What can I do to be happy?

Question

I'm ugly :(
I have no real friends, I hate my life, college, going out...I hate myself. everyday is full of pain and stress, my depression gets worse.
I don't know what should I do to be happy, no one respects me in my family and ******* people think that they're better than me just because I'm ugly.

please tell me what should I do?

Answer 1

well you have 2 choices.
1 - continue feeling sorry for yourself and isolate yourself or
2 - get busy making the best of what you have!!!


I know handicapped kids who laugh & enjoy each day cuz it may be their last....get a clue - start volunteering somewhere, improve your appearance, join a church, get out into the world and get busy!! God does not intend for you to sit around feeling bad - ok?

Answer 2

Some people have the ugliest faces, but are the most soft and beautiful inside.

That being said, you have a super case of depression and low self-esteem. You have no social circle to support you, and you have no hobbies, and you're going nowhere.

1. See a psychiatrist and get a good medical intervention. Keep working on it until you feel you're stable. You will need to stay on medications indefinitely.
2. Quit college.
3. Join a program where you help other people. Suffering people will not care about your looks if you are helping them. They will even offer you friendship out of gratitude.

Helping people is an awesome way to build self-esteem and blast away at depressive symptoms.

It would be great if this program was in a different country (you'd learn a new language) and involved physical labor (also an awesome way to blast depression). I'm talking about Peace Corps or any of dozens of projects--my dentist spends a week in Mexico twice a year just to fix teeth...Helping feed African children, innoculating babies, finding and building ways to get clean water to people, to build them shelter, to help show them how to raise their own food.

They will not care about ugly, I promise. Starving people are a lot uglier than you could ever be.

That's my advice, sweetheart. Total change of scene, steady medicine supply, helping others, working hard and accomplishing something that you will be proud of for the rest of your life. Go for it!

Debbie
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Answer 3

awww, you look sad. :( I know how you feel. Except I don't hate myself. But I have virtually no freinds, and tons of stress, plus I might be depressed. So I don't know if you're taking medication or not, but it does help. You see, it doesn't matter what is on the outside. Of course everyone judges by that, but it is just human nature. But eventually everyone gets ugly, old, wrinkly, and bald. Those people that were beautiful but were mean on the inside will still be mean. If you work on being a good person and doing good, it will shine through. Beleive it or not but service helps you feel sooooo much better. Go do something for someone else for nothing in return. It will help you feel alot better, and help you grow as a person. Depression is selfish. It's all me me me, because that is all that you are thinking about. Thinking about someone else makes you forget about yourself.
Take care hun. :)

Answer 4

First off you need to get over yourself. Stop putting yourself down. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You need to read some self help books on self esteem.
God didn't make any junk. There are many things you can do and do them well. Look for the positive things in your life. You are alive, breathing, able to walk, think , talk, laugh, eat,
cry and on and on. A lot of people can do little of those things. Look for the beauty in life.
You have to respect yourself and love yourself and believe in you even when no one else does. Find a copy of the poem THE MAN IN THE GLASS and read it. Also the poem IF
If you hate college get a job and don't go.
Do something for other people and get your mind off of yourself.
You make life what it is soooooo start making your life the way you want it to be and start TODAY

Answer 5

The only thing to do is start thinking about you want do you like to do and what kind of person are you if you are in college then I no that there has to be someone that you can befriend do the things that you like to do and you will find a real friend for everyone there is always at least one really friend for you and they are probably looking for you to. And what you said that you are to ugly and you are ugly that is one of the problems you should never think that you are to ugly that is crazy get in touch with your god things will get betting I no that it is hard when there is no one there to tell you that but that's what you have to think if you look for the worst then that is what you are going to find but if you at least try to have a good attitude then thing will start to get better just start trying new things and good luck every needs love

Answer 6

See, you can never judge if you're ugly. Everyone's got something better than the other in some way. If people avoid you, forget the problem. Find something you like and enjoy it. Life's short and you gotta' quit worrying about things like facial features. One day 50 years from now, everyone who's 20 now is gonna' look like a damn prune. It happens.
I don't know much about pep-talks and stuff but cheer up, find a hobby, do something you're good at to build confidence. Find the one thing that you do better than anyone around you (something positive, that is), and you'll see that people will respect you for who you are, not how you look. If you aren't good at anything, find somthing to start being good, and great, at. Hope that helped. Take care!

Answer 7

You should get some counseling. I was in a similar situation and it helped me a lot. I can tell you now it's not your appearance that's the problem. The same number of people are willing to be your friends no matter what you look like, because those are the peope that really connect with you. Your main problem is your lack of self-esteem. Someone down on themselves all the time is really hard to have fun with. :( It took a counselor to help me realize that. I hope you find what you need. Good luck.

Answer 8

There are a lot of people who use self-talk to handle what is going on inside their minds. When self-talk is not monitored cautiously it can lead to drastic effects not only on one’s personality but also affects its mentality and psychology. Self-talk is a type of conversation which we conduct with ourselves. In literature we call it soliloquy. Brain’s reticular activating system never forgets what we repeat again and again. Ironically this system can not recognize what is beneficial to the individual and what is not. Think you can, think you can't; either way, you'll be right- a saying goes like this. Therefore when ever we ‘talk’ with ourselves, we should be cautious, very cautious in fact. There are a lot of audio programs which can help and there are a lot of online books. If I recall there is a book ‘self-talk solutions’ which is every effective in this scenario.

You can repeat follwoing text:

I am doing just great. I like my self, I like what I am doing in my life, and I am glad to be alive.

My life is good. I know who I am, I know where I am going, and I know what I have to do. I take care of my responsibilities, and I take care of my future. I am glad to be here, and my life is better for me now than it has ever been before.

Answer 9

first of all change your yahoo name.....choose a bad-*** name! Like Bad Chad, Chad to the Bone, Chadiator.....whatever

Build self esteem and self confidence by doing positive things and hangin' with positive people. Don't listen to depressing music, don't watch sad movies....immerse yourself with good stuff. You're in college so you're young..that's good cuz you have so much life experience in front of you and you don't even realize it. Channel positive energy into your school work, get a part-time job(you'll meet new people), volunteer for charity work....I'm a believer in the nice things you do for people will come back to you tenfold.
Find your spiritual side and pursue it whether it is God, Allah, or Buddah.....

Good Luck Chadanooga!!!

Answer 10

get a girlfriend, i think im really ugly too and sometimes i really just wanna kill myself to get out of misery, i dont have a boyfriend but i feel like if i did my confidence would go up, you wont be alone forever not everyone judges by looks, i swear its true even though it sometimes doesnt feel like it, just wait and dont try to get a girlfriend just let it happen in its own time, and someone who really cares about you might make you feel better about yourself, try it out, i hope you have a good day, and i hope this helps even the slightest bit, bye! :]