Hi.I'm in class 10.I'm very shy fellow.I feel shy to talk to girls who are my classmates.Sitting beside them

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seems almost out of the world-almost a nightmare.I don't know what the problem is.It isn't that I don't like girls.I do.But I'm very shy.I have a very bad reputation among girls.Since the last few years I have rarely talked to any of them.So, I might say that they are quite used to me not talking to them.I might also mention that I generally stand first or second in class.But I'm not at all arrogant my friends.Believe me.But the girls seem to consider me as a proud & arrogant fellow because I don't talk to them.But believe me, that is not the case.It's something totally different that I don't know.Even if I do speak a few words with them(mostly concerning studies)although very very rarely,I have a problem that I can't look at their eyes & speak.So I'm not only shy but "scared" as well-I don't know why!!!!.Please my friends,help me as I am feeling quite vexed.Suggest what should I do.Whenever I try to approach them, the thought of that I haven't spoken to them for so long scares me more

Answer 1

Buy a big slab of Chocolate and they will start talking to you.

Answer 2

Hm. You remind me of someone I know.

That aside, you have obviously made the effort in your studies, and this is something that you feel very comfortable with and have control over - but the ladeez are a totally different thing.

You don't know how they will react and this scares the living bejasus out of you. You like things predictable, controllable, and for you they are unexplored territory. Now you want to go into this territory, and don't know how - how very frustrating for you.

Time to take the plunge and get out of your comfort zone, honey. Take a risk - you don't know the consequences, but so what.

Are there two or three girls in a group who you think are nice and friendly. Then just go and chat with them. Tell them you'd like to go see a film, and ask them what would they recommend. Why did they like it? What type of films do they generally watch? Do they go to the cinema a lot, or just see DVDs? What else do they do in their spare time? Etc, etc, etc.

Before you know it, you're having a conversation with three friendly girls. Allow them to ask you some questions too, and allow for some pauses. Do try to make eye contact with each one for a few seconds, it's important. Then after say, ten minutes, look at your watch, smile at them all and tell them you'll chat with them again. When you see them around, give them a smile and maybe say hello.

I think you're making too much of this 'bad reputation' thing. People change, and once they see that you're just a little shy, they'll warm to you. Oh, and don't worry if you blush, all women find that really cute in a man.

Answer 3

I had the same problem as you are having now. This is common in allmost all boys who are not kid nor they are grown up. So they are confused. Start facing the problem fearlessly. Start talking to the girls. Allways think that no one is superior. All have got their problems. In this world nothing is free except problems. Even you fail in your first attempt gradually you will succeed. Attack fear fearlessly. Read good books written by Swami Vivekananda in whose books you will find solution to allmost all problems we face. Join some Yoga classes. Practice Pranayama. It is a good solution to your shyness. If there are no Yoga classes near to you watch Baba Ramdev's Yoga programme in Astha channel. It starts at 5 in the morning. Always think you can do it. Everything lies in our mind. If you think you are weak then weak you will become. If you think you are fearless then fearless you become.

Wish you all the best.

Answer 4

Hey,iam also studying in da 10th standard and suffering wid da same prob.only difference being,i am a girl.I stay very quiet and rarely talk 2 boys in da class.every1 knows me as a quiet and sincere girl.You know,when we are small,we never mind talking to each other,whether da person is a boy or a girl.When we grow,differences arise.But, da ones I talk 2 really like 2 talk 2 me and i feel da same.I can really understand your prob.I must tell ya,girls like da boys to approach them first and talk to them and 1ce you do that,they'll start talking 2 u.(I always start wid a 'do you know'...)and you don't need to be scared...and hey..talk interesting n wish ya luck....

Answer 5

hey i m also in tenth big deal taking 2 girls its just claamates yar u should talk 2 every 1

Answer 6

Rent out The Pickup Artist, the TV show-- should come on DVD soon enough, and wham, there's your answer.

Answer 7

common you are still in tenth. i have seen grown ups feeling shy to talk. you will get over it with time. interact with them by participating in class activities and sports.