if you ended up pregnant as a result of rape?
would you have an abortion or keep the child?
2007-10-10 03:00:29 · 37 answers · asked by midnitedancer77 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I would keep it...after all it's not the childs fault, why add more wrong to the situation?
Abortion is murder...isn't rape bad enough?
2007-10-10 03:02:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 11⤋
Well, I've been down that road before, and luckily I had the morning after pill.
But if I didn't have that option, I would have had an abortion. It would not have been easy, but this is how I see my options.
1) If I kept the child, I would have a reminder of what happened. My husband would not be comfortable raising a child that is a descendent of the man that raped me. And I would see his face everyday.
2) How do you tell your child where the father is? If the child found out that my husband wasn't his father (which unless the guy was 6'5...wouldn't be hard to figure out), how do I tell him? What do I tell him? Seriously, think about it. They will want to know who their father is at some point. I couldn't stomach lieing to them...but I couldn't stomach telling them the awful truth either.
3) What if the rapist/father found out you were pregnant...and in his warped mind, which you know already exists, he wants to be a part of the childs life. It IS his kid...and regardless of what the court says...the father may wait until the kid can decide for themselves. The thought of my child spending time with that evil of a person!?!? Makes me cringe.
4) If I gave the child up for adoption, and later they decided to find me and ask me why I did it...what am I supposed to tell them? I know if I was a product of a rape, then pawned off to other people...I wouldn't feel so good about myself. But that's just me.
There are a lot of reasons that I would have an abortion. While some people may think they are selfish...the point is that they are my choice. And personally, I couldn't bring a child into the world like that with the thought that any of those things might happen...
2007-10-10 03:11:40 · answer #2 · answered by Heck if I know! 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would take the morning after pill as my first priority after the rape. If that didn't work I don't know what I would do, I would like to say that I would have the baby and if I couldn't bear to raise it myself then give it up for adoption but to be honest I think I would seriously consider a termination. Nine months is a long time to be constantly reminded of such a terrible thing and going through labour as a result of rape would not be pleasant. I don't think I'm a strong enough person to answer peoples questions when they ask about the baby during pregnancy and I would just want to put the whole thing behind me as soon as possible.
Saying all of that though I don't think anybody really knows for sure how they would react until faced with the situation.
2007-10-10 04:03:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my child an did an open adoption. It wasn't her fault. She is now a beautiful 7 yr old who is so full of life and has a wonderful family to love her and she loves them. People think that I look at her and am reminded of how she was concived but I am not. I look at her and see a wonderful little girl who I am so thankful to be here. Her biological father is in prison for 3 more years and will never know her or where she is. I didn't know him when the rape happened and still don't know very much about him. It was hard at first but now I am glad that I went through with the pregnancy and let something really good come out of a bad situation. She actully helped with cope with it all. I felt like I had lost everything because of the rape until she was born then I realized how much I gained.
2007-10-10 03:19:32 · answer #4 · answered by jbird 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would keep the baby. It is in no way the childs fault, and personally I feel that were I to have counselling throughout the pregnancy to deal with the rape I'd still be able to love the baby as he/she would still be mine. If someone felt they woudn't be able to care for the child if they were in this situation I would advise them to have the child and give them up for adoption. Yes, it might be a traumatic thing to do - but at the end of the day, even with all of the healing after the birth, you'd be giving up less than a year of your life for the baby to potentially have 80 or so years of happiness, surely that's worth it?
2007-10-10 05:16:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In a situation like that I can only imagine how hard it is, but I think I would keep the baby or I would consider adoption. Then again it depends on how you feel. If you think you can't live with knowing that your child has a rapist for a father then maybe I would have a abortion. It all depends on how you feel and what you can live with because nobody can tell you how they feel and what they would do unless they actual went through it. So make the best decision for you!!!!!! Good Luck!!
2007-10-10 03:10:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If i had been asked before i got pregnant i would definately have said abortion but now it is a different thing, i know what's going on 'in' there so it is very difficult...i can imagine it being very hard to not being reminded of the ordeal when you look at your child even though the child is innocent...like i said, a hard decision to make...
2007-10-10 07:20:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abortion.
2007-10-10 04:20:55 · answer #8 · answered by l0bster_quadrille 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
abortion isnt murder.
surely the termination of something that is not yet a person is better than bring up a child in hate, a child that will remind you every day of your life that you were raped? a child that will have the same genes of such an evil human being.
surely raising the result of a horrific crime is far worse a crime, than an abortion itself.
you need to ask yourself if you could live with raising a child in such circumstances, and then when its old enough to ask who its dad was, telling them he was a rapist, and they are a result of it.
2007-10-10 03:13:34 · answer #9 · answered by turtles 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I really dont think anyone can anser that question as it is for the person involved to answer, but my opinion would be to do whatever they felt was right for them. As the child is not to blame I think that I would keep it but then again I cant give you a proper answer as I have never been raped or pregnant. Good luck anyway and take care. luv Juliexx
2007-10-10 03:10:14 · answer #10 · answered by stardu5t7 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ive been in that situation. I didnt get pregnant, and it was a family member who drugged me and possibly raped me (i had memories and dreams with feelings of things that a virgin just couldnt know) and I can assure you, even though I was 13 I never would have punished the child for the fault of the father.
At the very least Id have given birth and given the child up for adoption.
2007-10-10 03:03:46 · answer #11 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 8⤊ 1⤋