my friend is 14 and there is this 18 year old guy that she really likes and he like her back but he's afraid 2 go 2 jail.
2007-10-09 12:25:02 · 18 answers · asked by nix_chick_01 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
yeah there is something very wrong with an 18 year old MAN going after a 14 yr old little girl. If he goes after her and dates her he needs to go to jail.
2007-10-09 12:29:26 · answer #1 · answered by tink65804 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think it is wrong. The old saying: 14 will get you 20 is so true. If they date, and then break up, she could tell the authorities, that she was rapped, and he now has to prove he did not. Even if they never had sex! Scary, also, her parents could call the police, at any time, and him being 18, he goes to jail. Also, (at least in CA.) their is a 10:00 pm curfew, for all under 18, that are not accompanied, by a parent, parental figure, or adult in charge. an 18 year old boy, she is dating, does not count, and jail is most likely for him, if he keeps her out. The hassle, and aggravation, are not worth the risk. Plus, they have so little in common, I'd say 98% of the time, it does not work out, and the attraction is only physical. Tell the 14 year old girl to study hard, and wait tell 16 or 17 before she even considers "dating" at all.
2007-10-09 19:40:44 · answer #2 · answered by pplsag 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Uh, yeah! A 14 year old should not even be dating. Much less someone that is 4 years older than her. There is a big difference between 14 and 18. You can learn a lot in 4 years and 18 year old guys are interested in one thing only---sex. Even if they are capable of having a long term relationship, they probably wouldn't if the girl would not put out. So if you really care about your friend, find a way to inform her parents.
2007-10-09 20:03:11 · answer #3 · answered by ms.melancholy 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Actually yes it is very wrong the 18 year old can get put into jail and the parents also could get into trouble for allowing it. I hope your friend luck andtell her to find someone her age. Tell to have friends and be friends with a younger guy like her age until her parents allow her to date. Until then I would wait. My sister was 14 when she got pregnant and she was 15 when she had her son and her bf was 18 turning 19 and I thought that was outragious. Tell her to wait later in life to date. It will save her alot more problems in the end. I hope I helped. P.S. I was not alloud to date until I was 16! My father layed that law down on me.
2007-10-09 21:39:02 · answer #4 · answered by lostinlove1919 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
IF this guy really likes your friend then he should not be left alone with her. Personal experience talking here. I met my now husband when I was 14. He was 21. We went out on Group dates (6 or more people) till I was 16. 2 more years of dating and then we were engaged. IF this guy is "The Guy" then I think it would be safer to date as a group and not alone. If he's or she isn't willing to do that then I supose one or the other is only intrested in a sexual relationship and to let it go! Don't even get involved.
2007-10-09 19:39:09 · answer #5 · answered by Joy5 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it is wrong! My parents would have never allowed me to date and 18 year old when I was only 14. Plus, I have 3 brothers, so it definately wouldn't have happened. The age of consent is usually at least 15, so it would also e legally wrong as well. 14 year olds are not mature enough for a relationship with someone who's 18.
2007-10-09 19:29:56 · answer #6 · answered by .. 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
when i was 14 my boyfriend was 18 and i didn't see why my parents had a problem with it. as i got older, into my 20's and 30's, i had a different insight into it. what did we really have in common besides sex? where could we go together? the maturity level between a 14 year-old and an 18 year-old is different (and you can all thumbs down me for that, but i stand by my opinion).
now that i have a teenage daughter, there's no way i'd be okay with her dating someone 4 years older.
and yes, it is illegal in most of the US, if not all. the adult can be charged, tried and convicted of statutory rape, which is a record that will follow the person around forever labeling them as a sex offender. if it's real love, it'll wait 4 years for the physical part of it to become legal.
2007-10-09 19:48:53 · answer #7 · answered by lilitheden 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
14 is too young in most states. I wouldn't be interested in someone that much younger at that age. They are at totally different places developmentally and also in maturity. I know "girls mature younger" but at age 14, she's just starting high school and he's already done. She's got a lot less experience under her belt and that can cause problems if she gets pregnant. She's just not mature enough, no matter how much she says she is. It's not like she's the only girl in existence. He needs to back off.
2007-10-09 20:23:10 · answer #8 · answered by Serena 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its definately wrong
shes a girl and hes a man
do you really think he likes her for her personality??
i wouldnt think so
young girls have to be careful who they are with, look at the world around us today
someone once told me 'guys will tell you anything to get what they want' whether thats true or not- she might have to find out for herself...you have to know a person before you can trust them
and my mums first boyfriend was 18 when she was 14 and she said that he only wanted her for one thing and she regrets every minute of that relationship.
you said he doesnt want to go to jail, the only reason hed go to jail is if he had sex with her, is that what hes planning?
2007-10-09 20:25:09 · answer #9 · answered by hanni 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ya...they call it jail bait for a reason you know......tell her to wait until she is at least 18 to start seeing this guy.....as you get to be an adult age difference doesnt really matter but she should at least be a legal adult before making this decision....
2007-10-09 19:29:10 · answer #10 · answered by jscangel18 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋