there is this girl in school who i really really like.
she looks good, and is fairly smart. BUT:
she hangs out with troublemaker guys and people like that
she also hangs out with some good people but still the trouble maker people. and i dont like that
she also goes to my karate school,
she is a black belt i only have my camoflouge belt here is the order:
white
orange
yellow
camoflouge
green
purple(one)
purple(two)
blue(one)
blue(two)
red(one)
red(two)
black(white stripe)
black
so in other words, she can beat me up no problem.
but arent usually the guys stronger than the girls?
and would she feel aukward dating me?
also my family has never gone out with someone until they were almost marrying age
i dont think my parents would like me to have a girlfriend.
her dad is friends with my dad
and that's how i got started in karate
because she was in karate for a while now probably 3 years
my details finish in another it is called the same except only less !!!!'s
2007-10-09 09:52:22 · 9 answers · asked by Harshil 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and please remember that i dont want to ask her and get dumped because then i wont like her anymore, and i like to like her.
the thing is that there are many other people and im not that close to her as to ask her to teach me more moves
also as i go up she will to
her 2nd degree black belt
then 3rd degree black belt
she will always be ahead of me
2007-10-09 10:02:01 · update #1
another thing is that she know that she whip my *** anytime not that anyother person know just the two of us
2007-10-09 10:11:48 · update #2
and if we go out then we cannot 'do anything' in karate class not like make out but talk omantic even
so tahts another complication
please help me
2007-10-09 10:12:57 · update #3
To be honest, she is not the right one for you. There are many reasons for that.
1. She hangs out with the bad boys, so she has a bad boy fantasy. Girls like that will only be a friend with someone that is not bad. They'll never be girl friend to one or marry one that isn't a trouble maker.
2. You know her as a family friend, that is your dad and her dad are friends. So she already had put you in her "friends" list. It is close to impossible for a guy to move out of the friends list and move into the dating list. Don't believe me, ask any girl you know.
3. You think too much of her. You have an inferiority complex when you are close to her. It may be because you think she is better than you in Karate or school or in the looks area. Whatever the reason is you are having trouble thinking of her as your equal and that's never good. In my opinion, regardless of what belt she had in Karate or how much better she is in school, she is no better than you. Academic or any other achievements do not define who you are or how good you are.
It is what you do with life and what kind of a person you really are inside. Are you kind to others, are you honest and a man of integrity, do you have good moral character and ethics, these are things that define how good you are. From what I read from your question, she is not good enough for you. You deserve a better girl in your life. The right girl won't tease you. She'll like you and may be even love you the way you are. You are still young; you can find plenty of nice girls in your life. When you do find a girl who is nice enough for you go and ask her out directly and boldly, don't wait and don't think anyone is better than you. We are all equals.
If you do care about this girl a lot, tell her about how you feel, include the fact that you don't think that she should be mixing herself with certain trouble makers. If she really is smart, she will see the wisdom in your words. Don't forget, she may be physically stronger than you, but that doesn't mean she is better than you. It works both ways. Just because a man is stronger than a woman, it doesn't make him better.
Good Luck!!!
2007-10-09 10:20:38 · answer #1 · answered by Nomad2525 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may be a good idea to take a break. I know you've done it before, but this time be DETERMINED. Don't falter by going back to what's comfortable. Take the time to step back, look at the relationship, and see what's out there. Trust issues + different views on life often = failed relationship. There may be a girl out there who's perfect for you in every way but you're too busy going back to the one you have to see her. If your fiancée is what you think she might be, during the breakup she'll find someone else. If not, she'll wait. If you feel taking a step back isn't the answer, then I suggest having a SERIOUS heart to heart with her on the matter. If you can't talk to her about the problems you have with the relationship, how can you expect to have a successful marriage? Let her know you're having doubts and why, but be sure to find a nice and certainly not accusing way to do so.
2016-05-20 00:39:42 · answer #2 · answered by janeth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her to teach you karate. learning while flirting. you will eventually earn a black belt, it just takes time. have a little confidence. If you work hard, you will be as good as she is, so, there is no reason to feel down because of the current situation. I only go out with smart girls cuz I believe I am good enough for them. I don't get intimidated by them. If now I don't yet have the result to show, I will work harder to match. You should too.
2007-10-09 09:58:23 · answer #3 · answered by Carborane 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dont be such a wimp. If you are friends with this girl, then im sure she can see you for what you are, and that is hopefully a nice person. Be brave and tell her that you like her and that you dont think she should be hanging round with these kind of people, and if they are really as bad as you seem to think they are, then i am sure she will see that for herself, eventually. Unless of course she is totally misled by them, and i am sure thats a possibility also, especially if she get her kicks out of hanging around with them and feeling like part of their gang.
2007-10-09 10:01:07 · answer #4 · answered by Morticia 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
erm she doesnt really sound the type u normally go for. she sounds really popular so do u think she likes u too? no offence or anythin. if u dont think she likes u then theres no point in telling her, but if u think there is athe slightest chance, tell her in private and let her decide whether she wants to date u . and with ur family, so what that no 1 dated when they were young, this is the 21st century man. if they dont like it then tough, this is ur life and u need to control what u do with it.
gud luck man
2007-10-09 09:59:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why not ask her to spar with you? She can teach you more advanced moves in karate. And you will be spending time with her, getting to know her better. Then you can decide if you want to go out with her.
2007-10-09 09:58:39 · answer #6 · answered by nowyouknow 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your an idiot. Yes usually, but a girl can be just as strong or stronger. Why don't they want you to?
2007-10-09 10:01:47 · answer #7 · answered by samantha wilson 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dude you think she's gonna judge you by what belt you are on right now. that's stupid. how are you supposed to know anyone if you don't date them.
2007-10-09 09:58:05 · answer #8 · answered by Adrienne L 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ask your dad,,
2007-10-09 09:56:18 · answer #9 · answered by rpetch007 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋