It just really seem's that a good women scares of a possible mate. should a women down play her independece, are should she just go all out. I would assume that one day true love shall find her.
2007-10-09 11:26:06 · 29 answers · asked by natasha l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you have to downplay yourself or change how people see you, you won't find the guy who deserves you. You need someone who loves you for who you are, your strengths and your flaws, and you will find that much easier if you're indepentent and if you're YOU. Please don't try to change just to find someone. You're going to do fine, you are absolutely right that true love WILL find you. These things happen in God's time, not ours. :)
2007-10-09 11:31:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Actually, there are a lot of good Christian men around. Stop looking for Mr. Perfect and start focusing on your own life and interests. If you're out volunteering you are sure to meet quality people. Have you ever made a meal for the volunteer fire fighter dept? Do you attend a singles Bible study or Sunday School class? Have you offered to teach one? Do you work with your church youth (lots of times young energetic singles work together there)?
Don't play down anything, or go all out. Remember who you serve. Pray pray pray about it. Ask God to place the One in your path.
Oh, and one more thing: you will never find a husband by hooking up with every guy you go out with. Men don't trust women who are too eager to get in bed. It sends the message that you are likely to be unfaithful because you're fast and easy. Establish your morals early on and let the relationship center around conversation and nonsexual activities. The One will not mind. Mine didn't.
2007-10-09 18:36:55 · answer #2 · answered by Aubrey C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
let me offer this from a male point of view.. most men do not flaunt their christianity.. it is much more compartmentalized and personal to them.. and most men will probably tell you that it should not be a criteria for deciding whether they are good men or not.. I think also that most men.. really appreciate a good strong woman and find them to be ideal partners.. but if a woman wants to push the christianity issue.. she will probably get snubbed.. Like I said, most men do not use that issue as important as others.. Men in general are much more able to organize their thoughts about relationships than women are.. the reason for this is because men take more of a wait and see attitude about the posibility of a relationship.. they are more apt to let it unfold.. women seem to be more emotional about those things than men are.. if you are insistent on requiring that the possible partner demonstrate a strong christianity level before the relationship goes any further then you will find yourself spending many lonely nights. Men are not going to be emotional..they are more logical.. though this may seem a bit harsh to you, look at the reality of what I am going to say next, then you may understand.. If a man plays golf or someother sport.. it usually is in association with other men of the same ilk.. there is a competitive spirit to it and a satisfaction of competing agains one another.. if a single male golfer goes to a golf course and wants to play and has no tee time.. he will ask the starter to team him up with another golfer to make a two some.. maybe even join a threesome.. at the point of introduction.. these men are strangers..but they are all golfers.. good players or bad..they are still there to do the same thing.. play golf.. if at the end of the round, the men have enjoyed each others company, they will tell each other how much they enjoyed the game and would like to possibly join them on another occassion.. if they did not enjoy each others company and did not like playing with each other.. they would shake hands and never see each other agin.. Men have a tendency to reduce everything down to the level of enjoyment that they have while playing or associating with others of their kind.. if one should meet a woman.. they will wait and see how the time spent together turns out.. it is kind of like playing a round of golf.. if the partner is good and enjoyable company.. the men will be willing to play another round with the new acquaintances.. if they did not enjoy the round.. you can bet that they will avoid playing with the same people again.. it is the same way with a woman.. if they don't like the experience.. they will not want to spend anymore time with her.. my advice to you is to take it easy.. and go slow.. there are many good men who will meet your criteria.. but you have to play a pretty good game to get their attention.. good luck
2007-10-09 18:53:27 · answer #3 · answered by J. W. H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, because there aren't as many good christian men out there as we'd like. Pray for God to send you a good christian man and do it often...he will hear you if you have faith he will. I know...I did...it took forever it seemed...but he was right down the road from me! Our paths crossed so many times but we never found each other until I began to pray for a godly man. We've been dating 2 yrs now. Don't lose your independence...men love a confident independant woman...(so does God)...never down play your true self...You can't surpress that for the rest of your life...you'll find a man that loves you just the way you are.
2007-10-09 18:33:27 · answer #4 · answered by D C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I step on anybody's toe(s) by saying this........just say Ouch! and move on, okay? There are more females in this world according to the consensus. Women, by nature, are natural nurturers ( with a few exceptions), and more spiritual inclined. Look at the numbers in the churches, temples and mosques, and you will probally agree with me. Women live longer than men (all of my statements have a few exceptions). The amount of responsible, single Christian / Spiritual-inclined, men are somewhat limited due to enviromental factor(s), The qualified ones are usually snatched-up early through marriage, same sex orientation, prison, death , commitment issues, and carnality issues.Which limits the amount of qualified, unattached, Christian / Spiritually-inclined, men.....Whao! I don't where they are, either. Pray and wait on the Lord.
2007-10-09 19:11:43 · answer #5 · answered by NISSI 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be yourself, you'll be put with the man that God has in store for you. You two won't have make adjustments to your personality because it will just work.
A good Christian man can be tough to come by because we're all taken. j/k
If you live for God and your mate lives for God, you guys will meet in the middle at Christ and that will supercede any difference or arguement you could have.
2007-10-09 18:30:17 · answer #6 · answered by fisherofmen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since when has anything about being a Christian been easy? At least when looked at in secular terms. If it was easy, everyone would be doing it.
That's why it's so hard. However, if you are truly committed, you'll be rewarded for your struggles. Be patient.
2007-10-09 18:30:36 · answer #7 · answered by Lemar J 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because what THEY are looking for- is not necessarily what a "Good Christian Woman" has to offer nowadays... And THERE lies the problem that Christianity is facing in these Times... Equality without submission of one sex over the other...
2007-10-09 18:33:13 · answer #8 · answered by Joseph, II 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Cause we're already married :) Just kidding, I met my wife at church after a worship service... I think church small groups would be a good place to start. Of course, sometimes you don't realize that God's all you need until He's all you have!
2007-10-09 18:30:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
are you the spawn of confutious, or a fortune cookie?.. "what you do shall happen to you times a zillion".. i got one for you.. every time you see the sun at ten till 6 you'll gain ten dollers, but lose a valued friend in the time it is spent
2007-10-09 18:46:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋