i asked him to stop staring at my butt, we work together. he spreads rumors and tells people what i said trying to manipulate them into hating me. is this normal behavior?
2007-10-09 05:28:36 · 22 answers · asked by valley girl 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
try some heroin or some weird drugs that will make your butt flatten out and then he wont have anything to stare at
2007-10-09 05:31:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
He is probably embarassed that you noticed him looking at your rear. Every guy knows that some women don't like that, but most guys look before their brain tells them not to. Being caught peeking and then being chastised for it was probably embarassing to him. He may be telling others to make himself feel less uncomfortable - trying to reassure himself that he is not a pervert or that he is a normal guy.
I think it is absolutely normal behavior - The extent to which he goes in reacting to this situation may go too far, though, and in no way should you tolerate any behavior that makes you uncomfortable.;
My advice to you would be this: If you want to repair the relationship, try talking to him. Let him know that you don't think he's a jerk for sneaking a peek and ask him how he feels about it. Try to avoid getting angry - anger only aggravates sensetive situations. Once that issue is dealt with, and only if it's really important to you, let him know that you're afraid that he may be spreading rumors. Okay, he WILL be angry if you aren't very very very careful.
If all else fails, forget him. Nothing he says about you can really hurt you, it can only irritate if you let it. Others will be able to see that he is spreading rumors out of anger, and will probably assume that he has a crush on you if he brings you up in conversation. I mean, really, if you knew a guy who constantly talked (either in a good way or not) about a certain girl, what would you think? :)
2007-10-09 12:41:01 · answer #2 · answered by Shorty 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most people make their own minds about people. I mean they have their own opinion, so the fact that he is telling everyone makes me want to think that he is trying to beat you to the punch, he may not want you to tell others he is always staring at your butt.
Just ignore him when you don't have to work with him and if someone asks you what you think of him just say "no comment" that usually lets the person know you are not comfortable talking about this person and they shouldn't push on. Don't get involved in office politics "she said" "he said" that always causes bad feelings and dissention among the team if your work requires team work. Remember you are only there for one reason, to earn money so you can live concentrate on that.
2007-10-09 12:36:45 · answer #3 · answered by Neptune2bsure 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A few thoughts that are likely true (and possibly complete).
He's jealous (he can't get it, so he doesn't want anyone else to).
He's trying to get back at you for the "no peekie" request, which is quite "normal" to those who have relationship problems.
He isn't quite the scorer of women and he doesn't feel good about it (so at least you can feel better at taking a "its not personal" type of view, if you like).
But if his problem is making your work environment very unacceptable, you may want to tell HR (as others have already stated)...After all, "its not personal" hehe
Hope this helps a bit...
2007-10-09 12:39:53 · answer #4 · answered by grey horse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately Weirdo the world is full of insecure people. Most of them walk around looking like you and me (that is, normal. However I wonder why you call yourself weirdo?)
No secure person has a need to abuse others, be it emotionally or physically. This guy has some sort of fixation which does not necessarily have anything to do with you.
Your next step is to report his actions to higher ups. Workplace laws are in place to deal with this kind of stuff. Go to it!
2007-10-09 12:36:24 · answer #5 · answered by birdman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There will always be people who don't like you. You may find this story interesting.
A short man and a tall man would get into an elevator every day. After a couple of floors, another man would get in, and before doing anything else he would spit on the short man. After watching this for several days, the tall man asked the short man why he put up with this. The short man replied "My friend, it his his problem, not mine."
2007-10-09 12:37:34 · answer #6 · answered by Kalyansri 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever hear of comfortable work environment? He's harassing you. Go to HR. if there is no HR department, tell your boss. or HIS boss.
This is not normal behavior. He's not acting like an adult.
There are laws against this behavior, you may want to let him know this.
2007-10-09 12:33:22 · answer #7 · answered by Kathryn P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
because he got rejected badly. lol
to the people who he is trying to make them hate you just tell them what happened (if you are close to them)
anyway if you are a nice person and kind rarely anyone can make people to hate you
you just show your nice true personality and people will love you and won't care what he says
well done for telling him off. you did the right thing
2007-10-09 12:34:05 · answer #8 · answered by Confused_girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this sounds like a nut case, if he is staring at your butt and you ask him not to this is sexual harassment so you should
report him. if the upper staff do nothing you can make a call
to the sexual harassment ho line and sue the company and this guy for big bucks..
good luck
2007-10-09 12:41:28 · answer #9 · answered by cliffie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cause hes nuts. i had the same thing happen to me. Except its been going on for years and he tells people lies about me. Some people believe him too. its sick. I think he wants power over you.
2007-10-09 12:35:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes its normal for a guy to mess with u when he likes u having come back to kindergarten remember when a boy liked u he pushed u down said u had the cooties and everything its normal for a guy to play with u so just push it to him do u like me when he starts to joke then push it harder like be a man tell me that kinda stuff...
2007-10-09 12:32:55 · answer #11 · answered by Ashlee l 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋