I am a freshmen in HS this year and have never had a boyfriend...ONLY crushes. I have never been kissed and never been on a date..... I am kinda a shy person but I thought that I would have a bf by now. All of the guys I like are preppy and popular and I am neither of that. Did anyone else not date much in high school but later on found some one?? I want to grow up and get married but based on middle school and part of high school...I will probably be an old maid. And I highly doubt I will get a bf in the rest of my hs years cuz i live in a small town and all the people in my grade, i am not interested in cuz i have grown up with them since elementary school. Everyone I know has had a boyfriend....and i haven't. I am scared some people will start to think I am a lesbo even though I am NOT! I know that there are some guys that like me but I don't have the same feelings for them that they do for me......is that okay???? I don't really want a bf right now anyways. Please give me advice.
2007-10-09 15:02:41 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're a freshman in high school! Don't worry about dating! You're still young. Besides, how many serious, mature relationships do you think everyone else your age (who has dated) has had? I'd guess the answer to that would be zero. You can't base your future life on middle school and the beginning of your freshman year. I never dated until I was 21. I met the man that would become my best friend and then boyfriend and now we are planning on getting married. He's the only person I've dated and I know it's been the best thing to wait! I'm glad I didn't have a high school relationship. It wouldn't have been worth it. Your life isn't over and you can't predict the future by where you are now. Keep waiting.
2007-10-09 15:09:06 · answer #1 · answered by Rockit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
went to a small high school. I guess I'm weird because whenever I found out a guy liked me I'd avoid them until I got the courage to tell them I don't have boyfriends. I did not want a boyfriend in high school because I already knew that my life really starts after I graduate. I didn't want any mixed feelings about anything. I had amazing guy friends (no not friends with benefits, sorry to disappoint) who loved to come to my house and make breakfast and watch movies on the weekends. I was a girls girl and a guys girl because I supported everyone, without putting another person down or being catty.
I guess I'm just a unique person. I met my boyfriend when I was 21 and we've been together for 7 years. I will not marry until I'm at least 30, and he's cool with it. I'm just comfortable with myself and others can tell I suppose.
2007-10-09 22:11:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What's the hurry?
I didn't date at all in school. Not because I didn't want to. I was shy, too. I had crushes, too. I had friends that had a steady girlfriend and I had friends that went through them like water, and at times, I wondered what was wrong with me. Hormones can play havoc with your head.
But there were other things to think about. Getting a job meant being able to have a few things and was step toward the independence that most of us want. School after high school. I didn't go looking for my first girlfriend, but I found her my freshman year of college. I was 18. I finally worked up the nerve to talk to her and found out she was as shy as I was, if not moreso. Just talking, then a friendship. Looking back after almost thirty years of being married to that girl, I'm glad I was a 'late bloomer'. Good things come to those who wait, or so it's said.
If you think you don't really want a boyfriend right now, perhaps your responsible side is saying that it's not all that important at this stage in your life. It really isn't.
Of course it's okay to not be interested in someone as they might be in you. Even I, insecure as I was, recognized that there were girls I could easily have gone out with, if I had been interested. It's just that the ones I was interested in never seemed to notice.
And you're just a freshman in high school. You have a long time ahead of you, and plenty of time for dating when the time is right. If you're like me, you won't know when the right time is. It'll just happen. Let it happen in its own time. Don't let peer pressure force you into not being yourself.
2007-10-09 22:28:39 · answer #3 · answered by curtisports2 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 13 you are way too young to have a boyfriend. Allow yourself to grow up and mature enough to handle a relationship before trying to get involved with a boy as more than a friend. I doubt if your parents would even allow you to date at this age anyway. I didn't allow my daughters to date until age 16 and then it was only to supervised school dances and church functions. Just grow up a bit before taking on the pressures of being grown up.
2007-10-09 22:10:41 · answer #4 · answered by Country girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a statistic in a special Bible i found that said 50% of girls and 40% of guys will make it through High school without dating
2007-10-09 22:20:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't worry
when you get older and move out of the house, you'll meet people
just because your guy doesn't live where you are now doesn't mean he isn't out there!
2007-10-09 22:07:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋