I had a labrador retriver color chocolate brown it was 4 month old. it died a few weeks ago i told my daughter we went to take it to the hospital while he being at school she always asks when were going to go for the dog i was thinking of buying another one and pretend is the same dog is it correct?
2007-10-09 07:06:09 · 42 answers · asked by hs1983 2 in Pets ➔ Dogs
I'm sorry for your loss and I'm sorry for your daughters loss. I'm a mom too, and I would absoluately be honest with your child. To buy another pup is not wise with your intended explanation "pretend it is the same dog."
Death is part of life and she needs to know what happen to her puppy. Blessings, Patti
2007-10-09 07:39:17 · answer #1 · answered by Patti 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You did not say how old your daughter was but it is best to tell our children the truth about such things.. Tell her he went to heaven and he is in a place with beautiful flowers and a lot of other dogs that he loves to play with and he is not unhappy or hurting any more.. You could possibly bring another dog home before you tell her this which would help. I am sure that your daughter would be able to tell the difference in a new dog from the old one. Kids are pretty smart!! A puppy is a good idea. Kids cannot ignore a puppy! Tell her you bought a playmate for the other dog and then wait a few days and then tell her the truth after she gets to know the new puppy pretty well. It is always best to be open with our children because it gets harder and harder the older they get if they suddenly are shocked by things that we have protected them from when they were younger.
2007-10-09 07:19:25 · answer #2 · answered by craft painter 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, I think that's a bad idea. First of all, you're lying to your child. Second, death is a natural part of life and this can be a good experience to teach your child about death. After all, this dog is not the only living thing your child will know who will die. Also, your child might become very scared of doctors or hospitals if she thinks her dog went to one and never came back. This could be very bad if she ever had to go to a doctor or hospital, say, for a checkup. I'd say the best thing to do now is to apologize to your daughter and explain that you told her the dog was in the hospital but it really died. Then teach her about death and the afterlife. This is a difficult situation that many parents have to deal with but I know you can do it.
2007-10-09 07:12:47 · answer #3 · answered by drshorty 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No. Be honest. When my kids were little and we lost a pet to illness, we had a little memorial or rememberance service for them. Doesn't have to be anything fancy, just remembering the good things about the pup, etc. and planting a flower or a tree or taking a donation in the pet's name to an animal rescue. Depending on the age of your daughter there are some great books that your local children's librarian can probably recommend. My kids' favorite was The Tenth Good Thing About Barney by Judith Viorst.
My parents lied to me about the very same thing, and I still remember how devastated I was when I found out the truth.
2007-10-09 07:19:34 · answer #4 · answered by thehouseofcritters 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, one of the many benefits of having pets is the life lessons they bring to our children...Even though it is hard for a child to accept the death of a pet, the truth is more appropriate. By all means, get another dog once everyone is ready for that, but I would tell your son the truth (well maybe leave out the part about how the dog actually died a few weeks ago), the vet couldn't make the puppy better, sadly he died, we will all miss him a lot and always remember him.
2007-10-09 07:11:50 · answer #5 · answered by Rachal961 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't get a new dog in place of the old one you lost. It's also not good to lie to your daughter. Children know more than adults give them credit for. I'm sure if you explained the situation, she'd understand. It's not right to lie to her and try to trick her into thinking a new dog was the old one. I recommend you just come clean and tell her the dog passed away. She'll probably be really upset at first, but children tend to bounce back quickly. She may not be ready for a new dog, so don't push the idea.
2007-10-09 07:37:18 · answer #6 · answered by liveyourlife 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no i wouldnt do that,thing is your daughter will be asking when the dog is coming home all the time and you cant keep the pretence up all the time,they would know the diserence if you got another dog,always best to be honest about it,my cat died a few weeks ago and the granchildren cried for a short time we talk about him we all loved him very much,i dont know how old your daughter is my grandchildren are are like from 2 upwards i just told them he ws porly and he has gone to a better place and now he isnt suffering not in pain anymore anymore children can handle death better than us,there very suseptable,so please tell her the truth you will be upset for while then she will be ok and probably ask if she can have another dog
all the best everything will be ok
2007-10-09 07:26:25 · answer #7 · answered by meg 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
To tell your child the dog was taken to the hospital has already been done so I won't say anything about that but I will say don't ever lie to your child again.I don't care how young or how old,only the truth will do.Just explain to her that the dog was very very sick and God let it go to "Doggie Heaven".It is scary for a child to hear this but it is better (I think) to always be honest with them.They have to know they can always trust what you tell them.Did your dog have all of it's shots ? A fenced in yard helps to protect them from their wanderings. If you do get another animal,make sure it is in good health when you get it. Let your child help to pick it (age appropriate) and let her realize how important it is to give it the very best of care.If you do get one, I hope this one works out better. Good Luck.
2007-10-09 07:26:35 · answer #8 · answered by Ava 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-08 21:53:19 · answer #9 · answered by dickison 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Children need to be told the truth. Replacing the dog is a good idea, however, do not assume the child will believe it is the same dog.
Be candid with your child, be open and honest.
My bigger concern, what caused the dog's death at 4 months old?
2007-10-09 07:12:47 · answer #10 · answered by rjn529 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋