Hey! i am 17 and have been engaged for about 3 months. I just had a set of twins (one boy and one girl) and, my fiance and I have moved in together. I am planning the wedding, but with two babies, school, and family it's hard. Plus.. its majorly expensive! Anyway, i was asking if anyone knew any ways to make it easier and cheaper. My fiance, Travis, is working and attending college so, its hard on him too! We want to have a medium sized wedding.. and like i said its been stressful! anyway, i would have my mom giving me advice, but since she hasnt talked to me since i got pregnant.. thats not a big help.!
2007-10-09 05:59:16 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Well, as everyone else has said, your kids are what is most important. Before you decide to plan a wedding, make sure you have everything you need for your children. Since you have made the babies, you need to care for them as well. They are your number one priority in life and they depend upon you and you alone.
BUT, you CAN have a "medium-sized" wedding for very little money. First, have the ceremony outside or in a friend or family member's house. Then you can have a reception outside or in someone's house as well. Stick with a cake and punch reception as that is always easy on the budget and can still be beautiful. Decorations can be found at somewhere like Walmart even, or a local craft store like Hobby Lobby or Michaels. As for your dress, go straight to the clearance items. It may take a while to find what you really want, but some clearance items really are a steal! Or, if you are able to mend your relationship with your mother, you could wear hers down the isle. She would probably love that.
Anyway, just make sure your kids have what they need and then you can plan a beautiful, decent-size cheap wedding. Good luck!
2007-10-09 09:11:49 · answer #1 · answered by Julie D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait on the wedding. I know you really want one but you have to think about your family now. You two aren't in a good financial place right now to even plan a small wedding of 70 guests. Go to the justice of peace and sign the marital paperwork. After your fiancee Travis graduates from college and gets a job... Then you two can begin to save money for a wedding. He's under a lot of stress as it is. A wedding would be too much.
I know this because I had to plan a wedding, work and attend nursing school full time (which includes working over 20 hours a week in a hospital). I can't even think about being a new parent on top of that!
2007-10-09 06:13:54 · answer #2 · answered by Jasmine808 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'd say go w justice of the peace and maybe just a small gathering afterwards w/ family and close friends either at your house or a good friends'. You can invite ppl to the j.o.p's so they can see the ceremony as well and this way it will stay affordable too. Then a few years down the road, when things aren't so hectic w newborns and school, you can renew your vows and have a big ceremony w lots of ppl at that time? If not, and you want a non court house wedding, check out the theknot.com and brides.com. Both are very helpful wedding planning sites. They help w guest lists etc And finding cheap vendors in the area for like flowers, catering etc.
2007-10-09 06:32:41 · answer #3 · answered by happily married ( : 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hello
Congrats on the twins!
How about getting married with the JP and then have your own vows with your family and friends at a place that means something special to you and your boyfriend. That way you don't have to spend a lot of money on a dress just wear something still dressy. Then have a small party at a house. You can make it special if you use your imagination. You don't have to have it traditional just make it special. Then when your 10 year ann. comes around then you can do something to renew your vows. You may have more money and then your twins could have a part in it also. Which would be very special.
You could prepare the food yourself with help from family.
Like fried chicken, with mashed potatoes, anything you would want with that. (salad)
Soda punch ( punch would be a cheap way to keep cost down) Because then you wouldn't have little ones wasting it.
I would say that if you kept the # of guest down you could have a nice wedding for $500 to $1000. total cost.
Something to think about....
Do you want your mom there if so you need to talk to her.
2007-10-09 06:35:44 · answer #4 · answered by lamd 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
To make is easier, wait. WAIT until you CAN afford a wedding.
Start saving now what you can each month and after a several years it should be a lot easier. Why the rush? You already had your kids.
I think you still have a lot of growing up to do before you decide to tie the knot. I recommend you hold off until you can manage everything that is going on better than you can now. It may give you and your mom time to reconcile your differences.
But if you are adamant about getting married NOW, then the cheapest way may be going to your local Justice of the Peace. It won't be a medium size wedding, but you'll be married.
2007-10-09 06:11:15 · answer #5 · answered by sugar sweet 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You can still have a nice small wedding without spending a lot. See if you can get a minister to do it for you outdoors in a park or at someones house. Celebrate at the site with a simple sandwich or bar b que type meal with some sides. Get an inexpensive sheet cake or bake it yourself. You dont have to spend a lot of money to celebrate your special day with a few family and friends but you will at least have a day to remember. Most weddings cost way too much anyway and its almost silly to spend thousands of dollars for one day in a life time. Ask a friend to take pictures of your ceremony and party so you have something to show the kids later.
2007-10-09 06:12:36 · answer #6 · answered by Diane M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
K.I.S.S
Keep
It
Simple
Sweetie
You have to admit you are young and not doing things in the traditional order. Have a JP wedding and a small gathering of friends and family. Make it BYOB and bring a side dish. You and your finace can supply the main course and ask everyone to bring a side dish. You can do the big wedding at 5 years or 10 years. Don't put that kind of pressure on you or your fiance.
Good luck
2007-10-09 09:43:08 · answer #7 · answered by seachelle38 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to give up your dream to have a nice wedding (not courthouse style). Do you have any aunts or other relatives or friends that might be willing to help you at least with the planning. You could have an outdoor wedding somewhere cheap or free. You could go to discount stores for wedding stuff too and consignment shops for a used dress (my aunt got hers new on clearance at a wedding shop for $50). You could have the bridesmaids pay for their own. But you don't have to rush take time to get your mother back in your lives she will come around because she's not going to want to miss out on the children's lives. Just start slow, send her a card and flowers with a note a pics of the twins. It's important for the children to have their grandma in their lives.
Congratulations and Good Luck. Things will get better.
2007-10-09 06:17:38 · answer #8 · answered by littlemisscontroverse 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Okay, so here goes....for the wedding dress-check papers,online,consignment shops,sales,etc. ...for the service-if you are a member of a church you can have the service for free and use the pastor of the service....for the reception-ask some of your close friends, family, bridesmaids to bring a appetizer to the reception which could actually be held at the social hall of the church....for pictures-research prices and try to go with a local photographer....for flowers-you could go buy some flowers(fake or real) and make the bouquets and boutonnieres on your own....for the invitations-get a do-it-at- home pack(you can find at walmart)and print out your invitations....for the rehearsal-do spagetti or something low cost. These are all things my friends, family and I have done with our weddings. I wish you the best and hope i have been of some help!
2007-10-09 06:16:05 · answer #9 · answered by aguilar_laurita 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Asher you and your man just might have to settle for a justice of he peace at the present time. I realize that you both probably have your hearts set on a nice medium sized wedding but reality is that it may not be in the cards or budget at this time. The pair of you could always have a civil ceremony now and then in a couple years when you can better afford a bigger and nicer wedding have one then. But if the two of you are still not considering this as an option then you can always do things on your own to save a lot of cash. You can buy a second hand dress (for about a quarter the price), you can make your own cake and meals, you can download your own music selection on line for the dance. You can always go to a hock shop to buy your rings and save large on these also. Friends are always there to help with a lot of these things in preparing or these special events and so don't be shy to ask for them to help (majority will be excited to help and honoured that you asked). As far as moma goes, let her know of your upcoming nuptials and if she wants to attend then the ball is in her court. Let her know that she has twin grandchildren and how you would like her to be involved in their lives (that is if you want to attempt to make amends and/or to get this relationship back on track). Regardless of what you decide remember that it is your day and so how it goes down is up to the pair of you. Do not allow yourselves to get into major financial difficulties just to get married as that isn't a healthy way for a marriage to begin. Good luck on your decision and congrats on the birth of your children.
2007-10-09 06:11:42 · answer #10 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋