I know that my boyfriend is going to propose to me soon because I picked out the ring and everything & our 3 year anniversary is right around the corner. I want to know how I can get him to be excited about proposing to me? He thinks he can just put the ring in my hand and say "let's get hitched" pretty much. He isn't very romantic. Im afraid my "big" proposal day isn't going to be so big and memorable. Any ideas or suggestions...?
2007-10-09 16:03:56 · 20 answers · asked by jojobeans185 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
um, I think i would be worried if my boyfriend was not excited about proposing to me. If he isn't excited, you guys are not on the same page. My husband said he was excited to propose...romantic or no romantic.
2007-10-09 17:37:34 · answer #1 · answered by klm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Romantic or not, this is who you say you want to spend the rest of your life with, so with that, accept who he is and how he does things. You're jumping the gun in assuming that he's going to "unromantically" propose to you. How do you know that? You don't. Give him some slack and I'm sure your proposal will go over fine. No matter what he does, keep in mind that he's asking you to marry him, and even if it's not some movie-inspired, rose petal filled room and a horse-drawn carriage ride, the end result will be the same. My fiancee proposed to me while I was on the couch in my bathrobe watching a Jefferson's re-run. It meant more to me that he did it and I knew that he wanted us to spend our lives together, then where we were at the time. And I wouldn't have it any other way. Lighten up and have a great time. Best wishes.
2007-10-10 01:38:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, my proposal was memorable for the sheer fact that my husband goofed the getting on one knee part the first time and asked a second time on his knee. A big, dramatic proposal wasn't what made it memorable. Being with HIM and having something to laugh about later made it memorable.
You're going to be in for a lot of disappointment in this if you're looking for something he isn't. Big or small, romantic or otherwise, a proposal can have it's own way of being memorable. Stop worrying about the minor details and be glad he loves you enough to want to propose...in HIS way.
2007-10-09 17:29:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are going to get him excited about proposing if he isn't already, but drop the hints. Tell him about so and so who just got proposed to and how it happened. Sigh and say things like that's so romantic, every girl dreams of something like that. All you can do is hint, because if you come out and say something you are going to give him the jitters and then you are headed backwards not forwards. Take him to see a romantic comedy, have a mutual friend drop an idea in his ear (without making it to contrived) etc.
2007-10-10 02:43:37 · answer #4 · answered by L H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My finace was the same way! We had talked about marriage and I knew that he had bought the ring because a good friend told me.... anyway... I prompted a lot of the engagement discussion and explained that I wanted it to be memorable.
Well, he went way above what I expected out of him because he is not every romantic either. He proposed at the lake (where we both love) randomly and even got down on one knee!
Just talk to him about making it memorable for you. Brandon understood that and made it romantic in his own way.
2007-10-09 16:53:00 · answer #5 · answered by Renn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're marrying who he is, not who you wish he was. If he's not a romantic guy and you need romance, STEP BACK. You can't change him or his feelings, and you need to realize that now.
I'm also concerned that you're making the proposal "my 'big' proposal day." Isn't it yours, PLURAL?
I'm concerned that you want to be able to tell all your female friends about the Big Frou Frou Romantic Gesture as you flash your rock, and that you're letting that desire take precedence over loving your boyfriend and his personality. Love him for who he is, or for goodness sake don't say yes.
The proposal is a moment. The wedding is a day. Marriage is supposed to be for life.
2007-10-10 02:46:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
The proposal is not important.. My husband did not even really propose to me.. I did not have an engagement ring or anything.. what we have is more important than a big memorable proposal or anything is.. A big memory to me is when I was so sick (Crohn's Disease) and he took me to see my parents and he stopped at a little church and just danced to our song with me. That is big and memorable espeically since i was so sick i ended up in the er.
2007-10-09 16:38:13 · answer #7 · answered by harleigh_brat 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
whoa, girl. if he takes out a ring and asks you to marry him, that is memorable in itself, dont start out making him FAIL this with you. it is not wise. it does not bode well.
whatever he does, it is a huge step for him and every detail of it, whether it is only a minute or a caribbean cruise, is YOUR special moment. cherish it, and him.
that is not a suggestion, i am insisting that whatever he does you tell him it is the most romantic moment of your life, and you will have done two things, gotten engaged, and gotten engaged to a man who at that moment feels so good that you are happy that he would do anything for you. that IS romantic, honey,
trust me.
2007-10-09 17:07:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you just said it he's not romantic. If you looking for romance, your with the wrong one. And if that is what you want in a relationship not only will your proposal day will be ruined.
2007-10-09 16:21:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
well, do you know for sure that he's going to propose on your anniversary itself? maybe he's playing it cool in front of you and inside he's planning something really special. or it could be he's just a bit nervous and is trying to not let this overwhelm him. either way, it will be special since you don't know exactly where or when he will propose. congrats.
2007-10-09 16:15:02 · answer #10 · answered by Wishing on a Dream 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋