Ok so i met this really really sweet guy. We talked a little and he was really nice. We've been talking on the phone for about a week now....he asked me to go out with him and be his "girl" this morning...i don't know what to say. He's in 10th grade((He's 16)) and i'm in 8th(i'm 13). We're kinda different...i mean he's goes to a really ghetto school and he's really ghetto and i'm a goodygoody from a prep school. He's really nice and sweet when I talk to him and stuff and i do like him but...i don't know...should we be more than just friends?
2007-10-09 07:35:50 · 56 answers · asked by Roxy Andrews 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh hell no ***** you ain't seen "ghetto" That is probably the rudest thing I've heard today. You cannot judge somebody because they are on a lower income level than you. Damn girl you need a reality check.
2007-10-09 07:39:25 · answer #1 · answered by ☆ღWifey Wifeyღ☆ 5 · 8⤊ 4⤋
Just think about it for a moment. Simply because you have to ask the question and are hesitant should tell you to wait. You seem smart! Tell him in a very nice way, that you would like to wait a little while. Now you'll really know how sweet he is by the way he reacts. If he gets upset with you then you know he's not ready to go out with you yet either. If he's polite and says "ok" then you might consider going out on a few dates after a while and absolutely nothing more! I know 13 and 16 doesn't seem like a big age difference, but when you're that age the difference is pretty substantial. Why not wait until it seems more clear for you. Learn more about his family and friends, etc. Until then, keep a good head on your shoulders.
2007-10-09 07:42:58 · answer #2 · answered by Lori E 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you like him? You say that his sweet. You have been talking to him for over a week. Does not mean anything that you guys are different just because you go to diff schools. Maybe that is a charm. Has a difference in age but is not that much. Some 13 old girls look more adult than a lot of 17 year old girl. I think you are very excited and just affraid which I dont blame you. Just ask yourself if you are ready to deal with this right now. Life is not easy and is made from decisions. Ask your heart if you are not making any sense. Good Luck.
2007-10-09 07:44:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. Will you guys be able to hang out a lot? Have any mutual friends? Like to go out and do the same things (hiking, biking, sledding, etc.)?
Phone relationships really aren't the best way to tell how you really feel about the person.
Maybe wait to be his 'girl' and see if you can actually stand him in person or not. Go do social things together. Find a place in public to talk to each other.
And remember in general, 16 year old boys really do only think about 1 thing... and you probably know it's not sports. :0 Well, I guess sex could be seen as a sport...but not at your age.
My point was, it's how well the guy keeps you from knowing he's thinking about it. If all he does is stare at your chest or other girls' butts... Then you know it's what he's after.
But if he actually has conversations with you about things you like to do, hang out with him and have fun. I'd still caution about letting the relationship go any further than kissing though... Really.
2007-10-09 07:47:58 · answer #4 · answered by Rayne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's sweet and nice to you because he wants to get into your pants. Once he does he will either stop calling and talking to you, because he got what he wanted, or he'll start acting like a jerk.
I know you're only 13, but think about this, why can't he find a girl closer to his own age in his school. Listen to your instincts, if he's goes to a "ghetto" school and he's really ghetto that should be a warning sign.
Unless you want to end up pregnant, in jail and on welfare, just say no to him. Saying no now will save you years of heartache and therapy. Not too mention if you guys "hook up" he'd be guilty of statutory rape. Just say no!!!!!
FYI all guys are nice and sweet until they get what they want. Then we change, some of us become more of a jerk than others, but it happens to the best of us.
2007-10-09 07:44:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The thing is, if you feel like you don't have all that much in common, it probably won't work out - even if he does seem like a sweet guy. 3 years isn't much of an age difference when you are 22 and someone is 25, but chances are that he is a lot more experienced than you are at the moment.
2007-10-09 07:45:25 · answer #6 · answered by oldtimer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 16 years and your girl friend is just 13. You have a only difference between 3 years so i don't thing so that there may aroused any problem between you. You are a little bit older than her so please give her some times to thinking about you.
2016-05-19 23:51:54 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's something appealing about a bad boy, but ghetto? Are you just trying to PO your parents. 10th grade and 8th grade is generally ok...age wise. Do you mean ghetto like poor or ghetto like the whole thuggish picture? Don't settle for a broke loser who won't amount to anything, but if he's a good guy with potential and a good head on his shoulders I say give it a shot.
2007-10-09 07:45:56 · answer #8 · answered by michims 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't recommend it. Not because of the difference in the schools, but in maturity. a 16 year old boy is hard to read. I would stay friends with him for as long as possible and wait a year or 2. I understand where you are coming from, but I don't know what the FULL situation is.
Hope this helps.
2007-10-09 07:41:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heres how guys work. The 16yrs olds hitting on you13 are doing it cause they think your too starstruck and dumb to figure out they are hitting on you to get with a girl cause no one remotely close too his age will touch him (hes got something wrong about him)! Imagine if a guy 13 hit on your 9 yr ols sister, you knew he was a weird dork wanting to do something sexual and your kid sister was thinking he was all cool. Well I'm your big sister and I know this fellow is after you cause others his age rejected him for good reasons, and he thinks he can get with you, to do some sex stuff cause you'll be dumb and do it. If you are smart, you'll not be alone with him, and ask alot of questions if he starts talking or especially touching. This is dangerous and way weird of him, and you have to talk to older girls who know him if you are tempted to even be alone with this boy.
2007-10-09 07:48:03 · answer #10 · answered by kim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too young to actually be dating someone. Wait until you are 18, then play the field for someone who isn't going to break your heart or cheat on you. He may seem sweet but you two won't know what true love is. True love can't be given. You just know when you are with the person. Trust me it's not worth your time to end up being hurt. Patience is a virtue.
2007-10-09 07:42:48 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋