Okay, I'm 25, in college, about 5'6", 135 lbs, brown hair (sometimes dyed black), gray eyes, glasses.
For this question, it might help to look at my my picture at: www.myspace.com/gingivere
Okay, I'm really shy and have a hard time meeting new people. But once I know you I'm fine.
I'm not really into sports or any of the macho stuff. I'm into computers (but not gaming), reading, writing, history. I occasionally party, but not to excess. I drive a crappy old car, and currently don't have a job or much money.
I'm not a 'bad boy' and I'm not a cocky asshole - and I refuse to become one just to MAYBE have a girl like me.
I've only had two serious girlfriends in my entire life - the last one was almost two years ago now. I've never done any sort of casual dating, and never asked anyone out (except for maybe once in high school).
Is there any hope for me? I'm starting to think that I'm really not attractive in ANY way.
2007-10-09 15:34:45 · 22 answers · asked by tryandfindus 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Perspective check: two serious girlfriends does not equal "never." It's happened before, even if it wasn't ultimately successful; odds are lightning will eventually strike again.
That out of the way, you have no idea how many acquaintances' hearts you may have broken by not taking the initiative. For better or for worse (worse, in your case), many girls are still conditioned to wait for an unequivocal sign that a guy's into them before doing anything that could recognizably be considered "making a move." Figure out the difference between having confidence and being an asshole, and you'll see--or rather, recognize--more interest.
2007-10-09 15:46:02 · answer #1 · answered by MM 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a girl but I'll have a go.
At 25 you've had two serious girlfriends, so you've done well! You seem like a serious kind of guy, the biggest problem is probably that you're shy, and most young girls will be interested in fun.
You're definately not ugly. Hold in there! You'll meet a really nice girl soon.
2007-10-09 16:58:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the problem is your shyness.
You said that you're a really shy person, why don't you try to be more outgoing,I mean, try to be active into social groups, when you can meet any kinds of interesting people and make new friends.
Or maybe you just haven't found the right girl for you. There's nothing to be worried about. You're still young. I said you better finished your college and have a kick-*** job, and everything would be easier. OK? good luck!
2007-10-09 15:46:32 · answer #3 · answered by sweetorange4784 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're ALMOST my twin - though I'm still in the middle of that second relationship ;););)
Things just have a way of working out - just DON'T give up hope. I have talked (casually) to a LOT of girls over the years (to help gain THEIR perspective on things) - and one thing that stands out is CONFIDENCE. Even if you don't FEEL confident, you at least need to ACT like you are - just don't take it to the extreme (the "cocky asshole").
Besides - acting like a prick will only get you the wrong sort of girl!
The flip side of this is also true - women can LITERALLY smell DESPERATION from across the room, and it is a HUGE turnoff (unless they are looking for a chump to mooch off of - or to buy them drinks)...
Surprisingly, the best advice I can offer is to just "Let it be". Do NOT obsess over finding someone (this IS desperation), and spend your time enjoying your life as it is. This way, any potential (future) girlfriend will see you acting CASUAL and RELAXED (and not "on the prowl") ;);););)
2007-10-09 15:51:56 · answer #4 · answered by Captain Canuck 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No offense in any way, but in your pictures, you look WAY TOO uptight. In fact you look like you're scared of getting rejected or offended by someone. Which is okay. But my advice is to at least look like you don't give a **** about what people think of you. This drives women wild!!! I'd know. I know you're not a bad boy or cocky asshole. But if you can walk around on your face and look like one. You'll get plenty of chicks!!! And don't worry you don't have to continue to act like a cocky asshole. If you can simply get the chicks to come up to you, the rest from there is CakeWalk Brotha!!! Take my advice and find out. Try it out, and tell me if it works or not. My Myspace account is www.myspace.com/curtisdynamite. Good luck and best Wishes :)
2007-10-09 15:45:17 · answer #5 · answered by CurtisE 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have no idea how many girls out there are saying, "I don't dress like a tart, and I'm not really outgoing, and I don't think I'm hot but neither am I ugly. Why can't I find a guy?"
There ARE girls out there for you. Relax and enjoy socializing with the people you meet. Put yourself out there a wee bit by asking a girl out for coffee. Even if it's no big romance, you could have a new friend and she might have a friend. . .
It WILL happen for you.
2007-10-09 15:41:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Accidentally? Not sure how that happens,but I've gotten hit on by women many times.
2016-04-08 00:19:07 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want a girl to answer you and you know that.
By now i'm sure you know from experience that females have a difficult time articulating exactly what they want in a guy.
Which is why nice guys are left confused and alone.
You don't have to be an asshole, but you do need to be cocky. The trick is using what David DeAngelo calls "Cocky Comedy". You be cocky, but you make the girl laugh. You tease her, but in a fun way.
Throw some "kino" (google it) in there and you'll be good to go.
Enjoy.
2007-10-09 15:46:10 · answer #8 · answered by vthokie4ever 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
the shyness might be an issue. and girls LIKE assholes. Women don't, but girls do. And the fact you don't like sports and are into computers kinda puts off a gay/nerd vibe. I'd put myself into a situation youre not used to. Like a bar or club. Women go clubbing not so they can hang out with their friends (they could do that in their homes) but so they can meet men and find a connection. Put yourself outside of your comfort zone. You'd be surprised by your results.
2007-10-09 15:41:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you should worry about it. :) You sound like a nice guy to me. It's probably because you have a hard time meeting you people, that can be a *****. =\
Not every girl is into the macho guy and stuff, lol, just keep your chin up.
Hope I helped
2007-10-09 15:40:18 · answer #10 · answered by Kendra 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋