okay here's the deal...he's been dropping major hints, saying things like i want something in return and he's always polite and gentlemanly. i've never had a bf before and im kinda new to this whole thing. if he asks i'll say yes because i do like him. but i don't know why he wont spit out the words i want to hear. i don't want to be the one who initiate the relationship, but how do i show him that i like him back with out disrespecting myself in anyway? or something along that line...i need help!!! =O
2007-10-09 19:47:14 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he's told our friend that he's planning on asking me out...but that was over a month ago. im pretty sure he likes me
2007-10-09 19:54:23 · update #1
There's a straightforward way...tell him that you like him. :) It's not disrespectful to you, and it's a way of letting the guy know. He would more likely initiate the relationship if he knows that you like him back.
2007-10-09 19:52:37 · answer #1 · answered by lilbabsis01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If what you are getting at is that you want sex, my advice would be to chill out and let nature take its course.
Most guys are hot to trot. They might not say so for the same reservations you cite, but if you just act receptive it's a pretty good chance you'll wind up having sex.
I would not rush things. Just be nice and do the hugging and kissing things and nature should take its course. When guys are reluctant to act on this, by the way, it is usually because they are afraid of being rejected. They don't want to lose what they've got on the chance they could get more.
And, for the record, I don't really like to encourage pre-marital sex. It is an enormous leap in a relationship, and has lots of pitfalls that can sidetrack your life to places you may not want to go.
2007-10-09 19:56:13 · answer #2 · answered by Warren D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you want to initiate the relationship? If you can't be prepared to initiate a relationship, stay lonely. Why is it his responsability? Heck, you don't even know if he likes you, so why should he be initiation anything. Showing that you like someone is not self-disrespecting. It can sometimes be embarassing, but in the big picture, it is not something to be embarassed about. If you show him that you like him, you will be initiating.
What words do you want to hear? Men are not psychic, as women would want.
2007-10-09 19:54:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him outright what he wants. That's the best way. Relationships are not built upon mind reading or hints.
2007-10-09 19:50:34 · answer #4 · answered by Richard B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of sending mixed messages that no one will understand, why not just be straight up and ask him out on a movie date or to lunch or something?
2007-10-09 19:50:26 · answer #5 · answered by NONAME 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a heart to heart talk with him
2007-10-09 19:54:33 · answer #6 · answered by Ash 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What if he doesn't like you?
When you answer that i'll answer your question
2007-10-09 19:50:27 · answer #7 · answered by DinoSays 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋