My husband has been deployed to Iraq for the past 15 months, he will be home soon and I invited his father up to see him (my FIL lives 2800 miles away), thinking he would only stay 1 week or 10 days, well his father called and said he wants to stay 2 months. I havent seen my husband in 15 months, i want some time to be alone with him. What can I do?
2007-10-09 13:11:03 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I understand how you feel. I, too am married to an Iraqi War vet. Put yourself in your father-in-laws shoes, though. He wants to spend more time with both you and his son.
You can find ways to be alone with your hubby while dad is here, surely. You could even take a trip together, leaving dad to take care of the house.
Also, it may help your husband adjust to being home better, if his dad is nearby. And, your husband's well-being is most important now. You don't want to be the cause of family disharmony or stress at a time like this.
Maybe the dad won't stay that long. Or maybe he is planning on staying at a hotel. I'd go along with it and hope for the best.
2007-10-09 13:20:26 · answer #1 · answered by artistagent116 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
See if your father in law will wait until your husband has been home for a week before he comes out. That way you can have time to reconnect before he gets there and then your fil can come for the 2 months.
2007-10-09 20:19:50 · answer #2 · answered by bubbles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to your father in law that although you would really like him to stay for awhile, it has been a long time since you have been with your husband, and you would like some time alone with him first. Try and work out a compromise if at all possible. Good luck
2007-10-09 20:17:55 · answer #3 · answered by pitbull1969 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remind your father-in-law that you and your husband want some "alone time" too. Your FIL was young and in love once and I'm sure he'll understand. Then suggest that he stay for 2 weeks.
2007-10-09 20:17:04 · answer #4 · answered by mollyflan 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ask your husband how he wants to handle it -- he may be able to talk "man to man" with his dad and tell him that he wants time alone with his wife after all this time.
Or you could tell his dad that the two of you plan to take a "second honeymoon" after your husband's return.
You or your husband need to let his dad know how long you are prepared to have company. Tell him " We are looking forward to your visit and would love for you to come from (date) to (date). After that date we want to spend some much needed 'alone time' "
And please tell your husband "Thank you" for doing a difficult job in Iraq ( My son was over there in the Army.)
2007-10-09 20:19:50 · answer #5 · answered by Marilyn E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him, tell him what u told me, i am sure he wont be underfoot all the time and he probably missed his son as much as u did... but dont make two many waves or this could turn into a horrible experience for u... just tell him he is welcome to stay but u want some time alone with your hubby too and he needs to stay at a motel for a couple of nights at your expense to give u some ALONE time with your hubby... I am glad he made it home and tell him thank u for protecting our freedom and our lives... God Bless You and Your family...
2007-10-09 20:16:10 · answer #6 · answered by THE UK WILDCAT FAMILY 10 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It his father look at this way what if it was your son coming home i look at my inlaw like they my family
2007-10-09 20:17:21 · answer #7 · answered by rnd1938 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him to go after you have spent time together tell him you know he he would miss them.But youare his wife and need him more oh and tell him you would rather have heard it from him instead of dad in law
2007-10-09 20:28:26 · answer #8 · answered by furby_lost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋