When my parents split up I was 8 and my brother was 6. At first my brother was fine, but then he started misbehaving on the days that we were going to go see our other parent (switch houses). When my mom moved to Florida with my brother and I and my dad stayed where we lived he acted a lot better. He had been wetting the bed in our old house, and then he had stopped when we moved. We have moved back, we didn't like Florida, and he has become a DISASTER. He freaks out whenever someone in the family eats, or does the dishes, etc. He is rude, he backtalks my parents, and he swears at EVERYONE and he is wetting the bed again. He requires SO much of my parents attention that they have less time for me; they have to pay attention to him first. If I am having a conversation with my mom and my brother walks in, our conversation has to stop immediately so he can have attention so that he doesn't have a meltdown! Whenever he doesn't get what he wants he has a temper tantrum! What can we do?
2007-10-09 09:37:53 · 18 answers · asked by Em <3 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
He behaves in school, i mean hes gotten into a few fights before, but thats a typical boy his age. He gets help with his homework and projects from my parents and hes in 6th grade!
2007-10-09 13:40:21 · update #1
Well I'm no expert I'll be honest , but it seems to me that he had not completely dealt with the fact that yo parents split, as far as wetting the bed goes I have known some people like that it is not something I understand. But the attention thing I think is normal for the youngest, and is probably connected to the wetting of the bed, because he knows that he will get attention if he wets the bed, along with the meltdown, he knows that if you and your mom are talking and he walks in you will stop talking. With my son if me and my wife are talking" of course a little different situation" and he tries to butt in we stop let him know we are talking and that it is rude to interupt and if he persists then we send him to his room. He will probably throw a tantrum in his room but just ignore him and I think soon he will reallize that he can't have what he wants and ultimately make tha houshold runm smoother.
2007-10-09 09:49:31 · answer #1 · answered by go bama 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He needs behavioral therapy. It sounds like he has some ADHD as well, but a lot of these issues seem to stem from your parents splitting up. I would reccomend some sort of counseling.
2007-10-09 09:48:03 · answer #2 · answered by justin_I 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i have a 17 yr old boy that acts 2 i treat him like hes 2 i cut up his food i put him to bed @ 7pm and tuck him in now i started walkin him to school and i say give mummy a kiss b4 u go to school he hates it and tells me hes a man now i told him when he acts like 1 i will treat him like 1 lol
2007-10-13 05:46:15 · answer #3 · answered by shirl b 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs help and fast!! Your parents need to get him in counseling as fast as they can. How does he act at school? If he is OK at school, he just might be a spoiled brat, and he is getting away with it. Could there be something in the house that he is allergic to, that could be causing him to act up?
2007-10-09 11:27:39 · answer #4 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's going through something much more than you know. See if you can't take him and talk with him....don't CONFRONT him, just like go out to the park and toss the ball or fly a kite...and just talk and see if you can pick his brain. He sounds like he's a bit jealous actually. You are older than him so ........ see if you can help without sounding like a parent. (just be his sister)
2007-10-09 10:44:45 · answer #5 · answered by OMGiamgoingNUTS 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1] counseling, for him
2] family counseling for whole family [ kids and both parents ]
3] inform teacher/guidance counselor/principal of any therapies that require their participation
PRAY a lot!
Work on this now, BEFORE the big hormone surges, or he will be out of control the rest of his life.
2007-10-09 10:19:12 · answer #6 · answered by Nurse Susan 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He needs professional help from a psychiatrist without delay. It sounds like he has emotional and behavioral issues that go beyond simple reasoning.
2007-10-09 09:47:59 · answer #7 · answered by Sandy Sandals 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Family counseling, now. We went through the same thing with my brother, now he is a middle aged man who can't hold a job, is homeless, alcoholic, druggie.
2007-10-09 09:41:57 · answer #8 · answered by smartypants909 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Im just going to answer HONESTLY, your PARENTS need to step up to the plate,that is ridculous, take games t.v whatever HE enjoys away,give him chores,ground him,they need to be a parent.
2007-10-09 09:50:57 · answer #9 · answered by alovell30523 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Nothing is wrong with him. He is just 12 right now. He will be fine when he grows up.
2007-10-09 09:49:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋