my mum is ok with my sexuality but she is curious and i'm finding it hard sometimes to explain it to a straight person without talking to her like another LGBT person coz she doesn't understand some things. also i've educated her about stereotypes, butches and femmes.
she does stereotype sometimes but out of confusion and i correct her. she is a really good mum and is trying her best to let me be myself. any advice people? thanks xx
2007-10-10 03:04:27 · 8 answers · asked by ♥SPARKLES♥™ 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
btw i showed her articles on the internet and have gave her kinsey scale lessons! i've shown her the kinsey scale.
2007-10-10 03:12:47 · update #1
Mothers are best friends and they tend to understand although we don't believe they do. sit your mother down and explain that there are many different types of homosexuals and that to understand she must first be able to accept the fact that you are one. tell her why you are and why you chose the path you chose. explain to her how different men and women are and why you are happy with who you are. shes your mother there is no way she can't understand your happiness.
2007-10-10 03:13:39 · answer #1 · answered by chocolaote16 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depending on how old your Mum is, she may be locked into certain mindsets that were prevalent when she was growing up (like all LGBT "recruit" their members or that LGBT is a mental illness.) Having open and frank conversations helps a LOT because you may get her to see things from a different perspective--YOURS!
I've always found that framing answers to their questions in regards to their OWN life and sexuality sometimes helps (like the "when did you decide to be gay?" query. I tend to ask back, "well, on what day, SPECIFICALLY, did you decide to become straight?")
Granted, some misconceptions may be very difficult to break. I'm not suggesting "talking down" to her but you may need to back up a bit and address some of the more basic aspects of sexuality in general and THEN progress to the LGBT issues.
There are some good books on "coming to terms with" gay children and they may help in explaining things in a manner your Mum can understand. There are also many volumes on coming out to your parents that may help you to understand why she's having such a difficult time grasping some of the issues you're discussing.
Is there a gay youth support group that you and your Mum can attend so that other opinions/questions/answers can be heard? She might benefit from speaking to someone her own age who has progressed a little farther along so that they're "speaking the same language."
The best thing you can do is be open and answer whatever questions she has in a frank and honest way. Would that I could communicate so well with MY mom!
Good luck!
2007-10-10 03:52:56 · answer #2 · answered by HMFan 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well hello sparkles-i DO love gay people btw! sounds like your mom is very understanding--some of the stuff she doesn't understand will become more clear with time. i had to help my best friend "break it" to her mom-she was so scared-but in the end(its been years now) her mom totally understood-now she says she wished all her kids were gay!anyway just be patient with her and keep talking about it-she must love you more than you'll ever know-thats a good mom!have a great day miss thang!:)
2007-10-10 04:44:02 · answer #3 · answered by berlytea 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Patience, sweety. She's just starting on the upswing of the learning curve. She probably knew absolutely nothing about the subject until recently. But it sounds like she's trying, and that is the most important thing of all.
2007-10-10 03:24:43 · answer #4 · answered by Clint 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Put it in terms of food. Mum, I prefer fish over beef. I wouldn't care if I never had red meat again. There are plenty of fish out there and they are all different and very tasty.
I hope that helps.
2007-10-10 03:08:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My advice is something like this
"Mom, you see, well you've always been a great parent and I'm sure you'll understand. I like woman over men and I cannot change. I hope that you can still accept me as your daughter"
2007-10-10 08:20:04 · answer #6 · answered by Ellen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess it's hard, but, i don't know. i don't find it hard. if my kd was gay, i wouldn't care at all. and i would say this my son and his parnter timbekee chuck chuck click click, or whomever my son dates.
2007-10-10 03:13:08 · answer #7 · answered by Kyle 4 Ty (Sparkles can watch) 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
About 20 years ago, I thought I was gay and told my mom this:
"I'm gay. Whatta ya gonna do abouttdit?" But now I am straight and she's happy and so am I.
2007-10-10 03:23:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋