well he broke up wit me witout tellin me why but he told me wehn he broke up with me mbecause i was tlkin 2 another boy n i know i wasnt n then he told me that iot wasnt because of that but he didnt tell me..now we're friends more like frineds wit benfits we talk on the phone and when we see each other we kiss but he talk 2 much bout us having sex and i dont know if he really wanna b wit me just for that n when we broke up wit me he made me promised him that i was gonna ask him out in the future but he's tellin me that he needs more time but i dont know what to do..pl z help n thnxz
2007-10-09 12:44:57 · 11 answers · asked by babygrl973 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
concentrate on your education first! grammar,spelling,
The English language,etc... instead of boys!
2007-10-09 12:51:41 · answer #1 · answered by Don Vittorio Corlleone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I purely have been given out of a 6 month relationship, and this is not any longer basic on the grounds which you're lacking them. yet you are able to desire to undergo in strategies your needs are first. So he says you're jealous? and you're saying "you're no longer that jealous'. so which you admit which you're a jealous individual? each so often that could come out of being insecure interior of that relationship. I even have had circumstances whilst i'm jealous of a bf's friends, exes, spending too plenty time remote from me. yet you are able to desire to ascertain your self. Why are you feeling this way? it relatively has no longer something to do with him. except he's doing issues on objective to get an strengthen out of you. If he needs to be friends, and you want greater... you cant rigidity something on him. pass on. by no potential!! by no potential! Come off desperate. For me this is the backside factor on the grounds which you provide your ability away. And no longer something is greater degrading than you no longer loving and cherishing your self. to procure the flexibility to be a greater perfect you!!
2016-10-08 22:24:35 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read everything you wrote and the only thing that has changed is that your ex can eat his cake and have it too. That means he gets to enjoy you in every way possible but can go out with any body he likes with out you being able to complain. Think about it: he breaks up with you on some lie but you are friends with benefit---kissing,sexual intercourse and you can't speak of it( or some girl might hear and then he loses her), and you have to promise to ask him out in the future. What is the benefit you get? You can't be with another guy and you are not with him. Do you still not know what to do?Unless you enjoy pain and being treated as a door mat and being used, I suggest you break it up for good, concentrate on your self for awhile, then look for a good guy who loves you, respects you ,and wants to be with you only.
2007-10-09 13:15:24 · answer #3 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok, first of all, yes you can be in love in 5 months. Sorry. Second it sounds to me like doesn't want a relationship. when someone breaks it off they can get scared about the other person going away. he doesn't like the idea of you being with anyone else but doesn't want to be with you at all. He's messing with your head at the moment saying that he wants you to ask him out in the future. if he needs time then he needs time but you hanging around being his "benefit" friend is just going to end up hurting you more and more. You need to get away, cut contact and start thinking about things that don't involve him. think about what you want to do in the future. i know a break up is hard especially if you really love that person. But sometimes it's not the right time for you. if you cut contact he may realize that he's actually lost you and will force him to make a choice. but really who cares? by cutting contact you will be taking the first steps to heal yourself.
try the site http://www.soyouvebeendumped.com and go on the forum and vent, there are a lot of people there who can help you and know what you are going through.
I do honestly believe that a break up is the most painful emotional trauma you can go through and if you don't go through it that just means you didn't care. he probably does care for you/love you still but unfortunately you can love someone and not want to be with them. go out there and do something for you. you deserve it
and don't rebound!
good luck
2007-10-09 13:02:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get on with your life, try not to see him any more, DON`T have sex with him and try to calm down again. Your mind seems all messed up. It´s not good for you so stop it. Distract yourself and hang out with some friends or something.
This "he told me that I was talking to X but I told him I wasn´t and he told me he knew but he told me and he broke up" .... is sooo confusing. I can imagine what it looks like now in yur head. He broke up and he didn´t tell you why and now he needs more time (what for??), and now he´s messing with you. Do you need another answer? Yes, you love him but he won´t be the one any more he was and he won´t be the one you imagine him to be.
Please, it hurts, we all know that, but stop it! When you go on with it, it will hurt even longer and be worse. Trust me!!! It feels like the end of the world but he won´t be the one you get married to, not likely. Move on WITHOUT HIM!
2007-10-09 12:54:24 · answer #5 · answered by Bianca W 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, I don't think that you can be on love just after five months. Maybe I'm just being biased though. I think you need to get over it, because it sounds like you're really young, and you need to find a boy/man who is committed to making you happy and saying SEX CAN WAIT.
2007-10-09 12:49:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry. Sadly it sounds like he's giving you the 'bum's rush'. Shouldn't you know a guy for a while before you jump in the sack with him? That's what they always told me...They also told me that men are just after one thing; most of the time...that's what ur BF wantz. (And these were men telling me!)
2007-10-09 12:54:51 · answer #7 · answered by Constitution 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact that he broke up with you without giving a reason is already suspicious to me. I really think that you should just move on and forget about this guy.
2007-10-09 12:53:56 · answer #8 · answered by mary 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
'Friends with benefits' is the most disgusting and degrading thing I've ever heard of. :/ He's using you for sex girl! NO question about it! You need to tell him where to go and find yourself a REAL man who treats you with a hell of a lot more respect. Best of luck.
2007-10-09 12:49:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you should b friends with benifites. bcuz if you do. in the long run. people will look back at that. and youll sorta be like a hoe. but even if you arnt one. people will still call you one. and run their mouth.
i would say dont go back to him.
i know you prob like him alot alot
but thats like me and my boyfriend.
its better if you just ditch him.
if he broke up with you
and dosnt even respect you enough to tell you why.
hes not worth your heart.
it kinda sounds like you wear your heart on your sleeve and your a really nice girl. you deserve better! even though i dont know you. its okay
maybe he is just confused. but you should find yourself a respectable guy. that loves you. and that would leave you for "talking to another guy" even thou you wernt.
if hes gonna accuse you of that. bcuz he heard it or just made it up. that means he has no trust in you.
a relationship with out trust. is nothing.
good luck.
2007-10-09 12:54:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋