When she gets married. It's been that way for years in our family.
She has been giving me so much grief - I'm ready to give up and call it quits.
She needs to wear this down the isle - no matter what.
Tell me what you think of the dress - I'm just so ticked off right now!!
http://www.uen.org/utahlink/tours/admin/tour/13227/13227sheavysatinweddingdress.jpg
2007-10-09 07:27:23 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I just yanked it out of my closet - also, it's a very beautiful dress. It's all velvet and so soft!!!!
2007-10-09 07:32:48 · update #1
The dress is very pretty. I know it is hard for us mom's to let our children grow up. Just remember it is HER day though and I am sure she will be beautiful in whatever she wears. This is funny but when I got married I actually wanted to wear my mother dress but my father would not allow it. It was strapless and he was not about to give me away with me wearing something that "risque'". LOL. Please don't argue over the dress. Let this be her decision and make it about
HER. You will have plenty of other things down the road to argue about. Maybe you could even make a compromise so that some part of the dress is used (like one of the sleaves could be bunched up to make some decor in her boquet.
2007-10-09 11:28:16 · answer #1 · answered by icunurse85 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not the right style for today's weddings. My gosh at some point the tradition thing should be started over don't you think. Who wants to wear a dress that has been in the family for 50 years. I sure wouldn't. It is pretty for an older woman. But not a young bride. Let her wear what she wants. Let her start another tradition dress. Maybe have the dress part of the reception on a manikin. Don't make her feel un beautiful on her wedding day. You want her to feel beautiful and remember the day with love. If you make her wear something she don't like she will not.
2007-10-09 07:43:43 · answer #2 · answered by rae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's her wedding. She should wear whatever she wants. The wedding day is for the bride, not her mother. Does the dress even fit her? My daughter is tall and slender like her dad and I'm not so tall and not so slender. She would never be able to wear my wedding dress. Have her carry the same hanky or wear the pearls or something else to carry on tradition. The dress is a big deal for most brides and she shouldn't be guilted into wearing a gown she doesn't want to wear. It is a beautiful dress, but it's her day and if she wants to wear her own gown, then let her.
2007-10-09 07:39:10 · answer #3 · answered by kat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A tradition only works as long as the family members agree to keep the tradition. You can't force someone to do something they don't want to. If the daughter doesn't want to wear the dress, then keep it for a future grand-daughter and maybe start a new tradition. If you make too big of a deal out of it you may not get a chance to meet your future grandchildren.
2007-10-09 07:36:35 · answer #4 · answered by teleduster 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anyone who knows me will tell you that I've always been one for tradition. However, this one might need to go out the window. Although the dress is lovely, it's obviously very old and not in the best condition. If you're really so gung-ho about your daughter keeping up the tradition, why not bring in a new, updated dress? Because, to be perfectly honest, I don't blame your daughter for objecting.
2007-10-09 08:12:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No disrespect intended, but it is indeed old fashioned. I wouldn't want to wear it either, tradition or not.
Let her wear what she wants. Why not have a piece of the dress sewn into the lining of her new dress so that she will have "something old" from your dress with her as she walks down the isle. Or, if you don't want to cut it, save it and maybe her future daughter will want to wear it. It's not fair of you to force her to do something she doesn't want to do. She's an adult now. If you wanted to instill this tradition in her, it should've started long before now.
2007-10-09 07:37:54 · answer #6 · answered by life is good 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unlike most everyone else, I think the dress is beautiful. There could maybe be some things you could do to bring it into the 21st century, however. Maybe make it sleeveless and wear long gloves. Remove the lace panel and replace it with some other fabric. Purchase a new veil. Make so other concessions about hair, makeup, or nails. compromise. Will she fit into it. Once she tries it on, she may change her mind.
2007-10-09 10:00:28 · answer #7 · answered by mitch9262002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its your daughters special day and you should give it to her (the day not the dress) if she wants to wear a dress that is herself then let her, by starting fights and trying to make her wear that dress you making her wedding (in a way) about you, stop being selfish shes dreamed about this day her whole life and your taking her dream from her.
You just posted it is velvet. Bull S**t when you clink on the link the address says satin. oh and you just pulled it out of your closet, is your closet a museum that has scheduled tours. TROLL!!
2007-10-09 09:51:48 · answer #8 · answered by nicki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just how long has that dress been in the family?! Please tell me you aren't seriously going to make her wear that.....
Drop your tradition, it's stupid to make people do things they don't want to do! Why are you holding out on this anyways- were you forced to wear the dress and now want to make your daughter miserable?
Start a new tradition where the mom and daughter get along while planning the wedding.
Good luck.
2007-10-09 10:58:12 · answer #9 · answered by kiki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because it is tradition doesn't make it right. Maybe she can alter it using most of the existing material. The dress has to be her own style. It is her day. I have my dress and will offer it to my daughters when they are ready to get married, but if they don't like it then that is their choice. Maybe if and when they have children we can use the material for christening gown for the babies. I'd like to see it used for my daughters but only in a way that suits them. Don't push it on her. She will end up hating you for it and will always blame you for "ruining" her day...
2007-10-09 09:31:24 · answer #10 · answered by seachelle38 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋