my dad still treats me like a little kid!!!!!?

Question

i'm in 7th grade and hey i want to go out and have fun with friends... i am a big girl i can handle things a lot better than he thinks like today at like 10 (at night) i wanted to go to the park with a couple of friends just to talk and stuff but my dad wouldn't let me go!! (and i had some one to take me there and bring me back!) and i want to go to clubs and dance and have fun but i'm afraid to ask because i think he will think its rediculous! my mom lets but my dad doesn't what do i do???

Answer 1

keep fightin kid. youll get there.hes just protecting you.

Answer 2

Understand that your father know more about the horrible things that happen in the world than you do. Naturally he's very protective. Additionally, there are curfew laws in every state. But for the most part bad things happen to kids that are out late, predators look for small groups like that and follow them until the time is right to pluck one. If you're rolling your eyes at this answer it's because you are too immature to want to realize the truth, the problem is "kids" have a stubborn belief that "it'll never happen to me" but that's ignorance and immaturity speaking. It CAN happen to you. People with malicious intentions watch girls like you and find out where you live, where you go to school, what your hobbies are, etc. Your father knows this. Your mom's a little more lenient because you can't hide all the time but you really should hide after 10pm or least be very cautious. In 7th grade you may be a 'big girl' but you're not an adult, you're still so unknowing about so many things. In 10 years you'll look back and laugh at yourself and what you thought you knew.

Answer 3

You still are very young. Depending on the neighborhood, I wouldn't let you go to the park at 10pm, either, especially if it wasn't like...across the street or equally near your house.

There are a lot of decisions that parents have to make that have nothing to do with how trustworthy YOU are, and everything to do with how unsafe the world is in these times, and getting worse every second. It may be that things are even different than they were when your older siblings were your age.

Clubs and dances...clubs? Get real. Clubs are for adults, and only some are set up for teens. You aren't there yet.

As for dances? Well, if they are school dances...you probably are well chaperoned there but it's still up to your parents.

To earn more trust with your parents, it is important that you can handle the privileges you have now. Don't abuse them, and don't neglect your responsibilities that go with them. For example, if your curfew is 8pm and you are trying to shoot for 9pm, you can bet that your parents aren't going to give you a later curfew if you keep coming home late. It's also important that you keep your actions above the table, that means, no acting sneaky and giving them reasons to wonder what you are up to. You let them in on your plans, where you are, what you are doing, and you go there and do that. Having fun does NOT mean you become unpredictable and unreliable. You can do a lot within the limits set for you by your parents.

What I always say, and I have dealt with plenty of kids in my day, all of them in rocky relationships with their parents...is this:

Your parents are in charge of building a fence to keep you safe and also to teach you to respect their authority so that you won't be a spoiled brat. (These are rules, boundaries). You have a lot of freedoms within those boundaries but most times, kids spend all their energy trying to jump the fence instead of being content inside it. When you do this, your fence doesn't grow, it shrinks...which is not what you want?

Please believe me, I may just be an old fuddy duddy and you don't want to hear this. But you can't be a kid again. Please enjoy it while you can. You WILL get older.

Answer 4

Have you ever taken the time to think about who your dad really is? He's been out on the not so innocent, innocent walks late at night in the the park. He knows what can go wrong in those situations. There are no seventh graders who are grown up enough to go to night clubs to dance. It all seems fun until you get the dun! Experience is the best teacher, but it's a high priced tuition to have to pay. That's what Dad already knows that you don't. Dad knows best and he's taking your best interest to heart, because he cares about you and loves you...

Answer 5

I hate to say this but you are a little kid if you are in the 7th grade.....12 or 13 would be my guess..... you still have a lot of growing up to do..... He does this because he cares about you and does not want anything to happen to you....and a park at 10 at night is no place for someone of your age even if you are with friends.....and by the way the law says you have to be in by 10 unless you are with adult supervision.

Answer 6

You are only in 7th, so your like.... 13? Sure 13 is a special age but that does not necessarily mean that you are all grown up and can do whatever you want. Your dad is just doing this to protect you, you may think you know enough to go on your own, but trust me.... you aren't. There is still so much things you need to learn and the world is a dangerous place. Don't worry, I'm in high school and my mom can be overprotective at times too.

Answer 7

Don't be so hard on your dad. To him you are still his little girl. He just wants to protect you. In my opinion, at 12 years old or so (I'm guessing thats how old you are), 10 is way too late to be out on a school night. If you really want to spend time with your friends, perhaps your dad will let them come over or let you speak with them on the phone. Perhaps you can even convince him to let you join some sort of group designed for people your age that has dance parties.

Answer 8

Honey you are still very young and yes you are still a child. 7th grade dose not make you an adult. Your father is just protecting you the same way I would my family. Do not be to quick to grow up you have plenty of time and once you are my age you will wish you could go back in time to a simple life once again. I would never let my daughter goto the park at 10 at night!

Answer 9

You're about what, 12 yrs old? Personally I agree with Dad. You have no need or business being out past 10pm, nor going to "clubs". School dances are okay, with adult supervision.

You're not as big a girl as you think, and no...you couldn't handle a group of teens or even a single adult that might wish you ill. This world (unfortunately) isn't a safe place for kids anymore, sorry.

Answer 10

Are there even clubs that let 7th graders in? And it could be the fact that past 10pm there are druggies hanging out at most parks-creepy and dangerous. My parents were pretty lenient on me, but I still had a curfew (though it was kind loose) and going out after 10pm with friends, unless it was to a house, would not have been aloud. Some day you will be happy about the fact that you may have missed out on witnessing some scary situations.

Answer 11

umm u are a little kid. why the hell do u want to go to the park with your friends at 10 at night? you should go in the day time and come home before it gets dark. and u are WAY TOO YOUNG FOR THE CLUBS! are u outta ur mind? u should be at home studing for school or playin with dolls, trust me there will be plenty of time to go out and have fun, and as you get older ur dad will loosen up a bit. but right now u are just way too young to be doing that kind of stuff. u will thank ur dad later in life for being so strict! trust me, i did...im 26 now.