i talk to him more than anyone i tell him everything im always thinking of him i even dream about him we known each other for a while but we have never dated always stayed friends hes my best friend & i love him with all my heart. i want to be with him forever he is perfect in every way but he doesnt do relationships well. hes been single EVER SINCE I MET HIM! & its not like he has sex with people hes just alone he says he will never get married & wants to stay alone. so last month i fianally got the nerve to confess my feelings for him he was shocked but still we are just friends well last nite i was at work & we were texting each other & he told me that he now goes with this one girl. i broke out in tears! i ran to the bathroom and vomited i felt so sick then he text me again & said he was joking i was so releived! i think that tonite ima tell him that i cant talk to him nemore it just hurts to bad one day he will have a girl & it will hurt me to much what should i do?
2007-10-10 04:02:49 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
hes not gay lol i asked him that he swears he not
I HAVE CONFESSED MY LOVE!! thats the point he already knows
and yes i do love him not like i have never felt for any body like this before
2007-10-10 04:12:29 · update #1
oyea we've had sex before at the beginning of our friend ship we werent dating we were just friends... we dont do that any more and the reason i told him was because i have to hve respect for myself & cant just let him have his cake and eat it to... hes not gay
2007-10-10 04:15:58 · update #2
If you want to keep him as a friend you will have to get over this jealousy and possessiveness. If you feel you can't maybe it's time to step back a little bit. He obviously feels only friendship for you.
2007-10-10 04:07:33 · answer #1 · answered by Catlady 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he "doesn't do relationships well" he is certainly not "perfect in every way". And what of his little joke? If he had known that it would have cause that reaction, that would have been pretty cruel. And what about yourself? One text message literally makes you feel sick, but you're going to "break up" with this guy?
I really think you need to take a few steps back to think about what you see in this guy, where you would want it to go and why, and what the chances of that happening really are.
And if you decide that you really don't want him for a partner, there's no reason why he can't still be your friend.
2007-10-10 04:14:07 · answer #2 · answered by El Jefe 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you are feeling is natural and wonderful but you have allowed the feelings of friendship to develope into more and have "created" the best boyfriend scenario. You already knew that he isn't very good with relationships, so you think that a relationship with you would "fix" his relationship problems and it would be "perfect" when in reality you know that he isn't interested in any relationship at all. You need to get out and make more friends and find a romantic relationship and keep your friendship with him and expand your horizons.
Good luck and God Bless.
2007-10-10 04:10:29 · answer #3 · answered by tersey562 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk about it with him. I mean really have a lengthy discussion and talk about your dreams for the future and ask about his. Does he really want to be alone? Has he really never considered Marriage and Family? These are tough questions but need to be addressed. You may open his eyes. On the other hand he may just want a simple life with no pressure or responsibility. If that is the case I think you need to move on and just stay friends on a casual basis...kind of like Elaine Bennis and Jerry Seinfeld ( if you ever watched the show) Its going to hurt, but you need to deal with it and later on you will realize that all things happen for a reason.
2007-10-10 04:11:40 · answer #4 · answered by Dude 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Call him over in the evening and explain the story. Bleed your heart out and tell him that you know that you two can never be together so you will always treasure him in your heart and keep the good times buried in your soul. Tell him that you have to walk away to prevent yourself from tears when he likes another girl and shreds your life to pieces. Ask him for a last moment of romance together. Go out with him in the park and when no one is looking, pullover on a bench and hug him. Hopefully, his heart will melt and get white hot. He might then love you with life and limb. Do not get so tensed as that never helps. Good luck girl...
2007-10-10 04:10:49 · answer #5 · answered by babemagnetz 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if he doesnt feel that way for u, u should not end the friendship because of it. its obvious that ur great friends and care for each other a great deal. he may be hurting u without meaning to but if u end the friendship, u will be hurting him...and i think it would at least in part be so u could try and save ur pride. it is hard when u put urself out there and the other person isnt sharing in that particular feeling. be his friend.....dont quit on him...be happy for him if he finds love with another. besides, u never know.....this could be a real life when harry met sally story! :)
2007-10-10 04:18:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Seems like if he wanted anything romantic with you he would have pounced on the opportunity you gave him when you told him you liked him. And then playing that mean joke on you? No, I'm sorry but he doesn't sound interested. Best to ween yourself off of him so you can find someone more deserving of your affection.
2007-10-10 04:09:15 · answer #7 · answered by Christy V 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've been honest with him and he jokes with you as he did, you're SOL, it appears to me. If he can be that sick and clueless as to what you told him, it won't change. Don't make a mistake with someone who's trying to be so cool and act like a lone wolf. Tell him once more but if he simply shrugs it off you've got to walk away (from the friendship, too - it will only increase the hurt to stay with the jerk).
2007-10-10 04:08:31 · answer #8 · answered by Goethe's Ghostwriter 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't be shocked, but your best friend is GAY...seriously.....many women find Gay men to be the best friends and fall inlove with them. he is teasing you by saying he's seeing another girl. He is not ready to tell you about his sexuality. Just ask him - and then you can continue to be friends and you will find someone else but always keep him in your life. Good Luck
2007-10-10 04:09:36 · answer #9 · answered by q-tip 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Drama! Drama! Drama! Save that for TV you likes you and he is playing with you why ruin it by breaking it all off I mean common is that really what you want to do. I think you love him so much you are afraid of getting hurt he is your best friend he is not going to hurt you and because he is your best friend it is going to be awesome enjoy and keep smiling
2007-10-10 04:07:55 · answer #10 · answered by Chloe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋