today was bad, I thought I had completely driven him away and he said that earliar but tonight he texts me I explain why I have been crazy (family issues) apologize and he says thats ok but right now we need space and to give it time. He says he still really cares about me. Arguing combined with school work for both of us is stressful. I know he has no one else. I want to give him time but I love him...is space ever a good thing?
2007-10-09 16:52:09 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i do believe by respecting what he wants, he will miss me
2007-10-09 16:53:59 · update #1
no, his family loves me and his mom says im the best thing thats ever happened to him
2007-10-09 16:58:29 · update #2
oh jeez I could go on for ever. I had the same problem today, and tried to type it out, but it would go on and on and on. I'll make it short and sweet.
I'd give him his space and look into other options during this time. Take the time to mostly think about you and your family issues. Also focus on school FIRST! Your degree will stay with you FOREVER, your boyfriend might not.
Especially if he "needs his space"
Remember, your life is not dependent on the person you're with. Its dependent on YOU!
Try to find reasons to smile, while your giving him space.
If you argue a lot, you might want to find someone that doesn't carry a bad attitude. It will ONLY get worse.
good luck!.
2007-10-09 16:54:14 · answer #1 · answered by Mercury 2010 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First question that I'm answering is completely relevant to what is going on in my own life. My boyfriend and I are also giving each other "space." In my case it is a good thing, we still see each other very often just not spend 24 hours 7 days a week together. However, in your case he is your EX and that is the difference. Being broken up lets loose a whole other spectrum of things he's able to do again since he's single. I'm not trying to scare you but it all comes down to trust right now. If you trust him, let him have his space. There's no harm in it.
2007-10-09 16:57:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, space can be used as a time to think about your relationship and where you want it to go. It also gives the person time to realize how much they care. If he wants space, give it to him. During this time, try not to be available every time he wants to talk. If he wants space then he should have it but not just when he wants it. Sometimes when we get all stresses out, we take it out on the ones we love the best. We don't always treat them as well as we would a stranger.
2007-10-09 16:59:06 · answer #3 · answered by Jodi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you are both busy in your own lives, there is always room for space. add to this school work and family problems, there has to be room to allow the other person the time to work on what needs to be done. The thing that gets me is you state ex, that would normally mean you are no longer together, let time take care of what needs to be, then if you get back together, take it from there.
2007-10-09 16:58:07 · answer #4 · answered by julvrug 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive been in the same situation as you...and everytime me and my bf have a big fight he always ends up saying that we need space...we do spend a lot of time together, see each other everyday and most nights too...but the space normally lasts maximum 1 day...if he really does care about you..there is no harm in giving space..you might realize that you needed it to..i know i do sometimes...its hard to accept it because its looked at negatively..as if its the beginning of a break up.....if you love him and he loves you.. there shouldnt be anything to worry about...
2007-10-09 16:57:20 · answer #5 · answered by SnOwflake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he really needs space. As far as i know about relationships, i guess you have overburdened him with your problems and fought with him over it. Sorry to be rude, but he has his own life too. dont forget that you were with each other for love and not for fighting.
So stop being crabby. He wont miss you but he is saying this to be nice.
2007-10-09 16:59:43 · answer #6 · answered by ILoveMyDS 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Space is a good thing. You need room to be who you are and allow him space to be who he is. Don't cramp each other's style, I'd say. You need space to learn and grow and become the wonderful people I know you can be! Good luck!
2007-10-09 16:55:24 · answer #7 · answered by Laci 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Space is a good thing. Just not to long or something was really wrong to begin with.
2007-10-09 16:55:49 · answer #8 · answered by Buff Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The meaning of this is:
your EX needs space. Give it to him/her
2007-10-09 16:54:08 · answer #9 · answered by Dave 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
heck deos his family like you I know when I was having the same problem with my girl it was the family and its not easy when your family and your girl don't get alond plus a girlfriend shoulld try to make it easier on your boyfriend same for the boyfriend you need to work it out together and make sure your families get along
2007-10-09 16:56:34 · answer #10 · answered by Charlie H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋