help me im confused?

Question

my parents are divorced and my mom is seeing my dad again i am excited but every time he is in her life again she gets hurt and cries

im 13
and my mom is 26
she had me at age 13
and now we are best friends
i dont want tos ee her hurt do i tell her or do i tell my dad or what and i know she screwed up her last reletionship bc of him he came back rom london she just wont let him go im glad to see them together but i dont what to be the one holding her hand and telling my self i was right

and yes im aware that my mom had made a mistake in her life that brought me but she told me she has never regreted it

i didnt mean to say 13 or 26 i meant 16 and 32 sorry mis type and also my dad and mom have never been married

Answer 1

I went through a similar situation with my mother and a B.F. of hers (only he wasnt my father)

he treated her like a yo-yo, yanking her back in when ever he wanted her. She had always let me live my life, so i followed by her example and let her make her own decisions. Be supportive no matter what happens, but dont lie to her about the possible outcomes and it wouldnt hurt to say"mom, i know you have the right to your own decisions, and i will let you make them and be here for you no matter what those actions are, i just want you to know that this is how I feel. she knows in her heart he will not stay and will figure it out on her own, hopefully.

Answer 2

Ex's husbands and ex boyfriends are ex's for a reason. Sure people can change but if this relationship didn't work out the first or second time chances are it's not going to work the third. the saying third times a charm isnt always true. Your mom is obviously scared of being alone. My advice would be to talk to her and tell her she needs to love herself before she can love another. Just be there for her but also try to get her to see things from another angle. Your only 13 and shouldnt have to coach your mom on relationships ya know? but i do hope all works out :) best wishes


EDIT: if they were never married they cant be divorced.
either way the relationship is unhealthy for the both of them and unhealthy for you have to deal with it. 13 or 16 its not healthy or or job to be dealing with your moms problems. Maybe she should see a counselor and see what happens from there

Answer 3

Well first off has mum asked for your opinion?
If you too are such great friends then maybe she will ask you for some input, but be aware that if it is love there won't be anything you can do about it, maybe a three way chat between all of you may do some good.
Good luck in whatever happens