Is this serious? .. Whenever I have a chance to actually think to myself, I get depressed.?

Question

If I'm not watching my favorite show, talking to people, or in class, I seem to be sad. Like if I talk to someone, and have a moment where I stop then I'll start to think and feel miserable until something else occupies my mind..

And then it kinda gets worse at night where I know I feel depressed. I'm tired, trying to sleep, and all these negative thoughts rush in more than it does throughout the day, and it's been harder to sleep. Usually at night, I always think of a happy future or something good that I want to happen to me and it always helps me sleep better. I daydream excessively and that's what I try to do and keep my mind off of things, but I don't believe that's a good coping mechanism. But that's how it's been for... a very long time, like 7-8 years (the going to sleep/daydreaming part).

no one is happy 24 hours of the day, I'm sure everyone feels sad at least once everyday. Well I wouldn't know. Unless it's just me? I have no idea.

Suggestions?

There's a lot of reasons throughout time that make me feel upset. I never met anyone that I could talk to deeply, unless it was a boyfriend. I feel like I can't really relate to anyone on my level with my personality (it sounds pretty common, but I've just always tolerated it and kinda gave up on finding someone in common with me). but I am having trouble "finding myself", my morals are colliding on what I want in life, with a career, etc etc. I don't talk to my mom/dad about feelings and stuff, hah. We're not affectionate with one another. and yeah. I don't know anyone who I would say is close to me besides like ex-boyfriends. But I'm not going to hunt out for a relationship with a guy, I rather have patience for someone nice which will probably take a while..

Answer 1

Find a hobby that amuses you. Get into some activities. I'm bipolar, and I can't control my moodswings, without heavy medications. I pray that you can.

Answer 2

It's not extremely serious, it's not comfortable either, but a lot of people do that.
A more severe form of that, which I used to have, is panic attack. It happens or gets worse at night and it physically hurts.

When you're trying to sleep, you have nothing to do but think and think and think, and since it's the end of they day, the thoughts tend to be what's going to happen tomorrow, in the futures. During the day it's easy to plan things to do later, but at night anything could happen with that "later."
If you're like me, you think of the past and use it to judge the future, which is worse. -_-

A good thing to do is tell that, how you feel, to a close friend. If there's something bothering you, let it out. Having people around is the best way to make things better.

I don't talk to people about it. Instead of trying to sleep, I come over here and answer these questions.^^ Or do something else distracting until I get very sleepy.

Answer 3

You're not nearly the freak of nature that you make yourself out to be. It sounds to me like you're a normal, regular guy who wants to have a companion to go through life with, someone you can love, someone with whom you can be intimate, and someone you can "get freaky with" from time to time. This is quite normal, and believe it or not, there are a lot of girls who are into the same thoughts that you are. Don't be desperate to find a girlfriend. This will almost ensure that you WON'T find a girlfriend, or at least that you won't find a girlfriend who will treat you as well as you treat her because she will instinctively know that you're afraid you can't get anyone else. Hogwash! Just be yourself. Hang out in the places that you like to hang out - the girls who show up there already have an interest that you share. In other words, if you have a penchant for Shakespeare, go to the library, pick up Much Ado About Nothing, have a good, quiet read, and scope out the girls who are reading other Shakespearean plays or sonnets. Then you have a natural in: Oh, I haven't read Taming of the Shrew yet, is it good? That kind of thing. And I've got news for you that might make you feel a little better too. The latest statistic is that men -- ALL men -- think about sex about every six seconds. I mean it really makes me wonder how any of y'all get anything done during the day. But most men accomplish quite a bit throughout the day, even with some part of their mind preoccupied with sex. In the meantime, it's just a matter of disciplining your thoughts, and bringing your thoughts into obedience of your conscious mind. As time goes on you'll find out that it's not as difficult as it sounds. It really is a matter of redirecting your thoughts onto the tasks at hand. But you're in no way a freak of nature because you think about sex all day long. Most people do. As far as kinky stuff? You're pretty much in line with most men there, too. Don't stress over this stuff. Keep your hair washed and clean, your teeth brushed, your nails trim and neat -- long nails on a guy is SUCH a turnoff. Make sure your clothes are clean and well put together, and don't bathe in men's fragrances or aftershave. Having a guy that you can smell from around the block is also something that most girls can't take. Be yourself and don't try too hard. Desperation can be seen from a mile away, and it can be a turnoff to some girls, and a sign of great weakness to be taken advantage of by other girls. And there's nothing wrong with just asking a girl out for coffee and not necessarily a date. Getting to know someone over coffee and study time is a good way to meet someone, and to know whether they're someone you want to spend some more time with. It's a "safe afternoon" with no expectations and no stress. After a couple coffee afternoons with someone where you've had good conversation, then you can say, Hey, wanna get something to eat? Where do you want to go? Slow, easy, no stress, safe. . .that's what a lot of girls are looking for. Love comes slowly and with time. Any relationship that starts quickly usually ends quickly too. So take your time, and don't feel like you have to jump in bed five minutes after the introductions because that is a major turnoff too. Good luck, and don't be depressed. By all reading, you are a perfectly normal guy.

Answer 4

Maybe you should talk about your feelings with someone; like a friend or a relative. It sounds like you have plenty of people in your life around you. Are you going through some stuff right now and just feel alone? If you talk about it maybe you'll find someone who feels just the same way you do. Everything is easier in life if you have someone to go through it with, someone who can relate. Plus talking is good for the soul, it's good to let out your thoughts and feelings. You'll feel better and soon you'll become closer to those around you. Maybe even help a friendship or relationship grow. Who knows........

Answer 5

My dad gave me some advice, I will pass on to you... If it bothers you to think about it, then don't think about it. You do control what you think about... think about others instead of yourself as it is a good distraction. Perhaps you can help others or even see you don't have it too bad. Everyone has problems to deal with and getting focused off yours is a good place to start.

Answer 6

Sounds similar to me but I have a lot to be upset about so my reasons are valid, if not being occupied by company, you are depressed but I'm sure you have no reason to be dear.I think it might be a little anxiety too so get it checked out.

Answer 7

Trust me, the main cause is lack of certain nutrients.

i suffer(benefit actually) from a rare disease called (i forgot the name). it makes my nerve systems ultra sensitive, so i memorize things quite differently than other people. I touch things and smell them instead of just looking at them.

from my experience, i feel sad whenever my stomach gets angry.

so i think it;s lack of food(nutrients).

Answer 8

well i dont kno if it happens to every 1 but yea sometimes when
i dont do something i start thinking and i feel lonely and sad .........

Answer 9

that's exactly what happening to me.