2007-10-09 05:37:42 · 58 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I am the husband of the daughter and they both playfully say things like that to each other all the time. But today he just happened to say, "I wonder what people would say (on Yahoo) about a daughter talking to her father like that." So, I playfully posted the question. He enjoyed all the input you all gave and we thank you. I especially appreciate those who gave serious advice in an attempt to help the situation. In spite of the vulgar banter that goes on between them, you'll be happy to know that they are very close and both have a wonderful sense of humor. (I married the daughter because she is such a clown.)
Thank you all!
2007-10-09 15:10:12 · update #1
Depends on whether he deserved it or not!
2007-10-09 05:39:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 3⤋
I relate to your question. Where I live if you stayed in gymnastics and showed talent, the pressure started to join a team. My daughter also took it from an early age. When she was 5 I started asking parents of older kids about it. One mom had an 8 year old and she said her schedule was 20 hours a week. I just could not see allowing that with my daughter. At the time she also did ice skating so I gave her the choice between the two, and she chose ice skating. Now she herself is 8 and the same pressure is there to skate many hours a week. However, what's different is that she's not on a team so that gives us a lot more freedom. It's an individual effort towards her own personal goals. So in the fall when she has more school work we go down to 3-4 hours a week, and we can put in more hours in winter when she can't play outside anyway. But she could skate every day before school and there are people who do that. My priorities are to give her life balance at this age. She would skate every day if I gave her the choice. I don't think that would be healthy or right for her at this age. Yes, it's important to listen to your kids if they love an activity but you still have to be the parent and make a judgment call about what is too much - and just because other people do it doesn't make it the right choice for YOUR child.
2016-05-19 23:13:41 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this was a regular occurrence I would think the daughter is mentally ill. The reason is if she doesn't like her dad that much then don't see him. At 42 there shouldn't be that immature want to have drama. Then again the daughter might have finally said something that needed to be said. If it was a first time thing then she might have finally got the guts to stand up to him and he is probably an *ss.
2007-10-09 05:47:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she and her parents need to have a talk about expectations of behavior. I will go out on a limb and guess that the daughter lives with the father (or within a few minutes drive)...which is fine...as long as both parents and child have fully expressed what they deem to be appropriate behaviors in the various social situations they will be presented with...if the daughter is feeling symptoms of PMS or maybe early menopause...you are SOL dude, get the hell out of there!
2007-10-09 05:42:06 · answer #4 · answered by gottjoshie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What was the situation like before she blurted this? I'm sure she was provoked, unless she was just acting like an immature brat.
If she was in the wrong, and her father was peacefully minding his own business, then she obviously had no right acting this way.
But, if it was a heated argument and it just came out, then everyone involved needs to take a breather, clear the room, and calmly talk about the situation like adults.
Either way she needs to apologize.
2007-10-09 05:43:34 · answer #5 · answered by angiemedic56 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on their relationship!
I've done it at age 19. I was married & pregnant with my first child. My father has never been a part of my life & when he came around for a 2nd chance. He screwed up, so those words came out. It's been 4 years later & not so much as a phone call from him.
2007-10-09 06:22:55 · answer #6 · answered by Hugs 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think 42 is a little old to be saying that. I told my mother f you when I was a teen. And again when I was in my 20s. Only because she was trying to control my life.
2007-10-09 05:47:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anger, you should wait for her to cool off and then approach her and ask her what is the matter?
She is giong through some hard times and needs someone to lend an ear and perhaps hear her out, maybe if the problem is really serious she can get counseling.
2007-10-09 05:42:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not cool. Depending on the situation and what brought about this exchange she should have said, "Father, you're a no-good mother #$%^er, a total @ss #$%^, and a worthless piece of #$%^ !" I'm a big believer in diplomacy as you can tell from the above!
2007-10-09 05:45:00 · answer #9 · answered by Noah H 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Disrespectful
2007-10-09 06:11:23 · answer #10 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say there is a troubled past between the two......... I think they need to sit down and clear the air......
Im 34 and my dad is 68 I would never speak to my father in that fashion but me and my dad are close, now i do HOLD iLL feelings against my mother , i try to hold it in, but one day i will end up blowing up at her.
2007-10-09 05:41:32 · answer #11 · answered by tammer 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋