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I am greek orthodox my fiance has no religion. In order for us to get married in a greek church he has to get baptized. I want a greek wedding because thats what I grew up seeing and thats what I know. The only problem is I would have to become a member almost $400 a year and so would the maid of honor (my sister) My mom also say we have to get married in a greek church lol its not her decition but she is paying for SOME of the wedding so I am scared to loose the money. Is it bad to tell the priest I do not have $400 to be a member and I DO NOT want to go to church every sunday or every other sunday. I dont want to be pressured to go to church on my days off or pay just to get married. I belive I can pray in my own house. WIll the priest be offended?? Thanks!

Answer 1

The question is very difficult to answer because there is a lot of apathy and indifference. Many Greek Orthodox marry in courthouses and separate themselves from the church. In this state of separation, not having a church wedding is very appropriate since tensions will be reduced and financial obligations minimized.

The Orthodox faith is more about money and being forced to follow "rules." Some Orthodox are happy to go to church daily and others choose to separate themselves for whatever reasons. The Orthodox faith believes in Communion with Jesus and billions of people have separated from the communion for whatever reasons. If one feels comfortable marrying an agnostic person in a courthouse; so be it without opinions from family, priests and no mandate to pay $400 to become a member.

Answer 2

First off a Methodist Church is not a Catholic Church The Wesley bros John and Charles formed the roots of the Methodist Church in the mid to late 1700's. Since that time many changes have taken place and brought about the present day United Methodist Church Because it is a Christ based church they may be assuming that you are Baptized and therefore say this based purely on assumption It would be a good Idea to ask if it is required before the wedding. It is a simple matter to do and the Methodist Church sprinkles I believe. It is a service in which you take responsibility for behaving in a Christian or Christ based way.and have your previous sins symbolically washed away.and become "marked" as Christs own forever. A Christian marriage is one based in Christian belief and doctrine and sanctioned by any Christian Faith out there, Whereas a civil marriage only meets the requirement of the law. As to the kneeling, all Christians should feel comfortable to kneel at any time they are being blessed or praying, as that symbolically represents submission to the will and grace of Christ/God/ Holy Spirit Also known as the Holy Trinity of (God the father, God the son, God the Holy Spirit.) All religions have the ceremonial forms and this would appear to be theirs. If you do not know and understand about this religion and plan to be married in that faith you should simply ask to be instructed as to their beliefs and cannons. I am sure they would be happy to help you. It is always a good thing to invite God/ Christ into the marriage and not just to the wedding.Faith can move mountains.

Answer 3

My brother married a Greek orthodox girl in a Greek orthodox church. He was not baptized. Maybe it is up to the priest. They did the crown around the table thing 3 times and everything. Both of their sons were baptized at 6 months also.

Answer 4

Several things hit me wrong in your post:
You have to pay to be a member (this is absolutely ridiculous)
You have to become a member of the church even though you aren't committed to them
Your maid of honor has to pay and become a member
You don't want to lose money from your mother so you will be coerced into doing this her way JUST to get the money
You aren't committed to the belief but still want to use their facilities

Move your wedding date and wait to get married until you can pay for all of it yourself, then go to a wedding chapel or a nice park and get married and enjoy God's wonderful earth. He doesn't charge anything and you don't have to commit yourself to anything and be hypocritical just to get married and you won't be using your parents or anyone else.

I had a friend who married a Greek Orthodox believer where he and his family attend church. She did not have to join, she did not have to pay and neither did her sister or niece who were part of her wedding party.

No one should have to pay to become a member of a church. Christ already paid for our priviledge to be a member.

Answer 5

Honestly, don't go to a church. There are many other places that won't charge you an arm and a leg to hold a wedding ceremony there. Churches, wedding halls, reception halls, all charge way too much for things. I got married at a botanical garden and get this, my wedding cost a total of $2000 and we paid for everything. Bridesmaid dresses, the reception, the garden, everything. I had about 50 people at my wedding.

Answer 6

It's nice to know that true faith is so important to people.

have a greek wedding in a greek restaurant and don't insult the church by "playing" at something you don't really believe.

Answer 7

I am a Catholic so it is difficult for me to answer your question. Nonetheless, I don't see any reason why you shouldn't tell your priest about your situation. I think he will understand and find a solution to your problem.
God bless you!

Answer 8

You need to think why it is that you want to get married at this church. You are not even committed? It is OK, but think about it.

Answer 9

I think your finace has the better religious choice, join his instead.

Answer 10

HA... wow.. "it's so pretty in church.. and it's big.. and glamarous.. "

he might laugh at you lol

i did