1st Grader wets his pants at home and not at school?

Question

He gets playing and won't stop and take the time to use the RR. WE have tried pullups and he stays dry, We hve taken toys away and he doesn't get upset, grounding doesn't work and we are running out of ideas.. Any suggestions?

We have tried the sweet rewards and the timed schedule as well, there are alot of things we have tried, to many to list really LOL. we have even taken him to the Dr. and counseling.. NOthings wrong that they can see I have threatened to put him back in k garden however that's taking away his education.. I can't treat him like a baby that's degrading..

Ps .. He does NOT wet the bed, he gets right up in the middle of the night and in the dark if he has to.

ty all very much, I have wanted to do what music lover said and my family makes me feel guilty about it. I am not sure what I'll do but everything was a help thank you for your insight in this matter..

Answer 1

Im sorry but I think he is just being lazy and with that said he is not too old for diapers. If he is playing to hard and not stop for a bathroom break, and grounding him or taking away his toys doesn't work, then I would definately put him in diapers no questions asked and keep him in diapers until he can stay dry for atleast a week. As soon has he gets home from school, I would tell him to drop his drawers and diaper him. Then he can play all he wants to. Let him play with his friends while in diapers and a tee shirt, I guarantee it wont last long and hey if he keeps on, then thats less laundry you have to do and he can continue what he wants to do diapered. There is no excuse for that kind of behavior. In my opinion, having him wear diapers would not be treating him like a baby either, it would be taking care of the situation since he chooses not to use the bathroom. I would definately take stock in pampers size seven diapers.

Don't worry about what other family members think, its not their child. You are the one that has to deal with messy smelly pants, excess laundry, as well as a mess to clean up in the house(floors, furniture etc.) Put him in diapers.

Answer 2

My son did this. First, make sure he goes to the bathroom as soon as he gets out of school. My son hated going at school - they had a bathroom in the classroom but he said everyone could hear him flush and it was embarrassing for him. So maybe he's holding it all day.

Second, let him know that whatever game he is playing will be there when he gets back, that everyone will pause playing and that he won't miss anything. My son hated missing tv shows (helps to have DVR) or felt like the kids were playing without him, even tho it seems like a short time to us, to the kids it feels like forever. Rewards, grounding will not work b/c it's not about those things. Also, try not to guilt him about it - who needs to pay for more therapy later on down the line.

If it helps, my son is 8 now and pretty much has grown out of this stage, but it felt like it would last forever.

Answer 3

schedule a bathroom time at home. Make him go every so often untill he get over this. Im not sure that punishment is the way to go. It can be traumatizing. And the fact that he does not get upset when toys are taken away tells me that he does not have a sense of care. Does he have any responsabliites/ chores yet? I hope this helps some.

Answer 4

When I was a teenager I used to babysit a little girl who would have accidents at home but not at school. She didn't want her friends to know she did it so she was extra careful at school. Her Mom threatened her that if she had an accident she would send her out to play in her wet clothes. She wet her pants a couple of days later and her mom really sent her out with her wet clothes on. I thought it was completely mean and can't say I would have the heart to do it but the little girl never wet her pants again. I guess if you can't take anymore you could try it. I really hope you can find a way to help him!

Answer 5

It may be he feels comfortable at home and relaxes and gets into what he is doing. Just remember he won't be doing this at 10. Try to downplay it, yet make him responsible for putting the wet stuff in the wash and getting cleaned up when it happens. Remind him it takes less time to stop long enough to go to the bathroom, than to have to clean up. He will get it.

Answer 6

At school, they have set times, I'll bet, where everyone uses the restroom. Your son isn't afraid of missing anything because EVERYONE is going to the bathroom.

FInd out what times they are going at school, and how frequently. Implement this same schedule at home. It's up to you to make sure he is getting ample opportunity to go. When he gets older, he'll get this under better control, but for now, you have to be the pee cop.

Answer 7

He may be playing a game at home called i want more attention i should know my kid gets every freaking minute of me and it still is not enough.Try to ignore the problem once and see what his reaction is and make him sit in his wet pants he will stop eventually.

Answer 8

dont put pullups on him at all. he is much 2 old

if he continues 2 wet himself just let him sit in his mess 4 a while. i pro ise he will go 2 the RR if you do so

Answer 9

My 6 yr old brother (his twin didnt though) started wetting the bed when my mum and dad got divorced we think that he was scared and after a while he stopped maybe hes scared of something at home.

Answer 10

find out when he goes to the bathroom at school, there might be specific times in the day that he goes. Then set some times at home for him to go. Make him go at those times no matter what he's doing.