I'm 18, just in colleage. Your probably thinking, Wow! I must be stupid. But I have a kind husband, and he has a good job, the family's going fine, and we barely ever argue. We have one baby girl named Maria (mah-ree-uh) that just turned one, and I'm expecting a baby boy that we decided to name Eric. Do you think I'm too young? Nobody else really agrees that as long as I have a good relationship with him I'm fine!
2007-10-09 04:41:41 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
i believe your too young but who am i to judge, as long as your surviving and your family is doing fine than age is no limit just remember you have not really experienced very much and your college experience is probably not what you had imagined it, is being a stay at home mom really what you want to do forever your already on your second child, at the rate your going there is not much else your going to get to be, just think about your future and your husband and what makes you happy other than that, 18 is an age, maybe your 18 going on 30 who knows whatever you decide and goodluck!
2007-10-09 04:46:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is different so to each their own! For me 18 was way too young - I was in college and has many ambitions I wanted to fulfill - so I did and had a baby when the time was right for me which was years later.
For you it might be different so no one can tell you how you feel.
The one thing I would say however, is your situation is more important than your age - you are married and have a good relationship which is a wonderful thing. But having the means to support a child or two is also a huge consideration - if you can meet that responsibility then it is your business; but if you were relying on others to help out, I could see their concerns!
At the end of the day it is your life to live how you chose!
2007-10-09 04:49:34 · answer #2 · answered by computer child 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most people who say that, first think this thought: "Wow, I couldn't imagine being 18, married, and expecting my second kid! I don't think I could do it!" And so, they apply this to you, and think because that age would be too young for them, then it must be too young for you too.
If you are truly happy, and your life is going well, then live it up! Don't listen to the ignorant. This isn't their life, it's yours! If it will make you happy, and if you can handle it emotionally and financially, have fifteen more before you turn 25! Do what you want! You haven't done anything wrong, you have nothing to be ashamed of, and you're only too young if you think you are.
Think about back when Native Americans were alone here in America. The right age to get married and have kids was generally when a girl had her first period, proving she was then a woman. People would argue that there was no school back then, and women were expected to do no more than to cook and keep the kids. Wrong. It wasn't that easy. They didn't have disposable diapers, toilets, running water, baby food, bottles, bouncie seats, baby beds, baby swings...
Back then you carried that little joker until it could walk. You washed it's diaper out in the creek! You took cold baths in a lake! You breast fed until you ran dry and then you chewed up food and spit it out for baby to eat. And girls much younger than you did it, every single day, and it was acceptable. So, why now that things are so easy, should it be unacceptable for you?
2007-10-09 05:03:51 · answer #3 · answered by ChaoticKimmy 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are taking care of your own, who cares what others think! Yes, 18 is young, but not all 18 year olds are out partying and neglecting their children. I was 18 when I had my first child, 19 when I had my second and 23 when I had my third. My husband has a great job, I'm a SAHM and I'm taking online classes. I am forever getting comments about how young I am, but you just have to ignore it. I know I'm a good mom so that's all that matters. I do agree with you, you are doing just fine.
2007-10-09 05:05:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married at 18. We are still together almost 6 years later. VERY happily married. Both of our parents were married under the age of 20 and they are still together 30-something years later.
Don't let anyone make assumptions about your life based solely on your age. The next time someone says something unnecessary about your relationship, just simply smile and walk away. I am 24, happily married for almost 6 years and we have 3 beautiful children. I'm happier than I could have ever imagined! Age has nothing to do with it. :) Best of luck with all your future endeavors!
*BTW - I also graduated from college even though I got married the spring break of my freshman year! So *raspberry* to anyone that thinks you can't do it!
2007-10-09 05:01:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are happy and doing well with your family, who is anyone to judge you. Think about your grandparents, and their parents etc. Most of this era married very young and had a family by the time they were 18, this is no different. People seem to be marrying and having families later in life, but this is not the 'norm' and should not be used to judge your desicions. If you've got your life together, good for you and I hope you and your family can be close and loving for the rest of your lives.
2007-10-09 04:58:04 · answer #6 · answered by Elle3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all congratulations on you new baby boy soon to come ....
YES you are young which is good in a way and if you have a good marriage, good hubby and as long as you continue college and graduate for a better future it is OK. Don't care what other people say .If you have a nice family and you get help and support from your hubby to continue with college then it is ok in a way you are getting ready for your future.. So continue in college and spend quality time with your hubby and babies and be the best mom you could be and so a good wife and continue wuth your good marriage and succeed in life.. Do it for you , your marriage and your kids...
I got married at 18 but wait 2 years to have my first baby then unfortunelly got divorce because he turn out to be more agressive & cheated .. so i decide to move on have my baby and after 2 yrs i got married with my now hubby we have 2 kids of our own and he is a loving , caring hubby and father and loves my daugther just like his.. So just love & take good care of Maria & Eric & wish you the best in your marriage and to finish college and get a good job in the near future...Good luck and best wiishes ever :)
2007-10-09 04:56:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was 18 when I had my son. I stayed in college, graduated and now at 29 I have a daughter and another son on the way. We have a good life. I am divorced though, but I never let me being young stop me from reaching my goals and being a good mother.
Your maturity level is what matters.
2007-10-09 07:12:03 · answer #8 · answered by A A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think your to young.. if your married, happy and financially stable then thats fine.. i am only 22 and i am happily married with a two year old little girl and we are expecting a little boy in three weeks.. and i couldnt be happier.. who are the other" People" to judge you?? you are doing better than most 30 year olds.. live your life for you and your kids not for anyone else.. and if they want to judge or talk about you let them.. its all jealousy! i have learned to let other peoples comments or beliefs go in one ear and out the other... i am happy with the way my life turned out.. and i think God makes everything happen for a reason.. now if you were still single and going out and partying and having sex they would talk about you then too... be proud of who you are.. being a mother is one of the hardest things to do.. and its sound like your a great one.. congrats on your baby boy!! and your beautiful family!!
2007-10-09 04:55:50 · answer #9 · answered by Brandy W 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm 24 married and 2 children one, on the way. and just bought our first home. my first child was born when i was 18. life is great and i could not be better. i love the way things are, though i do get the odd person with there negative opinion but that is life and if your happy and your growing family is also happy what Else could you ask for?
2007-10-11 13:57:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋