Quiet girl usually keeps to herself but has gradually been talking a little more lately. Very soft-spoken though. Tends to look downwards more than she makes eye contact but if she catches your eye, she will give a warm, genuine smile. Appears to show concern for others and is very empathetic. Always greets you with a smile.
But while answering a question today, she appeared to fumble over an answer and paused as if she was searching for the right words and still seemed to struggle with verbalizing her thoughts. Seemed like she blanked out and stumbled over her response. She then pulled back and didn't offer any additional ideas. Pretty much remained quiet after that.
What would you think of her? Does she give off a good/bad impression? Would you gravitate towards her or distance yourself?
2007-10-09 16:38:29 · 14 answers · asked by Chelsea 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
she just seems very shy to me. i wouldn't consider it a bad or a good impression. the always greeting with a smile is what gives off the best impression, though. i would probably gravitate towards her until she gave me a reason not to. i'd ask her how her day was going, comment on her shoes... anything to get her to talk and open up a bit. i like most people, though, even the shyest ones. and i'm a little shy myself sometimes, so i can relate.
also, she might just have a bit of social anxiety (well, obviously, with being shy...). thats what the whole fumbling over her answer thing tells me. kind of an odd frozen, deer in the headlights, everyone is staring at me, brain working too slow or too fast, sort of feeling. i get that sometimes.
2007-10-09 16:46:07 · answer #1 · answered by lynn 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If what you say is true that she seems to be effected by others in an emotional way, empathetic, that is, then you might try breaking the ice. This may help her feel more at ease and hopefully she won’t fumble her words or blank out. As far as gravitating or distancing, I’d give it a little time.
2007-10-10 00:00:50 · answer #2 · answered by TicToc.... 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well she doesnt give a bad impression to say.. but a person should always be out going and a lil outspoken.. you should not be afraid to be you or say how you feel. People would not be able to tell of your great personality or mabe even lack there of if you dotn make your self known. I personally would rather talk to somone that i have same interests with or somone that is not really shy. Now in the words of gravitating.. it depends on who u are trying to attract.. and guess what some guys like girls to be shy.. thats how they get to show off their manlyness per say .. but being a lil more outspoken can get you places.. n get you to know a lot more people after all we are social beings
2007-10-09 23:52:59 · answer #3 · answered by tifarih 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'll gravitate towards her and encourage her instead. After all, she's a quiet girl who doesn't talk much. Her personality shouldn't be a hindrance to all who wants to give her the support. Your support and encouragement will make her a better person with giving a better impression.
2007-10-10 02:10:35 · answer #4 · answered by superb2dmax 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She just sounds shy. She started to come out of her shell until she was frustrated. Some people have a hard time expressing themselves when they are not comfortable. That does not make them a bad person. It will get easier for her when she is more comfortable with everyone. Try to help her. She has not done anything wrong to make someone want to distance themselves from her. I would give her a chance and get to know her better.
2007-10-09 23:49:00 · answer #5 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would think that she is unconfident and uncomfortable in group situations. Shy people take time to come out of their shell but with a friendly environment and some small achievments they can build confidence and open up socialy with others. Some people just need more practice then others well others need to feel safe with the people they are around in order to open up.
2007-10-09 23:52:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am totally like the girl you have described. She is just shy and nervous.
Give her time to warm up to you and she will be fine and come out of her shell once she gets to know you more.
Don't distance yourself from her because then she may become uncomfortable again and start going back to her old ways.
2007-10-09 23:56:20 · answer #7 · answered by Ordinary_Gurl 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think I would try to befriend her and work with her on her confidence. She seems to lack self-confidence. It doesn't appear that she has a reason to. If she is young and just starting out, it sounds like she could do just fine with a little help, guidance, and confidence.
2007-10-09 23:43:00 · answer #8 · answered by Purdey EP 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with being a little shy. Everyone stumbles once in awhile.
2007-10-09 23:43:56 · answer #9 · answered by scorch_22 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She sounds like a very shy girl. Be a friend to her. It's difficult for shy people to make friends.
2007-10-09 23:46:06 · answer #10 · answered by curious connie 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋