I am divorced since my children were an infant and toddler.
I have been single for many years and actually have done pretty good for myself. I drive a fairly new SUV, I work at a very lucrative job as a RN. I own my own home. I have dated the same guy for 5 yrs and we have a lot in common
Recently my boyfriends brother went into the hospital for a 2nd bypass in 10 yrs. He is a really nice fella, so instead of sending him a flower, I sent him a funny card and a pair of really nice Mizuno shoes which are my favorite brand. I knew he would be walking in the fitness center at the hospital, so I figured rather than buying him a stupid flower, I would put my money into something useful-walking shoes. I firgured it would cost about the same and thought it would be appreciated.
Now his wife is all jealous and he would not talk to me during our last visit. My boyfriend told me she is that way.
I now am being treated like dirt by the whole family. Did I do something wrong?
2007-10-09 05:45:08 · 10 answers · asked by happydawg 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I dont even remember what the card was about, but it did say get well soon. It had some funny medical stuff on it.
Also, I pay my own way and send my own birthday gifts, christmas cards, etc. We do not live together and we are not engaged, so I figure if he wants to contribute some cash to the gift, he can have his name on it, but he usually just writes a check to the recipient, so I always send my own present from my own family
2007-10-09 05:58:45 · update #1
Thoughtful people like yourself are a rare find these days.
Don't change being who you are because people don't know how to deal with that. Just continue to be who you are! I would love to have a friend like you.
2007-10-09 05:49:27 · answer #1 · answered by idontwantasalad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I think it was very nice and they are all just jelous because they didn't think of it. If you want to go to whom ever you think is the gossip or who is the lead of this family and explain that you where just trying to be nice and recongize you overstepped boundry in "this family" It would be best for your bf to address the issue, but this is probably only going on because he is afraid to do so. I personaly would just tell them all to go to hell, but I'm kida a bi*** that way.
When my bf's mother was in the hospital I cleaned her apartment, got her some night gowns, underwear, socks, and some reading materials. Everyone in the family kept tellling me it was none of my business. They also started telling my bf that he need to empty his bank account because they needed money. I stepped in and told my bf we need to talk about this and he agree (we have lived together for over five years). It was my bf's responsibility to stand up to the family and he eventually did. Now, the family doesn't mess with me and realize my bf and me are a family within the family and they should respect me as his partner.
2007-10-09 12:53:37 · answer #2 · answered by Mel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did absolutely NOTHING wrong! You gave him hope and a very thoughtful gift. Flowers are NOT stupid, however and please don't feel that way just because someone might have suggested it might have been more appropriate. His wife sounds like a real winner and so do the rest if they can actually be angry at such a kind gesture!!
2007-10-09 12:50:53 · answer #3 · answered by Chris B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did nothing wrong, other than get involved with this person who did not defend youj to his family and his brother's bitchy wife. Better re-think this relationship; and ask yourself: at some point down the road would you actually want to marry into this Addams Family?That wife sounds like a real winner and the rest of them take her side...wow.
2007-10-09 13:12:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I wouldn't think so, but who did say it was from, you and your boyfriend, or just you?
If it was put that it was from you and him, she shouldn't be jealous. But if you put it was just from you, that's going to get anyone with a jealous bone there body in a whirlwind and she probably went trash talking to the fam. Don't let it bother you. What did the boyfriend do about this? He should be sticking up for you.
2007-10-09 12:49:13 · answer #5 · answered by 81 Honda 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did the card say something that ticked her off? She should be happy that he got some good shoes although that is a rather odd gift. Your BF needs to say something to them. After all, it's his family.
2007-10-09 12:49:06 · answer #6 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like you did anything wrong. Maybe the card was offensive?? Some people don't have the same sense of humor. Just go about your life, that's all you can do. Good luck :)
2007-10-09 12:48:30 · answer #7 · answered by oracleofohio 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you didn't do anything wrong. you were being thoughtful. sounds like this family just wants something to talk about and even if you would have gotten him flowers it would have been the same thing. try talking to his wife and let her know your intentions were good and you were just being thoughtful, you weren't intentionally trying to upset anyone.
2007-10-09 12:51:32 · answer #8 · answered by firefly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they think that the gift was too extravagant and that you are after him so just explain that you didnt think it would cause offence and you were only being good naturedm keep away from them they sound a bit jealous
2007-10-09 12:49:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't like the fact that you have been thoughtful in your choice of gift - don't worry about it.
It's them that are being silly - stand up and be the bigger (wo)man, and don't let it cause any friction on your part.
2007-10-09 12:48:52 · answer #10 · answered by Gem Gem 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋