Which is more immoral, carelessly getting pregnant knowing one?

Question

cannot possibly afford the child or having an abortion because it would interfere with lifestyle?

Answer 1

Both are immoral...both are heartless and self-centered actions that put your own needs above the needs of an innocent child. I can't pretend to judge the morality of the decision in terms of the long-term consequences to the child...is a life of poverty worse or better than no life at all. However, I do think the person that chooses to avoid the consequences of one immoral act by committing a second immoral act is certainly "more immoral" than the one that accepted the consequences of her mistake.

The simple fact is that the decision to have sex carries with it the possibility of pregnancy (unless one is medically sterile of course!). If you don't want or can't support a child, then getting pregnant is, by definition, careless. It indicates that your own desire for sex was more important than the life of a child. How many people would think it is OK to sacrifice the well-being or even the life of a child they know (a niece/nephew/cousin...even just that cute kid in line at the grocery store) in order to have sex just one time?

It is sad that people are so consumed with their desire for sex that they forget to take even the simplest precautions to prevent an unwanted or unwise pregnancy. A person that can't afford a child AND a person that doesn't want to change his or her lifestyle to accomodate a child should be doing everything in their power to prevent pregnancy (for example, the "condom, spermicide, rhythm method" combination is inexpensive and nearly foolproof). Failure to do so is immoral.

Answer 2

Abortion. There are always other options besides abortion.

I got pregnant with my daughter when I was 17 years old, and my boyfriend and I didn't have any outside support from our families. I'd never worked in my life, but when all my stuff was thrown out of my grandma's house onto the front porch, I knew I was going to have to do something. I worked 3 jobs and went to high school, my boyfriend worked 2 and went to high school. We worked our butts off to get an apartment and to be able to afford things for the baby.

We were young and stupid, and carelessly got pregnant, but we used the situation to become mature adults. We have struggled through some hard times, but I wouldn't trade them for anything if it meant trading my daughter.

So you see, you can make a mistake and still redeem yourself. Having an abortion simply out of convenience just makes you a coward.

Answer 3

Who are we to judge others.
Are we pure enough to cast the first stone.

If one is too poor and got pregnant she should be allowed to abort the child unless the society is ready and has the resources to take over the child (if she consents only) and/or giving funds and facilities to look after the child as best as another rich person in the society.

If a person has a life-style why should the Society interfere/dictate with the her actions/abortion unless the society is ready to solve her problems to her satisfaction and let her get back to her life-style.

We are discussing morality and not legalities.

Answer 4

In this scenario I would have to say abortion. I'm pro-choice but to have an abortion because a baby would interfere with your lifestyle isn't right to me. There are other choices. And to address the other side, There is a lot of help available to people with low incomes and there is also adoption.

Answer 5

Having an abortion is wrong. I don't really know, I can't say because someone doesn't have money makes them careless. I am against abortion. What about people having a baby with money, but neglect them? Abortion is wrong. I would prefer someone to have a baby and have no money, and they could always make money later. Abortion also is considered murder.

Answer 6

Have any of you ever been in that position? Because unless you have been there, you have no right to judge, because you have no idea, what that woman is going through!
How about more compassion, and less self righteousness! Your biblical law, and sense of right and wrong, are not the beliefs of everyone!
Get a heart, will, ya?

Answer 7

Having kids is the worst most selfish choice. It is better to abort than to create another polluting consuming human being.
Abortion is a great empowerment to women so they ALWAYs have control of their reproductive destiny. No one can tell a woman what to do in our country.

Abortion is a saving grace to many lives. It is immoral to judge anyone regarding this decision.

Answer 8

How about the girl that carelessly gets raped, has the child because everyone says she should, then absolutely hates it because it embodies her rapist? That sounds like a winner to me.

Answer 9

Hard to say, an one often leads to the other.

Answer 10

abortion, is very wrong, if you can not afford the baby, there are many couples out there who cant have children who love to have that baby and give it a great home.