I know that there are very strict rules about what you can wear in the temple- but how much flesh would be considered offensive for a non-LDS bride to show when marrying her LDS fiancee in an ordinary civil wedding, possibly to be held in the hall at a stake center?
I have found a dress that I love and which fits perfectly; I was pretty proud of myself for finding one with long opaque sleeves and which doesn't show any cleavage. It does, however, show off my collarbone, and about an inch of shoulder top and shoulderblades- my best features, and I don't want to cover them up. I don't think it looks risque or raunchy at all, but I am afraid that I might offend some fuddy-duddy relative (particularly one who isn't happy about my non-LDS status).
Reckon I can get away with gratuitous clavicle?
2007-10-09 23:13:12 · 9 answers · asked by Lonesome Polecat 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You can't always please everyone all the time, and just incase you do run into someone who is still not please by your dress after you are married, and does happen to make a comment to you, (which I doubt they would to your face) just say to them "If you have a problem with it, you can go talk to my husband about it, he is th e head of the household now and has no problem with what I am wearing." or if you see some lady looking at you strange and you assume it is about a little skin showing, you just remember that, if hubby has no problem with it, then why should you, so you should not feel quilty about what you are wearing in God's house.
2007-10-11 03:48:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I were married civilly before we went to the temple years later, we were married at the LDS stake center and my dress was like a "tank-top" top. It showed all of my shoulder pretty much, in the back down to my bra strap and had a square neck that wasn't too low but lower than my collar bone. SO, I think you will be fine. Really, the only standard of dress is at the temple. The church officials won't tell you what you can wear at the church so don't worry.
If you are comfortable then go for it. If it was really risque I guess I would suggest finding a different dress, I think cleavage is probably where the line is "drawn"...
Good luck to you in your marriage...hopefully you can make it to the temple if that is your desire! I know that our marriage is much better and I love knowing I can be with my husband eternally.
2007-10-10 07:44:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sound lovely, I hope you have a wonderful day.
The basic standard of modesty is that it should cover the shoulders for about three inches, not expose too much cleavage and come down to the knee. We have had two weddings in our chapel recently which were older brides, and they both wore knee-length dresses with little short sleeves. The ceremonies were both lovely. I'm sure yours will be too.
If you need more guidance, look at www.beautifullymodest.com and similar sites, which sell modest, but not Temple standard, wedding gowns. Clavicles abound!
Try not to worry about what the relatives think; they should be happy that your fiance is marrying someone so respectful and understanding.
2007-10-10 01:36:08 · answer #3 · answered by sunnyannie 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
My brother-in-law married his wife (okay, now EX-wife...but that's a whole other Jerry Springer!) in an outside ceremony and the reception was at the Stake Centre. Her dress was (yes!) STRAPLESS (okay, it had this little shawl thing...) and while the "Old Guard" did not think that it was in the best of taste for an LDS woman, the building did not spontaneously combust.
The dress you describe sounds absolutely amazing and should be fine. Have a beautiful day and congratulations!
2007-10-10 08:36:15 · answer #4 · answered by Fotomama 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like it is almost chaste enough for the temple. I think that, if you were LDS and wanted this dress, you could wear it to the temple with a pretty white thin sweater or soemthing under it, just to cover your shoulders.
But, for a regular wedding service, it sounds decent enough. If you are in doubt, you should ask the bishop or, if you would rather talk to a woman, find out who the Relief Society president is, and she can tell you.
Oh, and BTW, congrats and good luck!
2007-10-09 23:27:20 · answer #5 · answered by mormon_4_jesus 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
A modest wedding dress JUST like anyone else might wear (in the world) and just like a bride wears in a temple wedding as well, just so you know.
2016-04-08 00:39:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make sure that you can wear a normal bra with straps with it. It does not have to be long sleeved but at least opaque short sleeved. Modesty is the key.
2007-10-10 05:27:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You harlot you!
:) I am not LDS so you need another answer but very best wishes to you and your fiance; may joy and health be yours.
2007-10-09 23:20:07 · answer #8 · answered by SC 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Make sure your boobs are not poking out, that they can't see your butt crack and it is long enough to cover your knees.
2007-10-11 10:26:27 · answer #9 · answered by Fishgutts 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋