OK, here is the deal. I had my daughter when I was 20 and never wanted to have another one. I felt that I have to have a career and my life is perfect. Now when my daugher is almost 14 and I can finally have some free time and travel, I want to have another child. My mom thinks I am crazy, it's too big of a difference and kids should be close to age with each other. (me and my brother are 2 years apart). she thinks i am going to ruin my life. Am I crazy for not wanting one for so long and wanting now?
2007-10-09 13:00:20 · 9 answers · asked by medved73_2000 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
my brother is 20 years younger than me. In the end when she gets older at least she wont feel all alone and will have a relative/brother with her. Havent you heard of people who have 6 children. Im sure some are very seperated from one another sometimes. Oh who cares! Its all about loooove have your beautiful child and I dont think your crazy! If your happy BE happy!
2007-10-09 13:12:55 · answer #1 · answered by tam at peace 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can definately say I wouldn't be willing to go in that direction but then again there are plenty of women who are doing that quite often now. If you are at a place in your life where you think it's appropriate to add another person to your family then in the end only you and your spouse can make that decision. Just remember what the cost of a child takes and also consider having a baby now will mean you are trying to retire when that baby will start college.
Also be ready to face the heartache of infertility...Many women find it very hard to get pregnant in their mid-thirties and need treatment that isn't covered by insurance to get pregnant.
2007-10-09 20:10:26 · answer #2 · answered by starfire978 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have 15, 14, 11, 9, 4 and 5 months. I am 36 and love kids. Go for it.
2007-10-09 21:47:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're crazy at all. Do what your heart tells you. If you want to raise another child, that is your right and I see nothing wrong with that. After all, you are only 34. With that said, maybe the natural maternal instincts are justing kicking in. Maybe it is time for another....
2007-10-09 20:08:08 · answer #4 · answered by MsKitty 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, but is there a father in the picture?
that is a big consideration.. I too had one kid when I was 20, (now 35) but you know what?
in just a few years you will have grandkids....
then you don't have all the responsibilities full time...
It is up to you... but kids are a full time responsibility, do you not have any dreams or aspiriations for yourself???
2007-10-09 21:11:44 · answer #5 · answered by Buzz B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not crazy. In fact, wondering if one IS crazy is the prerequisite for sanity.
You just want to exercise choices that your mother never had, so she can't relate to them. Talk to some people your age that you trust and they'll probably think you are crazy for wondering if you are crazy and doubting your own desires.
People in their fifties and sixties are having babies and adopting.
2007-10-09 21:12:28 · answer #6 · answered by open4one 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not crazy at all! Me and my youngest sister (she's 6 months old :) ) are 18 years apart and already we have a great relationship haha. I think it's great
2007-10-09 21:11:19 · answer #7 · answered by Panda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom had me when she was 32 or 34 I can't remember, just do what your heart says.
2007-10-09 21:41:07 · answer #8 · answered by ryankonsiglio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No... just feeling an "empty nest".
2007-10-09 20:47:14 · answer #9 · answered by littleJaina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋