Sometimes i feel like i'm stuck in the rut of "just friends" with every girl i know. Its so frustrating (like artist's block) how can i get past this, i want to be taken seriuosly.
2007-10-09 11:59:45 · 18 answers · asked by Jerry 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Google "ladder theory" for a good explanation. (www.laddertheory.com)
Basically, if you are "just friends" to start, you always will be. You're a shoulder to cry on between the tatooed biker dudes who treat her like dirt...
Basically, don't act like an eager puppy with them right off the bat. Act aloof and uncaring - they'll see you as a challenge, not someone to keep around as a consolation shoulder.
2007-10-09 12:04:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, I've totally been there!!
I don't know how old you are, but I found the older I became, the "just friends" thing worked to my advantage.
The more a person knows you, the better the chance is of someone becoming more attracted to you. When you're in your teens, and even early 20's, it's true that looks play a big role in dating. However as people mature, personality is usually the bigger attraction (don't get me wrong, I'm not saying your unattractive).
So as long as you're confident,have a great attitude, and believe in yourself, enjoy your friendships! Before you know it, the girls will be crawling all over you!!!
2007-10-09 19:10:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being stuck in the 'just friends' zone is definitely something you have control over. When talking or flirting with a girl, you want to be friendly and approachable at first, without being too clingy. Playfully tease, and be intriguing without being cocky. Once you and the girl have established a good friendship, (this may take a day, week, month, or even a few minutes) you should make your intentions for a romantic relationship known, without being too over the top desperate. Try flirting, and then casually asking this girl to grab lunch or snack, not a dinner date (you dont want to freak her out). If she says yes, it means shes interested too and then you can just go for it! If not, either move on or just be yourself and make her want to go out with you. Just remember, if you are in a just friend zone with someone and you want more, you can make it happen! Good luck <3
2007-10-09 19:09:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will be taken seriously when you find the right person to be with. Having a lot of friends is awesome- never give that up! It also helps if you make sure you let all your friends know you are looking to find someone to have a more serious relationship . Have the girls help you out! Maybe one of them will be thrilled to hear about your availability!
2007-10-09 19:11:25 · answer #4 · answered by Stacia H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of times when you hang out in "singles groups" such as church groups or a group of friends that hang out on a regular basis together...you get stuck in that "friend rut" It's like everyone has known everyone 4-ever and no-one wants to take a chance cuz they don't want to destory a great friendship... Try being mysterious...it might be wise to try dating someone that isn't in your circle "that maybe goes to another church or school...sometimes other people are your best network in setting you up...ask around nearly everyone knows someone...don't be afraid to take a chance on a blind date...if it don't work out its not like you HAVE to ask the person out again...but you are building social status...when your "friends" see that you are dating they will start to take notice and maybe even some of those "girls" that are just your "friends" might even take notice enough to want to date you.
2007-10-09 19:11:22 · answer #5 · answered by ♫piano_player♫ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some girls might naturally take you as a friend but when you like a girl and you feel the time is right to go talk to her be direct and A GOOD FLIRT what girl wouldn't want that.
2007-10-09 19:05:43 · answer #6 · answered by mz.blu3baby@yahoo.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's fine to be "just friends" but if you want to actually get a relationship with someone then ask them how they feel,but if they do just want to be "just friends" then that's fine because it is much better to be friends then to be no friends at all.Try talking to them,or if you're good friends then ask if they know anyone who likes you or see if they can hook you up with someone.( that is if you WANT them too.)
2007-10-09 19:06:32 · answer #7 · answered by CUTIE!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe just flirt with them some more. do things like touching them and hugging them and picking them up. also you can get more personal by hanging out alone instead of just groups.the best thing to do for you, is self reviewing.ask yourself what you think makes them feel friendish around you. most likely they are very comfortable and they just feel like they can relate to you.
2007-10-09 19:11:10 · answer #8 · answered by henryjperc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oo thats a tuffy you need to get closer with them and do more personal thing like see a romantic movie and try to make a move or tell them how you really feel
2007-10-09 19:04:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to flirt. First do it just a little, to see if she likes it. And if she does, don't be you know, like kidding, just get into it. She'll get the picture. Hope i can help.
2007-10-09 19:03:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋