I have lied to him over and over again. I promise him I will be honest, but i end up lying again.
2007-10-09 17:47:55 · 8 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think that you might have a compulsive lying disorder, i think that you should really get tested for it and see someone, and no i'm not being mean, i'm serious. if you try but you can't help it there might be a medical reason for it....don't let this just slip by, do you, your family, friends and bf a favor and go get tested for it, i'm sure that your doc will be able to lead you in the right direction....hope that this helped!
2007-10-09 17:53:00 · answer #1 · answered by amyhwoods 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to stop lying, is to figure out WHY you do it in the first place. Are you trust-able? Do you do things you really shouldn't just to see if you can get away with it?
If you are a honest person and aren't doing anything bad or illegal, there should not be a valid REASON to lie. If you sneak around and do things people would not like, then you need to do some real soul searching to find out what you think will be gained by that.
Not too many sane people can tolerate a sneak or a habitual liar (yes, you are) for very long - it gets to the point where nothing you say is believable - if you want to have no friends, you are getting there, believe me. IF you find you CANNOT stop lying, then you are a pathological liar - meaning you need professional help or you WILL end up dead or in prison.
If there is good reason to lie, you need to change your choice of things to do. If you lie for no good reason, ASK yourself WHY you want to make yourself look like a jerk.
2007-10-09 18:06:31 · answer #2 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I went out with a guy that did that. We had been going out a short time and I caught him out on a lie. I discussed this with him,especially as I can't stand lies. He denied it till he could no more. Then he apoligised and said he would not do it again. This happened more often-me catching him out on lies. Each time same responce from him.
The lies were no little thing, he even invented a daughter he supposedly had. Then he made the story up as he went along. He lived the lie,even to the extent that he suddenly said the daughter had died from being abused. It got so bizzarre. And the trouble was everyone believed him with the lies he told. I was however catching him out over and over. But he was lying to everyone.He even created a situation where we were traveling across the country to go to the "dead daughters" funeril. Then we got there nothing happened. Nothing followed through with what he was saying.
One day a lady rang me and it happened he was living a double live with her and me. With both of us he portrayed a different person,although same name. So naturally I finished with him when he got to my place. He got quite aggressive and I ended up calling the police. It turned out they already knew him!! He had a history of being in trouble with them for dishonesty crimes.He was a compulsive liar, and I don't think he said a single honest word in the time we were together.
I got fake documents sent to me care of him. And one was pretending he was dead. There was no limit to the lies that came out of his mouth.
I am not sure what makes you tell your boyfriend lies. I wonder if you tell everyone lies or just him. Whether it is because you don't trust him or why. Or whether you are a compulsive liar or not. Some people have compulsive personalities. And they just feel that they must do certain things. How to stop this if you are a compulsive liar, I am not sure. But you would need to seek advice from your doctor or medical professional.
The thing is, in any relationship-nobody deserves to be, or wants to be lied to. So you do really need to address why this is happening.
Best wishes and I hope you can find a solution to this!!
2007-10-09 18:25:25 · answer #3 · answered by Forgetmenotshell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like you have climbed up a steep slope that is very slippery. You hate lying to him most or all the time. If you want to stop this then you will have to come clean on everything you have ever lied about. This is the only solution.
2007-10-09 17:56:40 · answer #4 · answered by TicToc.... 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You Lied and lied hoping he wouldent find out, lied to try make things better or to try to make him feel better? Iv been there recently and i discoverd that the only way to stop is to realise what happends to make u feel like u have to lie.. Try talk to him about it and ask for his help ask him to help you thru it and that u have a problem and to own up to ur problem dont tell him how he feels and thinks let him be mad and angry just tell him the truth even though ur scared because of how u think he may act, even if it hurts to be shouted at it will be nothing compaird to how it feels for him to find out ur lying , try to be honest if u love him then u will try n putt hes feelings befor ur own, if he askes if u have seen anyone today and say " nah, nobody" and u have just say"hey im sorry when u asked if id seen anyone.. I was wrong i seen ect. "And say that ur sorry and u realised ur mistake and similar questions like that & think about his feelings befor your own 😊
-hope i helped
2015-11-09 12:47:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he the only person that you lie to? If he is, the you must not trust him. If you trusted him, you would not feel the compulsion to lie to him.
If he is not the only person that you lie to, then you may be a compulsive liar. Seeking professional help would make your life so much better.
2007-10-09 17:53:16 · answer #6 · answered by Phill Lee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you keep lying to him ?
2007-10-09 17:54:57 · answer #7 · answered by JustANiceGuyHere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
idk but think of it this way if you dont stop lying he will figure out that you constantly lie and he wil dump you so if u keep lying he will dump you
2007-10-09 17:50:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋