How do you handle misbehaviour of your child?

Question

Children often misbehave.. how do you handle him/her

screaming, beating, throwing, etc

Answer 1

People have already listed a number of good factors to remember. A. always make sure there is something for the child to be "distracted" with to stop bad behavior from occuring at all. I can't explain how much it pains me to see parents yelling at a 4 year old child in a laundromat to be quiet and sit there, while it takes them 2 hours or more to get done. But then again.. I'm much against the more "modern" idea that children who are 4 should be acting 14. Also, remember to be calm, as another person stated. Yelling does nothing.. all it teaches them is that yelling is ok to do, and trust me, they will pick up on that, and learn to yell right back at you. The main thing to remember is to try to reason with them, tell them what they are doing that is wrong, and explain why that is, more than the just "because I said so." It is good to have rules posted and practiced for them to follow. Just as humans can only remember numbers in sets of 5 easily, chlidren tend to only remember up to 5 main rules, at early ages. Make it easy for them too. Also, it's a good idea to get them inolved, if they are a bit older, in what the punishments should be for different rules. They actually usually do this quite fairly themselves, it is suprising, but if they are being a bit "silly" you can always help guide them. For instance, if a big problem is hitting their sibling, that may call for a big punishment, such as not getting to watch their favorite show for that day, or week. Just remember to never take away things that help the child. For instance, never punish them by taking away food, or other nutritious things (whether for the body or for the mind). Most of these are things I learned in the classroom, that just worked for me with children, its up to you to try them, or other things and see what works best for you and your child.

Answer 2

Never screaming or beating, we use the naughty step, child has to sit there as a punishment, one minute for every year of the child's life. Tried the screaming etc with the first child didn't work to well, didn't know any better when I was 18 years of age. Am finding the calm approach much more effective.

Answer 3

When my 5 year old is having a tantrum I say your going in time out, 1 2 3 4 5. I usually only get to 3 and she stops. She hates time out in the naughty corner. If she does end up there, when her time out is over I always make her apologize and tell her why its not good to do what she did.

My 3 year old sees his big sister get in trouble all the time so he is pretty good.

Answer 4

There is only one thing that works: Stay Calm. The moment you lose your cool you have lost them. So stay calm and explain, listen, tell them what they should be doing (children don't understand 'be good', you have to tell them exactly what is expected) and have lots of fun. They don't need loads of rules, just a few basic ones. If they are happy and occupied and know you love them, they won't misbehave much.

Answer 5

I give my 2 1/2 yr old the time out corner. It works great for us.

Answer 6

Distract them.
If my little one starts his circus, i immediately divert his attention to a purple crow that just flew out our neighbours window with a banana in his beak.
It never fails to catch his attention, calm him down & get him all happy & excited again.
Of course, lots of hugs & cuddling also help.
And explaining.
If i take time out to put the cooker off & sit down & explain why this behaviour (NOT him) is bad, he invariably sees reason.

Answer 7

Lock him inside the room, afterwhich i will explain to him/her. Another method is, don't give him rewards if he misbehave again. This works for my son.

Answer 8

Send them to thier rooms no! tv, radio, cd's etc.
never beat them they seem to not why/
Time outs work if they still act up maybe Doctor visit is is need! medication?
also ignore them the may shut up!! spcially little kids! as they get older take thing away..as older kids like 15 years take away the privledge to drive til they can prove the responiblity to others you control things act like it!!!

Answer 9

well it depends on the age of the child....i don't believe in hitting kids...if it's a child 3 and under...can't do much....4-13 give them talks...maybe take away their playing privileges of like playing with friends, game systems...and 14 and up...grounding i guess, taking away cell phones, and stuff like that

Answer 10

1.scold them if they do wrong but don't be too strict
2.if you be too strict with them they will hate it and do more wrong doings.
3.avoid them to do things that bad manners
4.teach them everyday to do good manners
5.pray
6.give them example about what will happen if they did the bad manners for example" if you steal you will be in the jail and bla bla bla( words that may they scare of)
7. TEACH them about education
8. make them clever