Should he wear a morning suit?

Question

My fiance and I are gettin married in july. We are having the traditional morning suit, pin stripes, waistcoat, pink cravat etc.
Anyway, my fiances grandparents (well, nan) likes to get involved and usually finds a 'comment'. Anyhow, she said that his grandad wants a suit (Grandad hasn't said a word...) but nan wants him to wear a suit as she thinks he wont be in the photos. he will be, but not the main wedding party photos, as thats for parents, best man, ushers etc.
Also I have no grandad father or elderly relative to compliment him. I think he would loook out of place in a trendy looking morning suit, as a 80yr old.
I really dont mind, bt I though it was rude the way his mum and nan just said (without asking me first) that ''your grandad wants a suit, please hire one!!'' CHARMING!!!!

Answer 1

If you don't care, don't let it bother you. Get him a suit and forget about it. I wouldn't have him match everyone exactly, I'd make it a little different.

Answer 2

Since the grandfather is not in the wedding party he does not need to be in the formal mourning suit like the rest of the groomsmen. Usually there are family photos taken in addition to the bridal party ones. I do not think it will look bad if he is just in a regular suit rather than a formal tuxedo.

But if you do not care, then let him rent a mourning suit like the rest, it won't hurt anything to have him match. It is really up to you and your fiance on who wears what.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Please explain to said people that this is YOUR wedding, and not theirs. And if your fiance is going to back you up HE BETTER. Or, if not, this marriage is not going to work because your fiance is as useless as a spineless sap sucker!
Explain to your fiance grandfather that you and his grandson would think he would look out of place and that it will have other people look and snicker at him and make him feel very uncomfortable and that he should not be told what to do.
I swear, there are women and men out there who, on their wedding day, let their parents, friends and everyone dictate what THEY think should go on at a wedding, as if their sorry asses were getting married. PLEASE DO NOT LET THIS HAPPEN TO YOU!
They have two options: Either they can respect your marriage and the plans you have by not having him wear a morning suit OR you can tell your fiance that he can take that ring back and marry his grandmother! That is if he does not back you up!
Good luck with this.