time, shame on me!!!"
2007-10-10 14:05:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Since we're talking about online people, I try not to believe everything I see here.I think it should be expected that some people are not who they say they are.
I can see myself forgiving the gender part. The cancer part, I don't know. I'd have to know the reasons for that lie.
2007-10-10 11:18:59 · answer #6 · answered by Darth Cheney 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
There's different types of forgiveness, I think.
There's true reconciliation - which is probably out of the question in this case. The relationship is beyond broken, the whole basis of it is broken.
There's also letting go. Whatever s/he did to you (and us) it's not worth holding onto and becoming a shadow of yourself. Not for h/er/is sake. Let go, let the pain be, but don't nurse it. Don't let the lie carry on inside of you. Nothing is worth that.
Peace (((Rae)))
2007-10-10 22:30:07 · answer #7 · answered by Orpheus Rising 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's VERY easy to forgive that person. What's NOT easy is to forget how easily it WAS to allow yourself to become suckered into his/her ruse. Nor is it easy to forget how decietful that pesron was and is. Thjat person can ask for fogiveness but heshe has to realize that BASIC trust has been broken and it's going to take a LOT of work to repair that kind of damage. In fact that knd of trust, once extended freely may never become earned back in it's entirety.
BB,
Raji the Greenwitch
2007-10-10 21:57:39 · answer #8 · answered by Raji the Green Witch 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If you cannot let it go, and know that it is not about you, then you will suffer until you are able to.
What someone says to you is not your problem, to hold on to it is insane. It will affect you. It will hold you in a place of mistrust. Is it worth that. Do your want to be mistrustful in the future of people, situations etc. I don't think so.
Let it go, for your sake. Be a bigger person.
Whether they stay in your life is another matter, move on if you wish, that is understandable, but one needs to forgive and set yourself free.
2007-10-10 22:00:43 · answer #9 · answered by Astro 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Forgiving is relatively easy. Forgetting is another matter. Once somebody loses my trust it is very hard to get it back. From then on I will be wondering, and checking.
2007-10-11 00:46:04 · answer #10 · answered by balloon buster 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋