Me and my BF had an arguement the other day but since we are both stubborn neither of us called for 2 days. Then finally Saturday I broke down and texted him asking if he loved me, just to break the ice. He texted back yes. Then I called he didn't answer, then I text no answer. This started at about 6:30 by like 8 i stopped cus i was just pissed he was ignoring me. My friends call ask me to come out, so to take my mind off of him, i went. At 11:30 he texts asking if i feel the same way he does, like ****? I said no that i was fine. He then shows up where i am cus now he wants 2 talk. Long story short he said alot but what sticks in my head is that he is scared that he might cheat on me and that maybe we need time off. It's not him talking it's his friends sayin he should be single like them. What would you do if your partner that 2 u? Do u end it or fear that they will cheat, but now he swears he wont. Im the 1st real GF he has had in 2 yrs and over the 2 yrs he hit the books!
2007-10-09 06:49:05 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It's really your decision to make. If you do not have any more reason to distrust him other than going by the one time He Told You He Might Cheated, but actually Didn't, then you have to give him credit for that and trust UNTIL, the event of Cheating, Actually Occurrs. If you don't think that you can't trust him anymore and perhaps will always throw what he said back in his face, I suggest the two of you have a Long, Long Talk, before the Both of you take a Long, Long Walk, away from one another for what??? Words and not Actions? Get it together or leave it alone. Good Luck to you all.
2007-10-10 06:15:11 · answer #1 · answered by Dub-G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me start by saying that I don't know either of you and a relationship is a very personal thing so take this advice as a tip but make the decision yourself.
Well the real question now is can you believe him. Now that he has planted in your head that he may cheat can you honestly trust him and believe him when he says he hasn't. The relationship is not worth it if you can't trust each other. Cheating isn't something that just happens if he thinks he may cheat then that shows how unimportant you are to him. The questions you need to ask is 1.) do you need a brake or a brake-up? If he needs to sell those wild oats then you two need to brake up and maybe get back together later down the road. A brake should not be a way for him to cheat & not feel guilty which is what it sounds like he wants. 2.) Can you survive a brake? Seeing him out with girls and not being able to see him one on one. 3.) If he is a sheep and follows the herd (meaning his friends) do you real want him? Do you real want a guy that can't decide for himself. However nobody can make him cheat that is something he has to decide for himself.
Do what is best for you!
2007-10-09 07:18:26 · answer #2 · answered by TIGERDD24 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why he would say he loves you and then he's thinking about cheating. What I really think maybe he's trying to make you jealous. Or see what kind of reaction you'll have toward what he said. But if he really is thinking of cheating at least he had the common decently to say so then going behind you back. Hope that's not the case though(Cheating)
2007-10-09 07:38:05 · answer #3 · answered by rock of ages 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has already cheated on a previous gf chances are better than not he will do it again. If my guy said this to me I would want to keep him closer to me. You are in a tough spot. To keep him or not to keep him with the thought he might cheat? But if he does not have enough self control to not cheat on you after you have been together for 2 years then you should probably move on. 2 years is more than enough time to figure out how you feel about someone. If he really loved you he would never even think about cheating.
2007-10-09 07:43:20 · answer #4 · answered by musicgrl42002 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's afraid he might cheat on you BELIEVE HIM. If he's afraid he might cheat on you and/or wants to "take a break" he's not ready to be in a relationship. And if you're both playing silly little mind games of not talking to each other, neither of you is ready to be in a relationship. Love is not enough to make a relationship work. He is CLEARLY not ready to be in one, and you might not either. I suggest breaking up with him and moving on.
2007-10-09 07:02:52 · answer #5 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he either has already cheated or found someone he wants to have sex with but wants to still keep you...so by "taking a break" will give him a clear concious of thinking its ok because technically you two were not together at the time...i would tell if either you stay together or you separate for life...why fight it?? why try to make something work if deep down you know it won't???
2007-10-09 07:16:10 · answer #6 · answered by buschchick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump his ***! Anyone who says they are 'scared they will cheat' is no good and that is no excuse. He doesn't know what he wants obviously so he is not worth your time unless he figures out that he really wants you and is willing to commit and not listen to his d!ckhead friends.
2007-10-09 23:46:52 · answer #7 · answered by BTB2211 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think BOTH of you are too immature to be in a relationship. If a man said that to me - I would be GONE!!!
Counseling - it's called counseling.
This is in the wedding section. I hope you're not thinking about getting married. And if you ARE getting married - please don't have babies until you stop acting like babies yourself.
Stubborness is a sign of immaturity - IMHO.
2007-10-09 06:59:28 · answer #8 · answered by liddabet 6 · 7⤊ 1⤋
I would be worried he already cheated. I would have a hard time trusting him because he doesn't trust himself. If I can't trust someone I can't be involved with them
2007-10-09 06:53:34 · answer #9 · answered by Scout729 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
men are by nature not monogamous and they will cheat on you at some point or another.
If he wants a break its obvious he has eyes on another and just weighing out his possibilities with her.
At the same time, he needs room , so give it to him........
2 can play the same game is if he wants room, he can have it, same time he must expect that you have your own life to lead too, make that clear !
2007-10-09 07:07:30 · answer #10 · answered by aunt_webby 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋