I find it particularly annoying when college-aged people still feel the need to kick or lean on my seat during a lecture. Normally I just grin and bear it but I've developed back problems which make it uncomfortable to have someone nudging the back of my chair for 3 hours. The other day in class a relatively big guy sits down next to me and literally spreads out taking up a seat and a half... I spent most of the lecture scrunched up in my seat to avoid having this guy practically sitting on me, which also killed my back by the end of the class. Had there been other seats, I would have gladly moved, yet it's usually not an option. How do you politely ask people to respect your space without coming across as snotty?
2007-10-09 08:41:25 · 8 answers · asked by dolce 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Just tell them that you have a back problem, and if they are decent, they will respect you and not be a bother. But, about the big guy...he might not have been able to accomodate you, if he was quite as big as he sounds. But you also said he did spread out, so I would have said something to him too.
2007-10-09 08:52:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
As for fat people, you need to contact your university and let them know the seats are not big enough for many Americans these days. It's a problem facing every theater-type setting and they need to hear about it.
If someone kicks or leans on the back of your chair, just turn around and say "Yeah? . . .Oh, I thought you were trying to ask me something." Then they'll get the hint that you felt it on your back.
2007-10-09 10:11:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am also in college and I face this problem often. I'm too big of a wimp to actually confront them, so I usually just do a half turn and cut my eyes at them. Surprisingly this is often effective. That is more for people who are just being inconsiderate though, I would handle the big guy with a little more care.
2007-10-09 12:52:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply explain, "I'm sorry to bother you, but I have a back problem that makes my back hurt when I have to lean over like this. Could I trouble you to move over a bit?"
Or, you could get there early and sit on the back row.
In all seriousness, perhaps you could make arrangements with the professor, like you could bring a different chair from another room for you to sit on during class.
2007-10-09 10:54:22 · answer #4 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-08 22:02:42 · answer #5 · answered by misconis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just watch your tone words are only 50% of communication
body language tone and expressions say the other half of the story!
just be kind say something like
i'm sorry but i really don't feel like haveing people next to me right now!
turn around and ask can you try to avoid hitting my chair my back is really jacked up and your hurting me more!
don't be afaid to get up and move!
2007-10-09 09:01:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Say excuse me, and if they don't get it tell them they are making you uncomfortable. Any decent person will give you your space and feel contrite for causing you discomfort. Good luck.
2007-10-09 08:51:28 · answer #7 · answered by kimberkara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well when I get on an airplane flight , I get the barf bag
out and hold it as If I may puke at any second,,,,
and sure enough every time i get the whole row to myself!!!!
so , just say
" hmm ah you will have to excuse as I may become ill at any moment and cant really control my projectile vomit problem, you may want to move the heck down and give me some space.....
2007-10-09 08:50:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋