i told my sister in law that i wanted to have thanksgiving and christmas at our new house since we just got it in may of this year and we have tons of space and are super excited for the holidays!! and i KNOW that my sis-in-law told my mother-in-law.... so my mother-in-law calls my grandma-in-law and says, "i just want to let you know early that we are having the holidays at our new apartment..."
is she trying to undermine my holiday efforts or what!?!?!?!!!!
my sis-in-law even knew i was going as far as to make invitations for our get togethers!!!! wtf is their problem!!
maybe it has something to do with the fact that my sis-in-law told me to F*** OFF yesterday because she's still mad about some old beef we had... WHAT THE ---- EVER.... i'm over it, and i really don't like how she's talking to me, so unless her attitude changes, she will not be welcome in our home this christmas.... DH agrees with me 100%.... he is so angry with all of them, he doesn't want to invite any
2007-10-09 20:27:31 · 12 answers · asked by idgaf 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
of them!!
it may just be his grandma, his brother and his brother's wife...
which would be eliminating his sister, her boyfriend and his mom & dad..... but it's their own choice to be treating people bad......
so what do i do about my holiday stealing mother-in-law.... OH and by the way, i've been telling everyone that we are having the holidays at our house since JULY of this year!!!!!!!
and it's not like his mom has them at her house..... his grandma always has them at her place..... and his grandma is more than happy to not have to put on these big dinners this year!!!!
2007-10-09 20:29:14 · update #1
there's way more to his family than just a few f--- off's or whatever....
there's been money borrowing, stealing, backstabbing, you name it, it's there.... everyone's on a thin thread that's about to break......
grandma and brothers want to stop talking to parents and sister because they are all money hungry, money stealing, money borrowing, whatever..... people that just use and are only nice when we all are doing for them......
so i'm not trying to "play house" or whatever here...... i have a house, it's real life, not playing! thank youuu.....
2007-10-09 20:37:58 · update #2
I think it is really nice of you to want to share your new house with Hubby's family this Christmas. You know there will be quite a lot of work involved, and you are still willing to do it.
Your sis-in-law sounds like she is jealous of you and your new house. I have a family member just like her. They are always trying to ruin everything and cause trouble.
You go right on and have a Christmas celebration there. Invite Sis-in-law and MIL if you and Hubby can stand it.
Maybe things will be calmer by then.
But don't let these trouble rmakers steal your first Christmas in your brand new place. Just enjoy it and let them come or let them stay home. Period. Congrats on the house too!
2007-10-09 20:45:24 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have your holiday in your new home as you planned. If it's only your immediate household to share it with then so be it. Relax , that's what it should be anyway. Who wants to stress out.?Our best holidays are spent at home with our kids. That's our tradition since becoming parents. Who wants to be around a bunch stuffy people talking about themselves and trying to outdo each other anyway ?
Isn't that what funerals are for ?
If no children , maybe invite some good friends who may not have a group to join.
Just make it yours.
2007-10-09 22:04:51 · answer #2 · answered by Jusme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup she sounds like a major b*tch! I think you should have your dh handle this for you, after all it is HIS family. I know that sounds like your pushing the problem off on him, but sometimes us daughter in laws really get screwed when we tell our mother in laws how big of b*tches they truely are LOL! She will LISTEN when her own son tells her though... hopefully anyways... hang in there, remember you married the man, not the family haha!
2007-10-09 21:30:42 · answer #3 · answered by Mommy to 1+triplets 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
9 out of 10 families get into rip-roaring fights like this near the holidays. I personally think it is pointless, juvenile and does nothing but belittle the purpose of the holidays.
If you cant communicate like adults than stay to yourselves and let the in-laws be the "out-laws".
2007-10-09 20:33:29 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you and your partner go away somewhere for the holiday. That way you won't have to deal with any of this crap. If people can't deal with that, it's their problem not yours. Don't get all involved in family disputes. It's not worth it. You are under no obligation to entertain people, even family members, during the holiday season. Do what you really want to do and let them do what they want to do.
2007-10-09 20:33:59 · answer #5 · answered by Richard B 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Invite everybody because if you don't you'll hear about it! More than likely the brothers and grandma will be the only ones who show up!
2007-10-10 11:13:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you can do about the Christmas party is have it on another day than mother in law...She can have her party and you can have yours. We have so many people in my family, sometimes we have several parties to go to....
Dont let this aggravate you, it isn't worth you energy...If they dont want to come to your party, oh well, their loss...Have fun planning and dont worry about them...
2007-10-09 20:43:45 · answer #7 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you now? Banning family from your house at Christmas over a disagreement and 'what the - ever' is juvenile. If you want to play house, grow up and compromise with them.
2007-10-09 20:32:54 · answer #8 · answered by boots6 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Why don't you compromise and have Thanksgiving at your house and Christmas at the other house (or vice versa)?
2007-10-09 20:59:50 · answer #9 · answered by Wintergirl 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why not celebrate it seperately at different places. Problems solved.
2007-10-09 21:53:07 · answer #10 · answered by Mirachi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋