2007-10-09 11:06:08 · 35 answers · asked by Madison 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well he wants to spend the rest of his life with you.... It's very strange that he hasn't told you that he loves you at this point in the relationship. Have you said it to him? Tell him that you love him... if he doesn't say it back then he has some serious problems I couldn't even address.
2007-10-09 11:09:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, the fact that you have to ask Yahoo! answers should be a red flag. Also, this is someone who asked you to marry him. Obviously, you two have spent a lot of time together to get to this point, even if he hasn't said those "3 words". Lastly, why not just ask him why he hasn't said it? Are you afraid to speak up and voice your thoughts? Not a good sign entering a marriage to be frail and weak.
Now, you might want to have doubts if you're filthy rich with an inheritance. But then you probably wouldn't be on Yahoo! wasting time but on your yacht somewhere.
Seriously, you should know this answer yourself or hold off on the wedding until you learn more about your insecurities and who YOU are. I recommend that you both seek marriage counseling before you even get married to help you through this insecurity and other problems with voicing your thoughts/questions with your partner before you actually sign any papers or exchange vows.
Good luck.
2007-10-09 11:13:24 · answer #2 · answered by Sahana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask him why he has never said "i love you" to you...it may be a case that he is void of emoyion...he may on the other hand came from a home were those words were not spoken and finds it hard to say...but at the end of the day you need to talk and i am sure you will agree...you can not marry him till you know the "whole him"...take care
Just read some of the other answers...take this for fact..."men will marry a woman without love being involved"
2007-10-09 11:10:44 · answer #3 · answered by hanz2602 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without any details it's hard to tell. Some people have different ideas of how relationships progress. Some only want to say I love you to the person they marry, so maybe he's safeguarding himself in case you say no. What he is saying by asking you to marry him is that he wants to spend the rest of his life together. Just make sure he's not gay and thinks of you as a life partner, but not in the romantic sense!
2007-10-09 11:12:54 · answer #4 · answered by graybear 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people show their love by their actions but the fact that he hasn't said, "I love you" should give you a red flag. If he can't say it now, I doubt he'll say it in the future and that's important! I'd talk to a good friend or trustworthy family member about this before you proceed much further.
2007-10-09 11:10:58 · answer #5 · answered by Lover of Blue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no way for anyone on this to tell you if he loves you. The question then to ask is do you love him? That is equally important! But if you can't say yes without knowing how he feels, then say NO. There should be No question as to your love for each other Before you get married!
2007-10-09 11:10:14 · answer #6 · answered by Jann 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you need to talk to him in private when it's just you two. I first think you need to ask yourself do you tell him you love him you love him in a way that is obvious to him(not sex). Then you talk to himand be cosiderate, ask him why he proposed but never said he loved you. That needs to be said before you get married or else what kind of marriage would you have?" Hi honey, bye honey, it's been good seeing you, see you later?"Do you understand what I'm saying? You have to do this before you get married.
2007-10-09 11:21:30 · answer #7 · answered by nathalie6smile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you two been in relationship?
I mean...if you're saying that he's NEVER told you that he loves you, yet has proposed marriage to you...I'd be very cautious.
There are so many relationship factors in play here and obviously I don't know what they are, but, the natural progression is typically to profess your love for someone before suggesting your spend the rest of your lives together.
Good Luck!
The Coach
2007-10-09 11:11:01 · answer #8 · answered by Kimberly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is offering you everything he values most his FREEDOM ,and is willing to commit to you.I say actions speak way louder than words.Show me the LOVE every time,what are words? He has asked you to spend the rest of his life with him right? Did he bring you a ring and a date to be married? Is he willing to wait until you are married to have sex? If he is,then YES he loves you.
2007-10-09 11:19:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's very odd for someone to jump toward such a commitment without ever telling you that he loves you. expression of your love for one another is the main reason a person would ask you in the first place i would assume....evidently he must think highly of you, maybe he just forgot to say it...food for thought sometimes showing someone is better that telling them good luck.....by the way if he hasn't told you tell him 1st
2007-10-09 11:11:05 · answer #10 · answered by TootsiePop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋