My boyfriend and I decided to wait for marriage to have sex, but i changed my mind and he didnt. I met another guy who wants to fool around. Should I just do it?
2007-10-09 22:42:49 · 28 answers · asked by Carrie J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are not really asking. You already made up your mind. Or at least you really want to cheat. It is NOT that you want to "lose" the virginity. If you did, you would just jump your BF. You just want to jump this guys bones.
At least admit it.
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Forget about the marriage. If you can't be dedicated now, it only matter if time it happens later. But later you will most likely have few kids to complicated the matter.
Good Luck.
P.S. Just remember that if you cheat, you also degrade your character and you become that much less trust worthy person to your friends and family. You will ALWAYS be a cheating person to them.
2007-10-09 22:46:22 · answer #1 · answered by Lover not a Fighter 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Yes definitely if she truly feels she can keep away 4m him then give her that chance! Trust me if u no what u did was wrong and want2b trusted with that person again you would try EVERYTHING 2prove that wouldn't you. Ok and no its not always "once a cheater always a cheater" if someone chooses 2 change then they can change. Honestly i used 2cheat but only cause my gf would cheat, ya don't have a relationship like that it really doesn't work. But I COMPLETELY CHANGED if a girl would cheat on me i would just break up with em. But i give all of em at least 1 chance and she seems very sincere about it so i would believe her. She just had2c what she lost because her past was messing with her but everyone deserves a chance. If you want2no the truth well she was prob the #1 in her life but she realized that your the #1 now and she will do anything 2make sure that she don't hurt you again. But hands down people do change and she was fighting a battle between you and her ex who was suppose 2b the hubby cause she was saving herself for marriage. But he came and took it away so she thought she could trust him and whatnot but he broke her heart. Then she found you and I'm pretty sure she wants you2 fill that space, but she didn't realized what she had until she lost it! But give her 1more chance and make sure she keeps2 her word cause if not then you no she will do it again. But i hope everything goes well with you and your girl!!! Goodluck!!!
2016-05-20 22:21:35 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to be with another guy, tell your boyfriend so he can drop you and find a nice girl with his standards and morals to spend the rest of his life with. Hopefully, he will not give in if you tell him that. You have already deceited him in your heart. Go out with guys who want you....They don't have love in their minds. They have one thing on their mind...They are there one minute and gone the next...or soon. They move on to greener pastures when your pasture has been harvested. Your boyfriend is too good for you. He may hurt a bit or be a little angry at first, but he will get over it in time and will thank God that he didn't marry a person like you. I am not saying you are bad. I am saying that you two do not fit together. You have different beliefs. It is better to break up now, than to get married and have kids and drop them then. If you really love him, you would not want someone else. The thought would be disgustingly sick. You do not love your boyfriend.
2007-10-09 22:56:50 · answer #3 · answered by morningstarjls 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Most girls would love a monogamous guy that will never cheat on them and has the guts to wait till the right time(MARRIAGE) to make love. Im a male virgin and if i was your boyfriends buddy i would tell him to dump u to the street corner where u belong. What a $#@^ you definately are.
I have to question a man's brains with being with someone like you. You should thank god he is stupid enough to even wana talk with you let alone be your boyfriend.
2007-10-13 06:08:47 · answer #4 · answered by virgin 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing wrong with wanting to have sex it is a natural part of life, and good fun. BUT I think you should forget about your plans to marry this guy you are with at present you don`t love him. You may like him a lot but try a time on your own to meet and have relationships with other people and then see how you feel. Yeah it`s scary to leave a comfortable relationship but I don`t think you have the experience to marry someone yet. Good luck and do have fun, it is a short life.
2007-10-09 23:11:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your boyfriend about this, and work out a compromise that works for both of you. Oral sex, is a wonderful alternative. You need to consider how much you care about him also, if you just wanna fool around you shouldn't be in a serious relationship with him in the first place.
2007-10-09 22:47:02 · answer #6 · answered by John J 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Right-- dump a good guy with self-control and love for you for a one-night stand and whatever diseases he might have so he can never call you again.
If you need to fool around you need to breakup with your current boyfriend, go sow your oats and then see if he'll take you back if you think he's still the one for you.
2007-10-09 22:49:58 · answer #7 · answered by busseysmom 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You'll have 2 regrets, one losing your virginity & 2, cheating on your boyfriend to be the pleasure toy of some hormonal guy. It's best to wait and save yourself..Don't fall for the hype of "sex" it's just hype & it's not all that it's hyped up to be. It's best when in love and married....Your boyfriend is a good guy, also hard to come by..You'll regret losing him just because you want to fool around for a few moments of pleasure..
2007-10-09 22:51:19 · answer #8 · answered by Unique Soul 4 · 2⤊ 3⤋
First break up with your boyfriend. Then hook up with this other guy. I imagine you must like the guy your thinking of being with. Because if you don't like him, and just want sex with anyone. That would be dumb. To have sex with someone you don't like. Remember to use condoms.
2007-10-09 22:53:42 · answer #9 · answered by Sunset 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
worst idea ever.
it would just dwell on you forever and you would feel so used because the other guy would **** you and then never have anything to do with you ever again and that means you just gave up something that you could never get back to someone that doesnt even care about you.
you should respect your bf decision and live up to your decision to wait with him.
2007-10-09 23:04:16 · answer #10 · answered by JaguarsYear07 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋