I've been invited to a formal birthday party (RSVP). Is it okay to bring my husband along even if his name is not on the invitation? Should I call them to let them know I'm bringing him or is it understood that he is not invited?
2007-10-09 10:42:37 · 8 answers · asked by dazed and confused 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I'd say he's not invited.
If it's a close friend call/email and ask if he can come.
2007-10-09 10:45:23 · answer #1 · answered by MB-n-KC 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she forgot his name!
Just kidding! Married people are considered a social group and should always be invited together (the only exception I can think of is a business function, or as someone else pointed out, Ladies' Night out). You can assume this is an oversight of the host, and it is perfectly acceptable to call him or her to confirm that your husband is invited. Say, "Jane, thank you for the invitation to the party! I'm really excited to come. I noticed that my husband's name wasn't on the invitation - I'm sure it was just an oversight..." Pause, to gauge her reaction...
Hopefully, forgetting him was just a mistake, and not an intentional slight!
2007-10-09 11:00:03 · answer #2 · answered by trish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's a work-related function, I'd say don't assume he's invited. If it's not work-related, or "ladies' night out", it's pretty bizarre not to invite a spouse. Maybe the host doesn't know you're married. It may not be proper etiquette, but I'd call the host and ask if it's okay if he comes along.
2007-10-09 10:50:41 · answer #3 · answered by TandJ090807 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This could have been an over-site on the part of the party giver, but if the invitation is for you alone, then it would be improper to bring him along without asking.
2007-10-09 10:47:37 · answer #4 · answered by Cynthia 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you are married, it's an unspoken and unwritten rule that your spouse is invited too. If he is not invited, you should not attend either. It is disrespectful of the host to not invite your husband.
2007-10-10 00:28:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can bring him! Just RSVP saying "myself and my husband will be attending." Totally fine
2007-10-09 10:45:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call your friend and ask him/her if your husband can come. If not just go for a little while so your husband doesn't feel left out.
2007-10-09 10:47:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd say if he's not invited and the invitation is not for you "and guest", you shouldn't bring him.
2007-10-09 11:17:50 · answer #8 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋