What do you think of a guy who every time he looks at you says I love you, over and over after dating 9 months .. Don't you think one or two times a day is enough? Is he insecure, or boring.. can;t think of anything else to say?
2007-10-09 14:43:53 · 30 answers · asked by enquiring mind 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I do say it back butI have gotten to the point of saying nothing sometimes.. it is too much! To Say I love you too constantly is really weird. I tell him I love him on my own and when ending conversations at night and he should know I love him without saying it all the time...
2007-10-09 14:49:10 · update #1
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2007-10-09 14:51:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be either or neither! He sounds a bit insecure but perhaps he's simply overwhelmed by his feelings for you! Only you can say if he's boring...does he talk about other things or is he speechless when he gets next to you? If it annoys you that much I think I might bring it up in a nice way and ask why he feels the need to say that so many times during the course of a day! I've had that happen to me a couple of times and it got to the point where I had to leave the relationship! I really never wanted anyone in my life that was so starry-eyed.
2007-10-09 15:06:53 · answer #2 · answered by Chris B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to cool off. He's too into it and is probably insecure either about himself or the relationship. Tell him he needs to stop saying it so much or it will drive you away (say it a little nicer then that of course, you can put your own spin on it). Trust me, I've been down this road with a couple of guys, usually it doesn't end good, so be prepared for the worst.
2007-10-09 14:48:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with petier k.though its so nice for women like us to hear our partner say i love you all the time,as with everything else too much can be harmful.it can also leave you feeling doubtful as well coz sometimes (& correct me if im wrong) you may be thinking he's starting to sound insincere as well coz he kept on saying i love you nearly all the time.
on the other hand though,why not try to have a heart to heart talk with your guy & see if there's any specific reason why he had to keep on assuring you with words that he does love you.it may be that he's way down sincere but something in his past(unloving parents or perhaps parents who were too affectionate with each other,a gf whom he loved but had'nt shown much affection to & lost her in the end) makes him do what he's been doing in your relationship.maybe he had this belief that saying i love you all the time is the only assurance that we women need,perhaps he may be cheating from under your nose but wouldn't want you to know or find out .the list can be endless & you'll just be left wondering for a long time until you make a move & know his thoughts & reason(s) for doing & saying what he should be just expressing & feeling & tell him that you want his love for you to be more than just mere words.
good luck & i sincerely wish you can discuss this matter with him.
2007-10-09 15:04:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you may be a bit too good for him and he is so happy to be with you and to him its surreal so he wants you to know how much you love him so you dont get away. Or your relationship may be tricky like mine (long story) so I say it alot a week not 40x and my boy says it randomly but thats because it wont mean as much if he said a million times, talk to this guy and explain your thought and ask him why??
2007-10-09 14:49:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say he is very insecure with the relationship. Sord of like he thinks you are too good for him and will eventually figure it out. It is almost unhealthy to say it that much. It should be special when someone says it and not just say it cause thats what you think the person wants to hear.
2007-10-09 14:47:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well for starters, he loves you! Possibly more than you love him, and he senses that. He needs a feeling of love, even though you may think you show that you love him, he may not feel as loved as he needs to feel. In a way he is insecure, but I think he just wants extra attention from you.
2007-10-09 14:58:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would like it if my boyfriend told me that 40x a day. Maybe he just wants you to know he loves you, or hes insecure.
2007-10-09 14:55:33 · answer #8 · answered by emitinpink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a little scary to me personally (I'm a guy). I tend to be suspicious of people who constantly try to affirm their love, or people who are always smiling... something is not right there. He may be insecure or possibly even cheating.
2007-10-09 14:51:43 · answer #9 · answered by musiclover 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him to one of those chicks who can't get their guy to say it. and call it a charity case. Actually I hate to be the one to blow this guys game but he's really sneaky smart. He's gotten what he wanted from you and now he wants you to dump him. What you should start doing is saying it back to him every time he says it to you. Beat him at his own game.
2007-10-09 14:46:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a mixture of boring and insecure. Tell him to stop saying it so much because it loses meaning when it is said so routinely.
2007-10-09 14:46:41 · answer #11 · answered by Pieter K 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋