family it so happened that relationship with my girl friend is past one half year i try to explian her right from the start iam a married man our relationship in long run is not good .she tells me cannot forget me all those things well i don't know what todo she is damn good looking i hate to decieve her please suggest
2007-10-10 03:47:57 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You told her from the start tha you were married, you did not decieve her but that doesn't change the fact that what you two are doing is wrong. You are married, do your vows mean nothing to you?
2007-10-10 03:52:16 · answer #1 · answered by littleone 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The attraction on either end will be short lived if there isn't more content to it than the attraction. Especially with an age difference.
She will out grow the crush, and you will outgrow the childlike ways.
What you need to pre ask yourself is "How will you feel when your wife finds out??" Chances are sooner or later she will find out. Right at that moment is when we have our relief or our regret. Which would yours be? Then ask yourself "Is that price worth it?" If your honest with yourself, you will know the best answer for you.
Sounds to me like the risk you are putting up is good family home against good looking................
Our temptations can be evil..............so can our prices.....
As far as her, she is young and looks at it in a much different way, more innocent even. You are the adult in the situation. It more goes on your shoulders. You could have prevented it by detouring int he first place. This girl will be hurt either way because it's obvious your lower parts are much more involved than your heart and you will likely never leave your wife on your own but only ever be with this girl upon being thrown out. Which even then I doubt it would ever last. So its best for her to move on. As I said she will be hurt any way it goes, and I doubt you'll be there to butter her wounds. I suppose she should realize the consequences of not only a married man, but an older one who only see's her as a "newer" toy.
2007-10-10 05:43:42 · answer #2 · answered by savahna5 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've not any problem that your Son is gay?? Love genuine love is blind in a lot of procedures,and too your son has an appreciation for this individual,and they of direction likewise. It reads as if they're residing a healthful non promiscuous yet extremely monogamous existence whats your pork? Ohhh so because he's older by some skill it makes him right into a pervert heh? BULL! Yeah you would possibly want to experience free in the adventure that your Son is. i wish to be so fortunate as this older guy in some unspecified time sooner or later,and that i'm faraway from overweight instead am healthful,quite athletic,and want in worry-free words happiness and contentment and with someone close to that age might want to be pleasant in the adventure that they were no longer shallow,and had a mind.
2016-10-20 06:24:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude if you were single I'd say more power to you. But you took a vow and now you're cheating. You could have resisted this younger woman, no matter how good she looks. The best thing to do is end it...sever all ties with the girlfriend and return to your wife wholly. You do love your wife, don't you? You wouldn't want to hurt her, would you?
2007-10-10 10:22:26 · answer #4 · answered by Mr.Longrove 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is how you treat your wife, then you shouldn't be married. You have given your wife grounds for divorce, and if she's smart..she will.
If all your interested in is good looks, young bodies and where you can get some, then you need to grow up or you will end up being a very lonely 43yr.o man.
2007-10-10 03:58:32 · answer #5 · answered by NanaCat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MID-LIFE CRISIS????????????????????????BIG TIME!!!
JUST WHICH relationship is not good in long run? Think about it...I'll bet u r gonna b n BIG TIME TROUBLE with the both of them IF u aren't already....my suggestion...have YOUR hormones checked! also sounds like u r the one deceived......better get a lawyer 'cause I'll lay any odds...u r going 2 need one!! AND probably sooner than you obviously realize...who ya gonna call....husband busters? da da dee dum dee dum...dum dum...bobbyh is this YOU????? 1st I'd SUE u & ur g/f- toy's pants off since it appears u both have trouble keeping them on??...2nd...I'd probably pull a Loreena Bobbitt & solve problem 4 all involved...& then u can ask yourself which head leads you...what's the verse in the Bible that goes something like...If your eye offends u, pluck it out...(And/or)... if your hand offends you, cut it off???... which in this case obviously wasn't you hand!!! --but seriously, your wife shouldn't have 2 suffer 4 ur hang-ups, should she? do u really believe deep down she doesn't know about it? I truly FEEL 4 U...N A WAY...lol...WOW I just can't seem to quit on this one....totally selfish on your part...sounds alot like what I'm dealing with with my hubby, (he thinks I don't know) only with him BECAUSE he is so self-deluded due Probably to a chemical imbalance & a general grandiose ideology steming from a dysfunctinonal background & severe psychological abuse from his family of origin where PLEASURE becomes a source of RELIEF due to NOTcoming to terms with all that baggage he brought into the relationship in the 1st place. Delusion can be a very STRONG defense mechanism for feelings of inadequacy...of course, when a person is That self-deluded, they have an extremely difficult time dealing with their feelings because their feelings were so brutalized by some source! It's sooooooooooh sad because I think I have evaluated OUR situation accurately however, the delusion keeps him...DELUDED! Our sex life was fantastic I thought & as far as I could tell He never complained except to ask me if I would consider bringing another woman into the scenario for which I am completely against. There are some avenues & ventures of sexual pleasures that are completely TABOOO IN A GENUINE COMMITED RELATIONSHIP where LOVE will not impose such activities upon another indivdual who they profess to LOVE. In that scenario, it's only SEX. One more thing about the sex...I didn't stop wanting sex or giving sex....HE DID... although He says & Believes otherwise...Why??? THE DELUSION! He also has a tremendous need to look at **** of ANY kind... always has. I believe those images of women set a man up for intense urges that are very very hard to control which can & unfortunately for all ... LEADS TO INFIDELITY ISSUES. He is kind of an addictive personality type anyway. I think he suffers from some type of personality & identity disorder. And No, I'm not a psychologist/psychiatrist/therapist or any such Title...I do think I'm fairly intelligent tho'. Hope it all works out for everyone...LOVE IS NOT SUPPOSE TO HURT anyone & shouldn't! I truly believe relationship are tremendously complex & that Human-being are fragile who need a whole lot of nurturing. It's a constant evaluating & re-evaluating of so many complex parts that we are all made up of. I also think it's a pretty good idea to keep a vigilant Self-check. I welcome input from others as long as it is done in a respectful manner. In the end, however, after much careful deliberation, I believe we all could benefit from a more introspective assessment. Owning a voice & valuing yourself in any of life's complexities to me is KEY. Life with all it's complexities requires a continuous effort of careful & cautious considerations of one's actions. Certain people, places, & things should be thoroughly weighed upon 1st...before participating or engaging one's self in.
2007-10-10 12:40:27 · answer #6 · answered by gmaw53 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to end the relationship..
Is she worth your marriage? Possibly family?
How well do you know this girl? How will the breakup affect her? How will she react?
It does take two to tango and you knew you were married when you let your relationship with her begin!!
Too late you already deceived her!
2007-10-10 03:53:24 · answer #7 · answered by Elle F 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u r a one of few lucky guy, enjoy with her till 50 and after 50 anyway u r engine will become out of order and she will be on a prime hot feeling time and will ditch u for a younger guy, and because of your character u will be thrown out of the house and u will be on street begging in your old age.
2007-10-10 04:14:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It a very common disease now a days.But be alert,for soon you shall be disdained by your wife,as she deserves to do.
One more is to say -as your so called gf comes in contact with a boy suiting her age and circumstances she will leave you.Take it as guaranted.
2007-10-10 06:25:23 · answer #9 · answered by iyertcs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you have a good marraige! So why are you messing around? If your wife finds out, you might not have any marraige. Cheating on her doesnt make me think you love your wife much!
2007-10-10 03:53:36 · answer #10 · answered by tpettee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋