I transferred from my old job where the guy i liked worked there too, to a new one. he was so upset that I was transferring becuase we're both so busy that we kinda only got to see eachother at work. anyway I've trasferred a while back and he would come visit sometimes, but for some weird reason, he suddenly stopped talking to me, so I'm trying to get over him. but a few days ago, I went by my old work to talk to someone and I saw him and he saw me too but we didn't say anything to each other.
Well anyways, I'm having problems with my new work, they keep messing up my schedule and stuff, so I'm considering going back to my old job. but I'm kinda afraid that the guy is gonna think I'm stalking him, and I don't want there to be any awkwardness...so if I do trasnfer back, (which won't be for another two months cuz I need to have to finish this semester of school first. what do I do when he sees me? The only reason I'm going back is cuz its better. by the way, I'm 18 if that helps at all
2007-10-10 03:20:53 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If the other job is better and your more happy working it, go back. We should always try to be in a better and happy workplace as a big part of our days are spent there. If you run into the guy, make it a casual hi or brief smile and go back to putting your focus on your job so you don't even appear to have much interest other than your job. If he suddenly stopped speaking to you, there is a good chance he won't try to now. Unless he feels resparked by your presence. I suppose all that would reflect his reasons to stop talking to you in the first place.
If he pursues more, tell him the truth. Your only back because its a better job and you really hope it won't be an inconvenience or awkwardness to either of you.
If your no longer interested in this man, be sure not to do anything that is misleading or says otherwise, especially if you work with him. Or you will end up just as miserable at this job. Just do what you can not to encourage conversations, and give minimal responses when you can't avoid them.
If you are interested, then focus on your job, and if he opens the door, let it be known your are interested too. Then it won't appear as though you are stalking and limit problems in your work place.
Keep in mind you will have an additional 2 months to add to putting a little more time and space between what the initial relationship was. Try to avoid running into him prior to going back. That might better allow you the chance to be fully over him and for it bother you less (or be less of a discomfort) when you do go back. It would also help you to appear less likely to be following him to minimize that concern to.
Good luck, you seem to be a responsible and fairly bright 18 yr. old.
2007-10-10 03:56:59 · answer #1 · answered by savahna5 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In spite of you saying otherwise, it sounds as if you miss the guy from the old work. Whatever you do, you are going to have to come to terms with your feelings about him. If need to make a decision in your mind about whether you like him or not, and do accordingly. Denying your feelings one way or the other will not help you.
2007-10-10 10:24:44 · answer #2 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the solution, just be friends, never never date
co-workers. Go back to your old job.
2007-10-10 10:31:23 · answer #3 · answered by iceman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't sweat it. If your worried about it just ignor him when you go back. If he still has feelings he will come to you, if not forget him your to young to worry about this.
2007-10-10 10:24:33 · answer #4 · answered by Gilly137 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't make it so difficult and do what you need to do. If he does think you are stalking him well that's his opionin and you could always ignore him.
2007-10-10 10:42:30 · answer #5 · answered by How's life?? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go back, and just say "Hello", when you see him. He may have just as much awkwardness, and will avoid any contact.
2007-10-10 10:33:48 · answer #6 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay on to your new job.don't transfer.it will leave a bad impression to your boss on your work attitude.
2007-10-10 10:24:50 · answer #7 · answered by dark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋